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Firefly:
Not sure what to make of it, need some guidance and advice. I am pretty shaken up by this night’s events.

I am home alone with my 4,5 year old son. Putting him to sleep, read him some books and he asked me to stay with him for a little. All of the sudden, he becomes restless. I tell him he needs to settle down – he looks at me, his lips start trembling and tells me that he doesn’t really like me. I ask ‘What’s wrong?’ He tells me – ‘you are not my real mom’. ‘Of course I am, honey!’ – ‘No, you are not! I am not from here. I am from another planet. My real mom is on that planet’. And he starts crying. Really crying, not just make-believe crying. He gets up, says that he needs to get out of here, he needs to go home, to his planet, to his mom. He tells me he is from Mars. I try to calm him down, assure him that I am his real mom. And the poor thing just shakes his head, cries hysterical and tells me that I am nobody, his mom is on another planet and he wants to go home to his mom. When I try to get more details form him, he tells me that he fell from his planet into Earth and got into my belly when I was on a sandy beach and “covered up”, that he came to me because he “didn’t know any better”. He tells me that his brain is bigger than human brain and that’s how he remembers, he just knows things. He uses phrases and language and making gestures that are not typical for him. This ordeal lasts about 15 minutes. Finally, I decided that I am not going to pretend not to take it seriously – I know he is my son, I know who I am; I started giggling and said ‘Are you messing with me? Are you being silly, baby?’ at this point it’s like someone pulled a switch and he was back. He giggled with me. Hugged me, told me some story about what happened at his school today and fell asleep in a minute – he just passed out exhausted. I am all shaken up, go to the living room, and feel like there is someone behind me, like they can just put their hand on my shoulder. I can’t shake off the feeling that there is someone here. I try to turn the TV on to put some background noise, and it’s not working (was working just fine an hour ago). I go out on a patio to have a cigarette and that “someone” is still there, right behind me. All of the sudden I just say “Get out! GET OUT! LEAVE US ALONE!” And I felt better. Went back to the living room, try to turn the TV and it’s working fine. Not sure what to make of this whole thing, but I am pretty bent out of shape right now.

Alana:
Firefly, I don't know how to interpret your son's behavior, I wonder if he watched something related to aliens from Mars recently and/or if indeed was playing a prank on you. Could the feeling of the presence be related to the shock from the experience you had with your son?

I think the best thing to do is some pipe-breathing and the meditation tonight. It will help you recover from feeling shaken-up and also add protection from anything negative. Maybe tomorrow you can ask your son in a curious/playful kind of way, what was that all about? Just to see what he says and how he says it?

Those are my immediate thoughts, fwiw.

Firefly:
Alana, thank you for your reply! I needed some support! I am pretty vigilant about my son watching TV - he watches very little and it's only "parent approved" stuff :). What scared me the most is the fact that he was "gone" during this experience. We have a very close bond and at his age he doesn't really know how to lie yet. He can tell little lies and it's always pretty obvious. But he was hysterical! I am trying to write it off as him being tired maybe. And also, the fact that he "snapped out" of it as if it never happened. It's like I didn't know who he was for 15 minutes. Pretty scary. Good suggestion on pipe breathing - will definitely do it before going to sleep.

curious_richard:
Wow. That is a heavy story. I have some ideas, but please discard anything you do not find helpful.

It sounds to me like he had a partial "thinning of the veil". That is, he may be remembering a past life that we normally forget while we are here.

If suddenly one of my children made these claims, I think that I would tell them that this may be a real memory, but an old one. "Maybe long ago, you had a different mommy and lived in a different place. We can talk about that later if you want. But right now you are living here, this is your home, and we are your mommy and daddy now." I would probably try to calm him or her down by asking ordinary details about the previous life and comparing with how things are now. ("Is the food different? What do you do for fun? Did you go to school? What was your day like?") And maybe if I felt bold, "Did you do what you wanted to?"

I understand if you feel these suggestions are inappropriate for your case. These are just my ideas if I had to deal with the situation.

SeekinTruth:
I don't know what to make of the whole thing either, Firefly. But I agree that pipe breathing and meditation will help you.

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