Twisted
The Force is Strong With This One
I have searched the forum for a similar topic, but found none to be exactly what I was looking for. If I have missed something, and this being a post on it's own is unnecessary, please do merge or delete.
Now, if there's one thing in the world that has always scared me, it is psychopaths, and the fact that I feel able to recognize them by the empty look in their eyes. I have always been convinced that psychopathy is something present from birth, or at least developed at a very early stage.
The reason for me bringing up this topic is that a child of a good friend of mine, to me, is showing signs of psychopathic behavior. This child is now at the age of 4 years old. The child and mother is currently living with me, and though I started seeing this behavior in him before the moving in with me, I have since then been convinced that this child is not normal, and it has also reminded me of things the mother has said her child has done, that I previously didn't put much thought into.
What I first noticed about him was the look he gets in his eyes when he is angry and doesn't get his will. The only way to describe the look, is that it is angry, black and empty. You know the expression "If looks could kill" ..
When he gets yelled at, if he doesn't get angry himself, he finds it funny. He laughs, and will make a "game" out of it, which notably, the mother sometimes will fall for.
He is usually a "bastard" as I would say, and will be up to no good the moment you take your eyes off him, but if he wants something he turns on his sweetest, most innocent voice (which I don't fall for, but his mother does)
He has also at one point taken his grandmothers kitten, put her in the toilet, flushed and stood beside watching and laughing. Just this one alone was a big, red, blinking warning-sign to me.
As I have spent some time thinking about this, going through everything in my mind to figure it out, I also remembered that I have been told by his mother that at one point, he had taken a knife (and this was one of those big and sharp ones used to slice bread) and came towards her with the knife lifted. She said that if she had not seen him coming, and been able to take the knife from him, he would have stabbed her, and she said she was "..Really afraid of my own child".
When he was a toddler, and his mother was sick, he used to sit by her in the bathroom laughing as she were throwing up and in visible pain.
I have come to the point where I am no longer able to look at this child with any love in my heart. I think I honestly dislike him, and fear what he might grow up to become.
And now for my questions.
Based on what I have written about this child, am I wrong in my conclusion that there's something wrong with him and that it is in fact just normal behavior for a child that age?
If I am right, not meaning he necessarily is a psychopath, how do I deal with it? Originally he is not my responsibility in that way, but as he now for the time being lives under my roof, I bear some responsibility in addressing the issue.
And last but not least - How do I confront the mother about it, when she herself is blind to it, and excuses everything he does with the fact that she and the childs father left each other in less than a year ago? And could this in fact be the case?
Now, if there's one thing in the world that has always scared me, it is psychopaths, and the fact that I feel able to recognize them by the empty look in their eyes. I have always been convinced that psychopathy is something present from birth, or at least developed at a very early stage.
The reason for me bringing up this topic is that a child of a good friend of mine, to me, is showing signs of psychopathic behavior. This child is now at the age of 4 years old. The child and mother is currently living with me, and though I started seeing this behavior in him before the moving in with me, I have since then been convinced that this child is not normal, and it has also reminded me of things the mother has said her child has done, that I previously didn't put much thought into.
What I first noticed about him was the look he gets in his eyes when he is angry and doesn't get his will. The only way to describe the look, is that it is angry, black and empty. You know the expression "If looks could kill" ..
When he gets yelled at, if he doesn't get angry himself, he finds it funny. He laughs, and will make a "game" out of it, which notably, the mother sometimes will fall for.
He is usually a "bastard" as I would say, and will be up to no good the moment you take your eyes off him, but if he wants something he turns on his sweetest, most innocent voice (which I don't fall for, but his mother does)
He has also at one point taken his grandmothers kitten, put her in the toilet, flushed and stood beside watching and laughing. Just this one alone was a big, red, blinking warning-sign to me.
As I have spent some time thinking about this, going through everything in my mind to figure it out, I also remembered that I have been told by his mother that at one point, he had taken a knife (and this was one of those big and sharp ones used to slice bread) and came towards her with the knife lifted. She said that if she had not seen him coming, and been able to take the knife from him, he would have stabbed her, and she said she was "..Really afraid of my own child".
When he was a toddler, and his mother was sick, he used to sit by her in the bathroom laughing as she were throwing up and in visible pain.
I have come to the point where I am no longer able to look at this child with any love in my heart. I think I honestly dislike him, and fear what he might grow up to become.
And now for my questions.
Based on what I have written about this child, am I wrong in my conclusion that there's something wrong with him and that it is in fact just normal behavior for a child that age?
If I am right, not meaning he necessarily is a psychopath, how do I deal with it? Originally he is not my responsibility in that way, but as he now for the time being lives under my roof, I bear some responsibility in addressing the issue.
And last but not least - How do I confront the mother about it, when she herself is blind to it, and excuses everything he does with the fact that she and the childs father left each other in less than a year ago? And could this in fact be the case?