I've worked in McDonalds back at my home town for around 4 years now, but since leaving the town for University in September 2013 I only have to work there during term times to keep the job, which keeps me out of my Mother's house more when I'm there!
When working there, I developed a persona that fit with the crowd, like an amplification of what my personality was like back then.. I was obnoxious, loud, cocky, 'the funny one', the one who said things that shouldn't be said, boisterous , etcetc... all those things that I've been slowly changing since moving away from this town.
Since going back last summer, people had said that I had changed etc... I actually lost a best friend from there because she couldn't accept my 'changes' or different views in the end... but I still developed this kind of personality in what I think to be an adaptive way to the situation and environment I was subjected to. It could also be that I've known these people that work there for years, and they've only fully seen me at my unconscious self and I act accordingly to their assumptions.
I'm exhibiting waves of anxiety and doubts about going back to work here, as it's a very mainstream petty job there are so many different personas in there, mostly of the sexual orientation (flirting, sexual remarks) and the kind of childish humor. It's like a massive pack of animals and they're all in their places, and then I come and jump right back into mine! it would be interesting to observe this kind of group behavior and how I fit for work purposes, but that's assuming I won't fall back into my old persona. There's even a part that's excited to go back and get into this relaxed self, but I felt uncomfortable doing so and it seemed draining back in the summer.
Does anyone else exhibit these kinds of feelings when they're going 'back' to somewhere? or just have glimpses of the old-self coming up again?
I also really don't want to see this friend, as I kind of 'crumble' when I see her and just feel so emotional as it's like we had a "connection" even though I discovered some not-so desirable traits in her. I actually get physiological symptoms! I'm scared as to make friends with her again to make it easier because last time we worked together 'non-friends' she made it so awkward and difficult for me in terms of talking to others, she basically just attacked me... or whether it'll just happen.
Am I over-thinking this? as in reality it's only for 8 days... and it may not be SO dangerous to adapt this persona to get through it?
Any comments or advice would be much appreciated!
When working there, I developed a persona that fit with the crowd, like an amplification of what my personality was like back then.. I was obnoxious, loud, cocky, 'the funny one', the one who said things that shouldn't be said, boisterous , etcetc... all those things that I've been slowly changing since moving away from this town.
Since going back last summer, people had said that I had changed etc... I actually lost a best friend from there because she couldn't accept my 'changes' or different views in the end... but I still developed this kind of personality in what I think to be an adaptive way to the situation and environment I was subjected to. It could also be that I've known these people that work there for years, and they've only fully seen me at my unconscious self and I act accordingly to their assumptions.
I'm exhibiting waves of anxiety and doubts about going back to work here, as it's a very mainstream petty job there are so many different personas in there, mostly of the sexual orientation (flirting, sexual remarks) and the kind of childish humor. It's like a massive pack of animals and they're all in their places, and then I come and jump right back into mine! it would be interesting to observe this kind of group behavior and how I fit for work purposes, but that's assuming I won't fall back into my old persona. There's even a part that's excited to go back and get into this relaxed self, but I felt uncomfortable doing so and it seemed draining back in the summer.
Does anyone else exhibit these kinds of feelings when they're going 'back' to somewhere? or just have glimpses of the old-self coming up again?
I also really don't want to see this friend, as I kind of 'crumble' when I see her and just feel so emotional as it's like we had a "connection" even though I discovered some not-so desirable traits in her. I actually get physiological symptoms! I'm scared as to make friends with her again to make it easier because last time we worked together 'non-friends' she made it so awkward and difficult for me in terms of talking to others, she basically just attacked me... or whether it'll just happen.
Am I over-thinking this? as in reality it's only for 8 days... and it may not be SO dangerous to adapt this persona to get through it?
Any comments or advice would be much appreciated!