Thank you for linking that passage in regards to your vows - it has made me examine my own relationship more closely, and especially the emotions linked with it.
Yes, I've been examining my relationship more closely as well, but more as a direct result of my unconscious actions. This quote from Puzzle really hit it deep for me:
do make sure to try and disengage from the pattern, and shiftiing down a gear, because I too think that this is likely going to affect you and your partner in ways which you might not want to stir up
I already knew that I can't just let my stress leach out the way 'it' wants to when I'm very busy, but now this understanding has gained a whole new level for me. What I am doing now is the seed of what I'll collect in the future, as simple as that. When this thought hit me, really hit me, I noticed subtle changes in my relationships with others.
I had a dream 2 days ago that I think is directly related to this, although I'm not very sure of its meaning. Over the past 2 years I've had several of what I call house dreams that are described at another thread. They always either follow or precur insightful realizations.
This time I dreamt that I had moved into a new house. It was huge, and had plenty of rooms. I didn't get to see all of them, neither all the floors. I only saw the ground floor. The rooms were impeccably clean and ready for us to move into, the only thing they had, and I find this very interesting, were mirrors. In fact, the house had many mirrors, which were also impeccably clean. There was one room next to what would be our bedroom that had a gigantic mirror covering entirely one of its walls, the one right in front of the door. Again, the mirror was spotless.
I don't know...maybe this is a symbol of how taking this step in our relationship will further help to mirror our actions even more then before? Any ideas are welcomed.
You re an example for me, a younger poster, of all the right reasoning of why marry.
Thank you Iron, I do hope I'm marrying for the right reasons. It feels very right inside, but I am well (and often painfully) aware that I have a long way ahead in improving my role within our relationship. Maybe that's what this is about, it isn't perfect and there is no such thing, but you're always striving to be better, and being so close to someone really is a direct mirror of yourself, so you get LOTS of opportunities for doing some Work!
If it's not too much to ask, I hope you will post a few pics so we can celebrate with you.
Will do, but probably not in this thread
Today is our 7th year anniversary, although our friendship dates back to 1998, so we're preparing a nice dinner to be eaten soon.
Thank you again everyone, your support means a lot to me