foofighter
Jedi Council Member
Yesterday me and my wife had a discussion about the similarities and differences of narcissists and narcissistically wounded. Our conclusion was that the similarity was that both see themselves in everyone else, but the narcissist see others as reflections of themselves and the narcissistically wounded instead put themselves in others shoes, not as a way to feel compassion with their situation, but instead literally putting THEMSELVES in others' shoes, thereby being unable to see any form of manipulation of themselves that these other people do. The wounded would NEVER want to manipulate other people, so, putting themselves in everyone elses position, they cannot fathom how anyone else would want to. It just doesn't compute. And that is one of the main causes of continued misery for the narcissistically wounded.
The goal would then be to stop this automatic projection of self onto others, and start viewing people as separate and different from oneself, as a way to more accurately discern what is going on and why.
I think this realization makes it much easier to understand the problem for the narcissistically wounded, and begin to withdraw the projection of oneself onto others, and begin to understand that there are different people, with different points of view, some of which are not in our best interests.
The goal would then be to stop this automatic projection of self onto others, and start viewing people as separate and different from oneself, as a way to more accurately discern what is going on and why.
I think this realization makes it much easier to understand the problem for the narcissistically wounded, and begin to withdraw the projection of oneself onto others, and begin to understand that there are different people, with different points of view, some of which are not in our best interests.