I found that to be a really interesting watch which brought my awareness on something I would have not understood before. I remember, some years ago, judging someone I knew because he told me he had no sexual desire and didn't want to experience sex. I just thought he was a weirdo and was really judgmental. Since that day, there's been several times I've been wishing to be an asexual. :p
Summary:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgRxxls7JxI
From ASEXUALS: Who Are They and Why Are They Important?
In the documentary we have some background on the creation of AVEN, which is the Asexuality Network. A lot of them have been feeling really lonely about their condition and finding this community and others to identify with has been a great relief for them.
Somehow, it just made me think about the Forum and this same feeling I had reading other people having the same struggles I had.
However, the way sexual people react to them, and it includes LGBT community, is quite surprising and a lot of them can't process the "I have no sexual attraction" part.
Another thing is that it mess up with their intimate relationships, as most people consider sex as the ultimate build up of intimacy. They are hardly understood.
I find it fascinating to not experience any sexual desire.
Summary:
(A)Sexual follows the growth of a community that experiences no sexual attraction. In 2000, David Jay came out to his parents. He was asexual and was fine with it. And he was not alone. Studies show that 1% of the population is asexual. But in a society obsessed with sex, how do you deal with life as an outsider?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgRxxls7JxI
From ASEXUALS: Who Are They and Why Are They Important?
We have so much more to learn about asexuality.
Post published by Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on Dec 23, 2009 in Living Single
Asexuality poses a challenge to some of our most fundamental beliefs about humans and their feelings. Yet, on this topic, we are mostly ignoramuses. Many Americans regard the prevailing assumptions about sex and sexuality as universal. They don't appreciate the ways that these ideas have changed over the course of history. Even within the scientific community, the study of asexuality as an orientation is starkly underdeveloped.
Recently, I asked for suggestions for updates for the 40th anniversary edition of that classic book, Our Bodies, Ourselves (link is external). Kris suggested a new section on asexuality, and pointed readers to asexuality.org (link is external), the Asexual Visibility and Education Network. I checked it out - it is a terrific resource - and also started searching for academic papers.
The first thing I learned is that there is a startlingly small number of serious studies of asexuality. Type "asexual" into a database such as PsycInfo, and what spills out are mostly discussions of whether old people are sexual beings.
Only a few more comprehensive articles pop up. For example, a 2004 study (link is external) in the Journal of Sex Research reported the results of a national sample of more than 18,000 British residents. About 1% described themselves as asexual.
For this topic, though, what should come first is some basic understanding of what the term asexual means. The best source I found on that, and the one I will refer to most often throughout the rest of this post, is a 2008 article (link is external) by Kristin Scherrer published in the journal Sexualities. In addition to her thoughtful conceptual analysis of asexuality, Scherrer contributes some empirical grounding. With the help of asexuality.org, she recruited 102 asexuals who were willing to answer open-ended questions about their asexuality and how that related to the rest of their lives.
Here are some of the basics of what I've learned so far from Scherrer and others. I want to note, though, that our understandings may change as research and writing on this topic grows.
What ASEXUALITY Is
On its homepage, Asexuality.org defines an asexual as "a person who does not experience sexual attraction." This is a definition about desire - how you feel, and not about sexual behavior - how you act.
Beyond the dimensions of feelings and behaviors is something broader - an asexual identity. There a process of self-examination involved in identifying as asexual. Importantly, though, an identity is not just personal - it is also social, cultural, and interpersonal. Asexuals who come together on asexuality.org to share experiences are building a community. They have the potential to engage in consciousness-raising and collective action, too. Health and mental health professionals, for instance, may be a little less quick to pathologize asexuality (see below) if there is a defined group of asexuals keeping the opinion leaders on their toes.
When the 102 asexuals in Scherrer's study discussed the meaning of their own asexuality, they most often pointed to desires: They said they did not experience sexual attraction or desire. One of the participants, Jenn, said this:
• "I just don't feel sexual attraction to people. I love the human form and can regard individuals as works of art and find people aesthetically pleasing, but I don't ever want to come into sexual contact with even the most beautiful of people."
Others, though, said they did feel sexual attraction but not the inclination to act on it. Sarah said this to the researcher:
• "I am sexually attracted to men but have no desire or need to engage in sexual or even non-sexual activity (cuddling, hand-holding, etc.)."
In the documentary we have some background on the creation of AVEN, which is the Asexuality Network. A lot of them have been feeling really lonely about their condition and finding this community and others to identify with has been a great relief for them.
Somehow, it just made me think about the Forum and this same feeling I had reading other people having the same struggles I had.
However, the way sexual people react to them, and it includes LGBT community, is quite surprising and a lot of them can't process the "I have no sexual attraction" part.
Another thing is that it mess up with their intimate relationships, as most people consider sex as the ultimate build up of intimacy. They are hardly understood.
I find it fascinating to not experience any sexual desire.