My mom

Gloria54

Gloria54

Padawan Learner
And here we come to the primary issue: When we identify the fact that our energy fields are not compatible with some other individual or that there is a drain, we have the right to choose to disassociate ourselves. We have not only the right, but if we are truly seeking higher knowledge, it is a necessity.


I have identified one of my primary drains of energy (physchic vampire) as my mother. In 2010 my husband said"if I don't get you away from here,she will kill you". In my mind I think that I should feel guilty, but I don't. Is that a normal reaction?
 
Gloria54 said:
And here we come to the primary issue: When we identify the fact that our energy fields are not compatible with some other individual or that there is a drain, we have the right to choose to disassociate ourselves. We have not only the right, but if we are truly seeking higher knowledge, it is a necessity.


I have identified one of my primary drains of energy (physchic vampire) as my mother. In 2010 my husband said"if I don't get you away from here,she will kill you". In my mind I think that I should feel guilty, but I don't. Is that a normal reaction?
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My opinion here is that, as a social emotion, 'guilt' would be out of place. Apparently a lot of thought has gone into the concept of "psychic vampire" and the effort to identify such in your life, so having made a choice to disconnect from mother-as-psychic-vampire as a logical consequence, I see no reason for guilt.

But this 2 cents is based strictly on the words of your post with no other knowledge of you, your relationships, psychology, how you understand the psychic-vampire concept or anything else.
 
Thank you for your input..
I am fairly new to this forum, but been a seeker for some time. My story would fill many volumes and it is similar in a great many ways to what I have been reading in these works. Same song different verse. A lot of different physical ailments, very strange episodes...etc. I began seeking in earnest around 1982 when I was twenty-seven. I have a strong background in astrology and some other branches. Inherent in all this searching was a nose for determining when I was on the wrong track which was most of the time. In fact I had just about given up on the idea of finding the truth when I stumbled across these works! I began to notice that when in the company of certain people that I would leave the encounter very diminished in energy . That is when I started searching into the concept of physchic vampires. I tried the crossing of ankles and hands to combat this drain with little success. I identified those that were casual acquaintances. Easily remedied. The ones in my family are another matter. My mother and my youngest child,my son, are the the main drains.
This knowledge has been my dark night because of the love I have for both of them. They share a great many of the same traits. No amount of attention and praise is enough! The problem of my mom has had the most detrimental effect though. I have been able to cut the ties with my mom with the help of my brothers who also recognized that the way that she interacted with me was not the same as how she interacted with them (fundamentalist Christian..only males have worth etc.)together they have taken on her care without me with no complaint..they are super! Now I am trying to find a way to interact with my son..
 
Gloria54 said:
Now I am trying to find a way to interact with my son..
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How old is your son? And how are your interactions with him currently?
 
My son is 39..and it is a mess. It is very complicated. He is involved with a married woman who is his step brothers best friends wife. He wants approval. Not going to get it! At the same time I have not condemned it! However I guess non approval is the same as condemnation in his eyes! I told him that he is free to choose but at the same time that choices have consequences. Not what he wanted to hear..so I am now "the enemy"
 
Gloria, you said earlier that you have studied the topic of psychic vampires, but have you also looked into narcissistic dynamics and relationships within families? In particular the Big 5 Narcissism books recommended on the forum?

Myth of Sanity - Martha Stout
The Narcissistic Family - Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert M. Pressman
Trapped in the Mirror - Elan Golomb
Unholy Hungers - Barbara E. Hort
Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of Our Age - George K. Simon

If not, that may seem like a lot of reading, but in particular the Narcissistic Family and Trapped in the Mirror provide incredible insights into how these inter-generational feeding dynamics occur, continue, and most importantly, way's on how to heal, repair, or at the last resort level, separate ourselves from harmful relationships.
 
Thank you..no I have not read any of these works.
I will do so ASAP..currently reading The Wave and Secret Histories..
So far The Works are not raising any internal flags as most does..
It is looking more like I have found my niche
 
Guilty because you are protecting yourself and intern your husband and other people you interact with? Recognize her for the machine that she is. If you are civil with her and there if she absoluty needs help and no one else can help her what is there to feel guilty about? You werent put here on earth to be attached at the hip with your mother you shouldn't feel guilty about gently distancing yourself and living your own life in pursute to be the best person you can be
 
Gloria54 said:
My son is 39..and it is a mess. It is very complicated. He is involved with a married woman who is his step brothers best friends wife. He wants approval. Not going to get it! At the same time I have not condemned it! However I guess non approval is the same as condemnation in his eyes! I told him that he is free to choose but at the same time that choices have consequences. Not what he wanted to hear..so I am now "the enemy"
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It sounds fair to me. He is free to make his choices, but you are also free to have feelings and make your decisions based on your own values and choices. It sounds like the situation he is involved in might "explode" at some point. You are wise to keep your distance from the whole thing, I think.
 
You are right. I fear that the "explosion" will not be good. It is distressing and I can't help but note that all this came up at about the same time that I discovered the Cassiopaens work. So I can't help but think that it is designed to distract me. That may sound narcissistic and I know that it is not always about me, but the timing here and this against his personal morals..I call hmmmm
 
You definitely shouldn't feel guilty at all, I completely understand what you mean.
My Mum was such a huge drainage on my life, and still tries to be!
I understand the sadness you feel, "Why is my Mum like this? shouldn't she accept all my life choices and encourage those that make me happy?"
But they clearly have unconditional love for us on their own selfish needs.
Stay strong!
 
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