Where is Buddy?

ana

The Living Force
Well Buddy is not writing since the 3rd of September, and He is one of the most active members.
Maybe He is just taking a breather.. I don’t know, but after everything that has happened, I would like to know if He is ok...

Does someone know anything about him?
 
Ana said:
Well Buddy is not writing since the 3rd of September, and He is one of the most active members.
Maybe He is just taking a breather.. I don’t know, but after everything that has happened, I would like to know if He is ok...

Does someone know anything about him?


Unfortunately I don't know it myself, but wondered this day too where he is.
Hopefully he is taking a breather.
And many other -positive- reasons can be involved too, at least so I hope.
 
Gawan said:
Ana said:
Well Buddy is not writing since the 3rd of September, and He is one of the most active members.
Maybe He is just taking a breather.. I don’t know, but after everything that has happened, I would like to know if He is ok...

Does someone know anything about him?


Unfortunately I don't know it myself, but wondered this day too where he is.
Hopefully he is taking a breather.
And many other -positive- reasons can be involved too, at least so I hope.

Maybe he is taking a breather as he did between april and june.
 
Ana, thank you for asking this. I have been wondering the same question... :(
He has not been logged in since 'September 05, 2009, 05:23:28 AM' (from my time setting).

I remember his 2 months absence before (see his post history).
http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=12154.msg87108#msg87108 on: April 12, 2009, 03:17:16 AM
http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=5700.msg91240#msg91240 on: June 21, 2009, 04:59:57 AM

Can be due to his job style?
I hope he is all right.
 
I just noticed the same thing myself, Also since this group thing is and will become very important. How is your relationship especially between all of the ‘elite’ users towards each other.

For people who been her awhile for those ‘elite users’ especially who posted many times. Is it maybe a good idea to know each others phone numbers or anything, to contact each other outside this forum. When something may happen. Those 200 dancers are important right. How to contact each other when this forum is gone or maybe even the Internet.

Being restricted at this forum we are quite limited. What if somebody will die tomorrow, would we know that?

What I am trying to say, is it maybe a good idea to take this group thing more serious in a way that we do not limit ourselves by only using this forum in a sense if something may happen. We than can contact each other by other means.

Of course that kind of information must be held secret in way that it can not fall into the wrong hands so to speak. Also knowing each other is also important. But people who had done many posts, there intentions can be more clear. Maybe some trust can be build upon that. Making the group stronger.
 
Buddy said:
Laura said:
The main thing that bothers me right now is this: even though we try to constantly give one another feedback in QFS and here on the forum, do we give enough to each other? I have read all the posts in this thread so far and know how much everyone esteemed Victoria and I also know how humble she was and how she was always surprised when someone praised her... and I feel that we did not tell her enough how much we cared.
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If you knew that it was the last exchange you were going to have with another, what would you say?

One thing that has bothered me is that when I returned to the forum after an absence for reflection due to an educational mirror, PepperFritz responded to one of my posts and ended with * By the way, nice to see you again, Buddy.

I didn't acknowledge it (or any of the others) because I was concerned with whether or not that would be considered showing a pleased kind of self-importance. Well, I realize now that I could have, and that would have probably balanced the kindness shown.

To everyone else who welcomed me back: Thank you!

I felt a special kinship with PF for some reason and now that I know I won't be able to meet her and give her a hug to demonstrate my feelings, it really hurts.

I would say that the matter mentioned in the above quote is definitely worth thinking about.

Seems his previous absence was self-imposed. Maybe he's just taking some more time off to reflect again.
 
Well I'm not Buddy (obviously), but I've noticed a dynamic of people asking where other members are. We are all mourning PepperFritz's moving out of our physical world. It is so great that we all care for each other. PepperFritz perhaps has reminded us to care for each other while we experience this path together. :)

(This is the second time I've seen this today the other one was looking for another member.) I'll look for the link.

edited to add the word ('obviously') ;)
 
I wonder where Buddy is, too. Hope he's okay. Day before yesterday I was going over the members list and deleting a lot of accounts where the individual had not posted in over three years. I wondered, as I was doing it, how many of those individuals might have died and we just didn't know about it. That seems to be the nature of cyber relationships.

In QFS, we have overcome that by ensuring that all members are known to each other by their real names, they know where each other lives, they often meet in person and have outings together, projects together which involve face to face interactions, and so on. In some cases, we have been involved in caring for ill members who had no one else to look after them (or at least, their families were overwhelmed or too distant, or whatever). At the present moment, we have an ill member who is being visited weekly by alternating members - anyone who lives within a 2 hour driving distance. In some cases, the group chips in to fly a member across the country to help another member with no one nearby. There are even several businesses that have been set up by cooperating members who work together now. The reason we knew about PepperFritz was because she was in QFS and was already involved in networked group activities. After not hearing from her for a week, it was a simple matter of a group member picking up the phone to call and find out what was going on.

That's the sort of thing that we consider to be part of true networking. But that kind of relationship has to be built very carefully because of the concerns I have posted about in this message today:
http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=13636.msg102448#msg102448

At the most basic level, forum members could send to me their real name and address and phone number and I would keep it safe and, if they "disappear" I could have someone call them and check on them.

But there are a lot of forum members who are not ready for that level of interaction, or do not want it. The forum is, as yet, still a public meeting place where there is a certain anonymity that some people like and need. And QFS still must be very protective of its members for all the reasons we know so well. One has to develop these relationships slowly and carefully. Liars and predators are everywhere waiting to take advantage of the innocent or the instinct wounded, or even just those people who believe in fairy tales about our world.

One thing we could do is to set up a little sub-forum where people who are going to be away for awhile can just post "I'm going on holiday, don't worry about me for two weeks." Others could leave instructions so that if anything happens to them, someone in their family would let us know. Those who are more alone, could send in their contact details to me in a PM with instructions about when we are supposed to get worried about them. (Like: if you don't hear from me for 5 days, something is wrong, please check.)

Finally, as I have mentioned, I'm thinking about creating a members only forum where this kind of data can be exchanged and people can more freely interact with one another in a safe environment. It's not an exclusionary club, it is just a precautionary one - taking precautions to exclude predators.
 
Oh Laura, I was crying...
Thank you for taking care of us so much.

One thing we could do is to set up a little sub-forum where people who are going to be away for awhile can just post "I'm going on holiday, don't worry about me for two weeks." Others could leave instructions so that if anything happens to them, someone in their family would let us know. Those who are more alone, could send in their contact details to me in a PM with instructions about when we are supposed to get worried about them. (Like: if you don't hear from me for 5 days, something is wrong, please check.)
I think it is a very good idea. :rockon:

Laura said:
At the most basic level, forum members could send to me their real name and address and phone number and I would keep it safe and, if they "disappear" I could have someone call them and check on them.
I will send my information. Shall I send though PM? I don't know your e-mail address though (is it on the site somewhere? Not in your profile though...). :-[
 
GotoGo said:
Oh Laura, I was crying...
Thank you for taking care of us so much.

One thing we could do is to set up a little sub-forum where people who are going to be away for awhile can just post "I'm going on holiday, don't worry about me for two weeks." Others could leave instructions so that if anything happens to them, someone in their family would let us know. Those who are more alone, could send in their contact details to me in a PM with instructions about when we are supposed to get worried about them. (Like: if you don't hear from me for 5 days, something is wrong, please check.)
I think it is a very good idea. :rockon:

Laura said:
At the most basic level, forum members could send to me their real name and address and phone number and I would keep it safe and, if they "disappear" I could have someone call them and check on them.
I will send my information. Shall I send though PM? I don't know your e-mail address though (is it on the site somewhere? Not in your profile though...). :-[


Hi gotogo,

Laura said,

could send in their contact details to me in a PM with instructions about when we are supposed to get worried about them.

So you can send her a PM.
 
At the most basic level, forum members could send to me their real name and address and phone number and I would keep it safe and, if they "disappear" I could have someone call them and check on them.

The safest way I can think would be to send it via mail (paper letter) to avoid monitoring but it would expose Laura address and it's a problem too.
 
Ellipse said:
At the most basic level, forum members could send to me their real name and address and phone number and I would keep it safe and, if they "disappear" I could have someone call them and check on them.

The safest way I can think would be to send it via mail (paper letter) to avoid monitoring but it would expose Laura address and it's a problem too.

Hi Ellipse,

I'm not sure what you mean by "avoid monitoring", but if you talk about the PTB monitoring forum members, well they already do that anyway, and can access anyone's personal information if they want/need to (not just the members of this forum, but anyone in general), so I don't think that's a problem to send one's personal information to Laura by PM.
 
Ellipse said:
At the most basic level, forum members could send to me their real name and address and phone number and I would keep it safe and, if they "disappear" I could have someone call them and check on them.

The safest way I can think would be to send it via mail (paper letter) to avoid monitoring but it would expose Laura address and it's a problem too.

Regarding your ''avoiding monitoring''.

Can you please tell me how one avoids monitoring from those in high positions? Don't you think that they already know everything about us? I am pretty sure that those in high positions with evil intentions already know everything about us.

What exactly is it that you want to avoid?
 
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