This book is a quick read. I found it extremely helpful guide for me during these stressful times. It exposed a few of my hidden mental flaws. I read the out outline below every day so to help keep me weeding out my poor behavior. I hope this is helpful for others.
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What is mental health:
1. They Do not waste time feeling sorry for themselves. Exercise gratitude instead.
Conclusion:
Maintaining mental strength.
Morin, Amy. 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success Kindle Edition
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What is mental health:
- Thoughts—Identifying irrational thoughts and replacing them with more realistic thoughts.
- Behaviors—Behaving in a positive manner despite the circumstances.
- Emotions—Controlling your emotions so your emotions do not control you.
- By frequently exerting you positive/rational will over negative thoughts/behavior/emotions the more positive/rational your thoughts/behavior/emotions will become.
- Do not act like a drill sergeant but more like a friend/parent/companion.
- Do not ignore emotions but understands emotions.
- Do not treat the body like a machine but treats it like a loved-3-year-old child.
- Does not mean your self-reliant or self-sufficient but rather competent enough to ask/accept help.
- Is not being love and light but rational and realistic.
- Is not focused on being happy but strives towards full potential.
- Knows that happiness is what you give to others and contentment is what you give to yourself.
- Resilience to Stress
- Improved Life Satisfaction
- Enhanced Performance
1. They Do not waste time feeling sorry for themselves. Exercise gratitude instead.
- Signs of a pity party.
- You think everyone else is better off than you.
- You believe you are always unlucky.
- You feel you have too many problems that you cannot handle.
- You whine about how hard your life is.
- You have a hard time enjoying life and do fun things.
- You are more aware of what is wrong than what is good.
- You feel life is particularly unfair to you.
- You are rarely grateful for even the good thing of your life.
- You feel the gods are out to get you.
- Why you are prone to self-pity.
- You are a negative person.
- You are afraid of truly seeing yourself as you really are.
- You are prone to exaggerate your troubles.
- It is a way to get attention.
- You avoid responsibilities.
- It is a learned behavior from your family/friends.
- You exaggerate your importance and feel life should be easy for you.
- Negative effects of self-pity.
- It is a self-destructive behavior the intensifies the negative effects of problems.
- It is a waste of time that should be spent on solving problems.
- It breeds more negative emotions when things go wrong.
- it increases problems and accidents.
- Keeps you wound-up in the negative and prevent you from healthier emotions.
- You will fail to see the joys of life because you are constantly looking down at the darkness.
- It cast a negative shadow on your relationships.
- How to stop feeling sorry for yourself.
- Be realistic about your problems and avoid exaggerations.
- Stop negative thoughts with realistic ones
- Seek solutions for your problem and network with others who could be helpful.
- Take breaks from yourself and your problems by helping others.
- Express gratitude whenever you sense negativity.
- Do not feel or express any belief that your life is the worst.
- Do not exaggerate your problems or indulge in negative thoughts.
- Do not give up on trying to change your life for the better.
- Do not avoid getting involved in the needs of others.
- Do not harbor anger about what you do not have but rather be grateful for what you do have.
- Signs of abdication of personal power
- Easily offended by any criticism.
- Easily played by others that provoke you to anger and irrational behavior.
- You easily change your goals in life because of other people’s advice.
- Your happiness depends on others.
- You are easily guilted into doing what other people want.
- You cannot stand to have other people think ill of you.
- Spend too much time complaining about thing and people you do not like.
- Have intense negative feelings whenever you are doing things you have to do.
- Go to great lengths to avoid uncomfortable and painful feelings.
- Do not set boundaries and resent others for taking advantage of you.
- You hold grudges and avoid resolving conflicts.
- How to gain control of your real power.
- Evaluate Feedback Honestly
- What aspect of the critic is true?
- What aspect of it is false?
- Why is this person giving me this feedback?
- Is there any need to change?
- Evaluate Feedback Honestly
- Recognize your choices.
- Take back your power makes you stronger.
- You will become more crystallized by exercising your will.
- Accepting your personal responsibilities means you are in charge of your future.
- You will be able to avoid being quilted into other people’s work.
- You will control your time and energy.
- Less likely to experience depression, anxiety, anger, and resentment.
- Use positive and affirmative statements about your plans of action.
- Maintain healthy boundaries with everyone.
- Be proactive towards upcoming conflicts.
- Accept the sacrifices that you need to make to fulfill your choices.
- Eliminate toxic grudges.
- Never feel or behave as a victim.
- Never become angry or blame others that you allow to manipulate your choices.
- Never let criticisms define you.
- Signs of change avoidance behavior.
- Avoid changing bad habit by convincing yourself that it is not that bad.
- Highly anxious when dealing with change.
- You will not even try to change a bad situation because of fear.
- You rarely follow through on changes that you made.
- You do not adapt to changes that others make.
- Too lazy to even try to change.
- Your changes do not last more than a month.
- You rarely step out of your comfort zone.
- You have too many excuses for why you cannot change, and you usually blame others.
- It has been a long time since you have changed for the better.
- You will not pay the price for positive change because it’s too hard, too expensive, takes too much time, or it cuts into your fun.
- What is change.
- Types of Changes.
- All or nothing.
- Change of habits.
- Trying something completely new.
- Behavior changes.
- Changes in emotional patterns.
- Cognitive changes.
- Types of Changes.
- Five stages of changes.
- Pre-contemplation. You know you need to change but lack commitment.
- Contemplation. Making plans to change.
- Preparation. Start implementing the plans.
- Action. Activation of the change.
- Maintenance. Keep the change going.
- Why we avoid changes.
- Fear.
- Self-indulgent in comfort.
- Grief.
- Negative consequences of lack of change.
- Stuck in a rut.
- Do not learn anything new.
- Life does not progress.
- Loose ability to change.
- Other people will outgrow you.
- How to learn to accept changes.
- Analyze the pros & cons of change.
- Be aware of your emotions to the change.
- Nervousness
- Resistance
- Inadequacy
- Pessimistic
- Sad
- Guilt
- Confront the negative emotions.
- Develop a workable plan of action to the change.
- Monthly goals
- Commit to the behavior changes to meet those goals
- Expect obstacles and plan for them.
- Have accountability measures in place.
- Chart your progress.
- Fake it until you make it.
- Enjoy the strength of the change.
- Prevent failure.
- Be sure you are ready for change.
- Be realistic with your goals.
- Be sure the emotions and rational thinking are supporting the change.
- Be prepared for obstacles and go with the flow.
- Be aware of the value of the change as opposed to not changing.
- Small changes are more successful then big changes.
- Be enthusiastic about the challenge of the change.
- Be proactive not procrastinate.
- Employ your positive emotions to secure the change.
- Affirm your ability to change.
- Be aware of the positive reasons for the change and the negative consequences of not changing.
- Signs of a control freak.
- Spend most of your time trying to keep bad things from happening.
- Your angry at other people for not controlling everything.
- You think you are the only one that can fix everything.
- You believe the outcome is totally depended upon you.
- You feel you are completely able to control the future.
- Other people criticize you for being a control freak.
- You avoid delegating because other people do not do as good of a job as you would do.
- Even though you cannot do the work you resist letting someone else take over.
- If it fails, you become an emotional basket case because you feel it is your fault.
- You rarely ask for help.
- You criticize others for not being in control.
- You have difficulty with teamwork because others do not meet your standards.
- You rarely trust people and you have few meaningful relationships because of it.
- Why you try to control everything.
- You have a high level of anxiety.
- You want to be a hero
- You have a locus of control; it is your nature.
- Why you should not waste your energy on things you cannot control.
- Trying to control it will only increase your anxiety.
- It is a waste of time that could be used on more productive activities.
- It damages relationships with resulting loneliness.
- You will become too judgmental and people will avoid you.
- You will be too harsh on yourself with ever increasing guilt and unhappiness.
- How to reduce your need to control everything.
- Develop a balance and accept that bad things are necessary part of life.
- You can be a great host of a party, but you cannot control how others act at the party.
- You can teach your child how to be a good student, but you cannot make your child a good student.
- You can control how good you work but cannot make others do the same.
- You can be a great sells person, but you cannot make people buy.
- You may know what is best, but you cannot make people follow you.
- You cannot change anybody’s behavior, especially your spouse.
- Your strong will and positive attitude cannot alter gravity.
- Taking care of your health does not mean you will not have health problems.
- You can exercise good behavior, but you cannot prevent bad behavior of others.
- Develop a balance and accept that bad things are necessary part of life.
- Identify your fears.
- Focus only on what you can control.
- Accept people as they are and complement them on what is good and ignore what is not.
- Listen to what they say first and avoid saying what you want them to hear unless they ask.
- Do not keep repeating your opinions, once is enough.
- Change only your behavior and never expect others to change theirs.
- Acceptance of others is better than constant harping on their flaws.
- You gain mental power by notbeing a control freak.
- You will be happier.
- You will have better relationships.
- You will be less stressed and less anxious.
- You will have better opportunities in life.
- You will have a better chance for success.
- Ask for help before you need it.
- Focus on only the problems you can solve.
- Be encouraging of others not controlling.
- Be honest of what you can control and what you cannot.
- Do not be the hero.
- Do not take over a project because it is not being done right.
- Try to do everything because you can do it better/faster without help.
- Stop trying to figure out how to solve a problem that you cannot control.
- Never try to change other people.
- Focus only on what your abilities are to the project and do not get involved in the responsibilities of others.
- Never take credit for the outcome of a project that others were involved in.
- Signs of a people pleaser
- Feeling responsible for the feelings of others.
- Feeling uncomfortable if you think someone is mad at you.
- You are easily played by others.
- You rarely say no or voice a contrary opinion.
- You apologize for what you feel is a slight offense.
- You avoid conflicts at all cost.
- You have difficulty in telling others that they hurt your feelings.
- You tend to do what others ask of you even if you would not want to.
- You change your behavior based on what others think.
- You constantly trying to impress others.
- If people are not having fun at a party, you feel responsible.
- You want praise from others and are hurt if you do not get it.
- If someone is upset, you try to make them feel better.
- You never want others to have negative feeling of you.
- You are overburdened by other people’s needs.
- Why we try to please others.
- Fear
- Programmed behavior
- Why you should not be a people pleaser.
- Our assumptions of what others think is always wrong.
- It is a self-destructive behavior to relationships.
- We lose sight of your true values.
- People pleasing is a waste of time and has no great value.
- People pleasers are easily manipulated and disrespected.
- Other people’s attitude towards you is not your problem.
- No one can control other people’s feelings.
- You will be stronger, and others will respect you if you are your true self.
- How to avoid being a people pleaser.
- Be slow to say yes or no.
- Be self-assured
- Prioritize you values and do not let others force you to discard your prioritizes.
- Do not let others emotionally manipulate you.
- Say no when you do not have time or reason to do what others want you to do.
- Accept the discomfort of confrontations and conflicts.
- Be assertive when protecting your values.
- Do not discount your inner voice or negative feelings when asked to do something.
- Be slow to alter your schedule to accommodate the whims of others.
- Do not avoid confrontations that negatively affect your priorities.
- Do not go along just to get along.
- Signs of risk aversion.
- You have great difficulty in making important discissions.
- You talk the talk but do not walk the walk.
- Making discissions causes too much anxiety so you want others to do it for you.
- You dream of being in charge, but fear keeps you in a rut.
- You only see the worst-case scenario when make a big discission.
- You avoid risks in some or all areas of your life; socially, financially, physically.
- Fear drives your discissions.
- You have little belief in your or other’s ability.
- Why we avoid risks.
- We are too afraid or unwilling to pay the price of success.
- We make emotional, instead of rational discissions.
- We do not take time to fully analyze the pros & cons of the risk
- The problems of risk aversion.
- Nothing extraordinary will happen.
- Emotions, instead of reasoning, will dominate your decisions,
- We are more delusional about who we really are.
- We become more OCD.
- We do not understand our abilities to make changes and only expect luck to make changes for us.
- We become pry to superstition.
- We are more vulnerable to get-rich-schemes.
- We become stuck in a rut.
- We are more likely to accept other people’s decisions rather than make our own.
- We are easily influenced by media and sale pitches.
- How to maximize the success of taking risk.
- Know exactly how much the risk will cost.
- Know what the realistic benefits are.
- Know how the change fits into your priorities.
- Know it there are reasonable alternatives.
- Understand what the best- & worst-case scenarios are.
- Would it make a difference if the worst-case scenario happens?
- Will this change make any difference in five years?
- Take frequent small risks just to increase your ability to take bigger risks.
- Knowing that taking risks will make you stronger.
- Avoid emotional decisions.
- Be thorough in understanding of the risks.
- Eliminate irrational thinking that will influence your decision.
- Take time to fully understand the risk.
- Signs of being stuck in the past.
- You often wish you could redo events in your life to get-it-right.
- You have major regrets of your past.
- You often daydream of a different life by changing your past choices.
- You feel that past was so much better than the present.
- You frequently replay your memories.
- You replay your memories with different versions of yourself.
- You are constantly unhappy about your current life.
- You feel ashamed of your past actions.
- You fixate of your past mistakes and worry yourself into a frenzy because of them.
- You spend too much time on the “should-haves/could-haves” of your life.
- Why we over dwell on the past.
- Fear of change.
- It is an avoidance technique of the present stresses.
- Negative effects from dwelling on the past.
- You are ignoring the fullness of the present.
- You are unprepared for any subtle opportunities for the future.
- You will have greater difficulty in making decisions.
- You waste time on pointless navel gazing.
- You will be prone to depression and loneliness.
- You will be less likely to see a better future.
- You are less likely to take good care of your health due to the constant negative thoughts.
- How to stop the fixation on the past.
- Limit the time you spend on the past.
- Spend time with more positive activities to think about.
- Become more goal orientated to keep from falling into the past bad habits.
- Know that your past are lessons learned not life to relive.
- Be objective observer of your past not an emotional indulger.
- Observe your past from multiple angles.
- Be at peace with your past since it is the nature of being human.
- Your present is your life, your past is your lessons, your future is your dream.
- Recognize the emotional toll that is having a negative affect by focusing on the past.
- If you love yourself, you will forgive yourself, so the key is to realize the love.
- Increase positive behaviors to avoid staying stuck in the rut.
- Seek professional help is your unable to let go of the past.
- Making peace with your past will make you stronger.
- Move forward at all cost.
- If you are grieving, set up a plan with an end date.
- Always objectively review your past and avoid emotionalizations.
- Keep making peace with your past by focusing on the love.
- Do not ignore of glorify the past, by total honest with it.
- Do not fixate on what you have lost.
- Do not replay negative events of your past with resulting self-loathing.
- Signs of repeat offenders
- You usually fail for the same reason when pursuing a goal.
- You never try new ways to tackle problems.
- You do not make any resolutions because you never keep them.
- You never analyze why you never complete your goals.
- You criticize yourself because of your persistent failures.
- You do not research new ways to do things.
- You lack self-discipline.
- Doing things differently makes you more anxious than just doing the old way.
- Why we make the same mistakes.
- We were poorly educated in practical matters.
- We are stubborn about the way we do things.
- We are too lazy to take classes to learn new things.
- We are too proud to ask for help in improving ourselves.
- We are too afraid to try something differently.
- We unconsciously sabotage our successes.
- Negative effects of making the same mistakes.
- We rarely reach goals or overcome obstacles.
- We must deal with persistent problems.
- We never improve our way of thinking about what we can accomplish.
- We are never patient for dealing with difficult tasks.
- Our relationships are hampered by their frustrations with our constant failures.
- We are always blaming others for our failures.
- Ways to avoid making the same mistakes.
- Do a in depth study of each mistake.
- What are the progressive patterns of failure?
- What are better ways to handle problems?
- Do a in depth study of each mistake.
- Create action plans for repeat problems.
- Implement positive behaviors that are more successful.
- Pay attention to signs of failure.
- Take full responsibility for your actions.
- Practice self-discipline.
- Do something every day that you do not want to do to get use to being uncomfortable with dealing with problems.
- Be aware that your self-discipline is incredibly positive change.
- Keep your eye on the prize.
- Keep restrictions on your most common failures.
- Create a list of why you want to change to remind yourself when you have to restart your self-discipline program.
- Learn from mistakes.
- Mistakes are the best way to learn how to improve yourself.
- Learning is fun and it makes us happier.
- How to avoid making the same mistakes.
- Take full responsibility for each mistake and never blame others.
- Create a plan to deal with common patterns of failure.
- Pay attention to signs of impending failure.
- Increase self-discipline.
- Do not make excuses for your failures.
- Avoid impulsive behavior to problems.
- Avoid situations that you know you cannot succeed.
- Be confident in your ability to succeed.
- Signs of green envy
- You compare your wealth, appearance, social status with others.
- You wish you could afford nicer things like others have.
- You feel inferior when other people talk about some one’s success.
- You feel you are not being recognized enough.
- You think other people see you as inferior.
- You feel that no matter how much better your life becomes other people are still superior to you.
- You cannot enjoy other people successes.
- You are uncomfortable around wealthier people.
- You belittle your successes.
- You tend to exaggerate your accomplishments.
- You feel happy at successful people’s misfortunes.
- Why we are envious.
- Over exaggeration of a sense of injustice.
- Over exaggeration of sense of importance.
- Highly insecure.
- Lack of well-established values, goals, and beliefs.
- Unaware at the time, money, self-sacrifice that others made to accomplish their successes.
- The consequences of envy.
- Uncomfortable with social gatherings.
- Having few friends because of your bitter personality.
- Become angry or resentful with the obstacles to your own path to success.
- Never content with your life.
- Angry at the mundane work of life that keeps you from your perceived sense of self-importance.
- Impatient about fully develop your skills or talents because it is too hard.
- Will try shortcuts or unethical means to achieve your goals.
- My through relationships under-the-bus to become successful.
- My become an obnoxious bore trying to impress people with your achievements.
- How to reduce/eliminate envy.
- Focus on changing your own life.
- Express true happiness of other’s successes.
- Wright down your values and goals and stick too them.
- Never compare yourself to others.
- Recognize the infectious nature of the social stereotype of evil-rich and selfish-successful-people
- Never belittle your accomplishments.
- Never think other people’s lives are happier/easier/luckier.
- Never criticize other people’s things/social statue/wealth.
- Eliminate all forms of perceived injustice.
- Find ways to cooperate rather than compete.
- Be your own person.
- What are your most difficult accomplishments?
- How did you reach your goals?
- What are my talents, tools, skills, friends, wealth and how do I spend my time?
- Define your own definition of success.
- Celebrate other’s success with gratitude and joy.
- Know your true potential and your realistic goals.
- Signs of failure averse.
- Too anxious and fearful of failure.
- You have intense anxiety if you lose at a game.
- Easily quite a project if it does not go the way you want.
- You feel unlucky because you are not as successful as you dreamed.
- Your sense of self-worth is highly depended upon your success.
- You blame your failures on others or bad luck.
- You tend to avoid new skills because you detest the learning curve.
- Why we give up.
- Fear of ridicule.
- Heightened sense of self-importance with expectations of instant success.
- Exaggerated sense of abilities and skills.
- Programmed behavior from childhood to let others do the dirty work.
- Unwilling to pay the price of success.
- Consequence of giving up.
- You will never achieve anything worthwhile.
- More you give up the more likely you will never do anything worthwhile.
- You are less likely to try anything new or strive to learn new things.
- Low self-esteem.
- How to avoid the pattern of quickly giving up.
- Identify the false beliefs that causes your unwillingness to keep trying.
- Persistence is more important than talent.
- Grit is more valuable than IQ.
- Confront your sense of helplessness and keep trying new ways to overcome problems.
- Lean how failures are the best way to find out how to succeed.
- Be realistic about your abilities and your goals.
- Do not blame others of bad luck on your failures.
- Failure occur because you tried not because your being punished.
- Do not let failures define your relationships.
- Never expect instant successes.
- Never condemn yourself as a failure.
- Failures are part of the journey towards a better future.
- Realize that you can emotionally handle failures.
- Failures or more valuable than easy victories.
- It is easy to overcome failures with the right mindset.
- Never let the fear of failure keep you from pursuing your goals.
- Analyze your failure and change your methods.
- You become strong with each failure.
- Signs of fear of solitude.
- Never spend and time in contemplation.
- You are bored when there is nothing to do.
- You keep the TV or radio on for background noise.
- You cannot stand silence.
- You fear the being alone will dredge up feelings of loneliness.
- You do not do social things by yourself.
- You feel unproductive if you are spending anytime in quiet contemplation.
- If you must wait for an appointment you fill it with social media.
- When driving alone you have to have the radio on.
- You have busied your life, so you never have time for contemplation.
- Why we do not like solitude.
- We believe it is a negative behavior to avoid.
- You hated being punished as a child by time-outs.
- You believe your self-worth is dependent upon accomplishing.
- Staying busy keeps you from seeing yourself as you really are.
- You are anxious when alone.
- When your alone you become lonely.
- Negative consequence for lack of alone time.
- You are not able to get control of your time.
- You will never learn what are your true values if your too busy to contemplate what is most important to you.
- You are not able to think of new ways to do things or improve your life.
- You are less likely to fully understand others because your too busy to really listen to them.
- You do not have time to design or create.
- No time to physical and mental regeneration.
- How to love being alone.
- Turn off the noise and learn to enjoy silence.
- Turn off background noise from radios and tv’s.
- Avoid listening to music on headset/earbuds.
- While your space is quit, reflect on your current goals.
- Assess your feelings. If feeling low do deep breathing exercises.
- Take time to think about your future.
- Journaling will help strengthen your mental stability.
- Do social activities alone.
- It is the best way to learn who you really are.
- Walking alone is the best way to calm anxiousness.
- Helps to develop a better sense of gratitude.
- Meditate.
- Improves emotional and cognitive well being
- Improves physical health.
- Learn mindfulness.
- Focus on what you are doing and why you are doing it.
- Pay attention to surroundings.
- Observe the unusual. That which is unusual is often a sign.
- Observe minor details.
- Observe physical posture and vitality during your task.
- The more you appreciate silence the more you avoid noise.
- Daily contemplation helps solidify your character.
- Take long walks in nature.
- Meditating will enhance your inner experience.
- Mindfulness will help minimize accidents.
- Journaling will help understand your life.
- Keep your environment quit when possible.
- Eliminate over scheduling and rushing.
- Avoid multitasking, it often causes mistakes and accidents.
- Do not value your life on how much work you do.
- Signs of being the center of the universe.
- You think your better than most people.
- You think you already know enough and do not need to learn anything new.
- You will blame others for problems/accidents/failures.
- You believe you will be rich/famous/important.
- You are a status seeker.
- You believe you deserve to be happy and others are responsible to make you happy.
- You feel life is unjust/unfair and you should have more than you have.
- You rarely listen to what other people say.
- You believe a little work should result in greater success.
- You buy expensive things because you deserve them.
- You a quick to tell others what they should do because you feel you know best.
- Why we feel we deserve better.
- Over exaggerated sense of importance
- You believe it is a right and you are being unjustly denied it.
- You feel others have too much and they owe you your needs/happiness.
- You feel you are superior/privileged, and it is the way it should be.
- You have been overly praised by parents/teachers and now you fully narcissistic.
- Mainstream media and entertainment have warped your sense of rights.
- Consequence of selfishness.
- Lack of responsibility.
- Unable to work hard for your goals
- No close relationships.
- Persistent anger at the world and people.
- Unable to care for the needs of others.
- Easily offended and overly demanding.
- How to get over yourself.
- Recognize that you have an over developed sense of privilege.
- Feelings of deserving better.
- You feel that doing what you are supposed to do is stupid.
- Mundane jobs are beneath you.
- You are too important of a normal life.
- You are going to be extraordinarily successful person.
- You are special.
- You never do dirty work.
- Observe how the mainstream media and entertainment portrays a false reality.
- Be aware of how the unearned praise from others affect your willingness to work harder.
- Observe your laziness towards daily tasks.
- Observe how others react to your advice.
- Remind yourself that you are never as smart as you think you are.
- Understand that no one was born to make you happy/rich/famous/important.
- Understand that others think you should be making them happy/rich/famous/important.
- Understand that no one sees you the way you see yourself.
- Accept that life is not “fair” for everyone.
- Accept that no one is special or unique.
- By respond positively to disappointments it will make them less painful.
- No one deserves anything and to feel you do is a trap to unhappiness.
- Become a giver not a taker.
- Avoid being the hero in group activities.
- Focus on your efforts never feel your important.
- Accept criticisms gracefully and implement the changes willingly.
- Acknowledge your flaw and weakness as part of being human.
- Be aware of other people feelings and needs. Help others when you can.
- Never keep scores.
- Signs of impatience.
- You feel that good thing will be taken from you if you wait.
- You feel that if you do not take it now, nothing better will come along.
- You are rarely ever patient with anything.
- If you do not see immediate results you feel it is a failure.
- You want things done now, if not now then yesterday.
- You take shortcuts and overuse your tools.
- You are irritated by the slowness of others.
- You quit projects that take too long to complete.
- You never complete a long-term goal.
- You do everything fast and sloppy.
- You are always underestimating the time it takes for projects.
- Why we are impatient.
- We have been brainwashed by modern entertainment’s storylines on quick successes.
- Modern technology engenders immediate results.
- Modern life is saturated with attention grabbing options.
- Modern medicine has trained use to expect quick cures.
- Modern popular success stories are about instant successes.
- We rarely have to be patient to get our way.
- We overestimate our abilities to accomplish projects faster than it is possible.
- We underestimate how long things really take.
- Consequences of impatience.
- We experience failures and chaos because of take shortcuts.
- Too many things break because we do not take time to do it right.
- We are unprepared for the future because we can only see what we want now.
- We live a life full of unrealistic expectations and goals that we can never truly accomplish.
- We are always unhappy and angry because life just does not deliver the goods as expected.
- We sabotage our goals by not doing things the right way.
- How to learn patience.
- Commit to the long-term goals.
- Do not underestimate projects or goals, it usually takes 5x longer than you think.
- Avoid putting a time-limit on your projects or goals.
- Do not glorify the expected results of projects or goals.
- Understand that sometimes progress is not obvious or beneficial to your current needs.
- Have faith in good things will result with positive changes, even if you do not immediately benefit from the change.
- By expressing gratitude for what you have and what you can do you will become more realistic with life.
- Keep eye on the prize.
- Learn to enjoy the journey and avoid being anxious about the goal.
- Develop a plan to pull yourself out of an impatient outburst.
- Develop positive alternative reactions when feeling impatient.
- Slow down your life so you are not overspending your vitality.
- More patients less chaos and accidents.
Conclusion:
Maintaining mental strength.
- Stay aware of the positive behaviors of mental strength.
- Keep a short leash on emotions.
- Objectively observe thoughts and recognize the ones that are self-destructive.
- Exercise the above 13 behaviors to keep them strong.
