In light of the last C’s session about sharing reading and learnings, I’ve decided to share something.
There is one thing about the male characters that hasn’t permeated any new understanding for me , yet. I’m hoping I’ll get there.
I find it incredulous that the men love these women so deeply. I feel like it is the most foreign thing to me. Intellectually I understand men as being capable of loving but my lived experience is not this. I have a total cognitive dissonance in this matter when I’m reading these stories.
I’m totally lost with it, I’ll just keep reading I guess. I feel like I have lived with a broken heart my entire life.
I am also a slow reader and I also felt that I can't sit in a stretch more than 1 hr for books like 'developmental trauma'. Part of me thinks I should analyze every line, correlate it , But, brain tires out or gets distracted for books like 'developmental trauma'.But the issue is that it is still far from the quality of the real audiobooks, like Audible, and it definitely can't replace the experience of reading. The reason that I decided to also listen to the books this way, is because I am a slow reader, and since I have up to two hours of reading before bed, I manage to cover up to 4 chapters. And listening gives an opportunity to listen while doing other things, but primarily while sitting in front the computer. My work at the moment does allow me to divide attention this way, because in many cases it is already almost automatic.
It was brought to my attention that this kind of listening doesn't invoke the necessary level of emotions, like it would while reading or listening to Audible. It is certainly true, but even while listening to the basic text-to-speech software (I listened to five chapters so far), I already chuckled in places, and was able to empathize with what Callie and Nicky went though, or specifically their reactions and responses.
It's interesting this comment, I have read many books from Mary B since I like how she write about many aspects of the characters, in the beginning I felt weird when the sex come in the reading, but suddenly was part of all the process the expresión of love between two persons who were dealing with many things and get together to express their most deep feelings or connection, which make me understand how important is to connect when you have a relantioshinp not only emotionally but in many areas.Yup. In the beginning, the bed scenes may grab your attention, and they are a real part of life that needs to be faced, reacted to, thought about, but as you continue they become more "naturalized", so to say, less disturbing, and you begin to pay more attention to nuances of characters and dialogue and emotional - even spiritual - reaction. That is to say, you begin to put things in their rightful place. Sex is important, but it is only part of the whole relationship deal. And it has been interesting to me to observe how the different authors write their sex scenes, generally making them character specific. In that respect, I was always able to tell a lot about a person by the way they drive a car and here, it seems that you can tell a lot about a person by the way they have sex/make love. And the authors know that and most of them take some care to attend to that aspect. You can even observe the growth and development of the character by changes in the way they make love. Also, even if the person is acting out of true character because of wounding, sometimes who they truly are comes through in the way they make love.
So, all in all, it is a real education in so many ways.
I found the fourth had a very profound affect on me and left me feeling slightly discombobulated for a few days(in a good way). It occurred to me how programed we are to constantly anticipate rewards for the actions we take, and how letting it all go truly provides growth in many ways.
I thought of trying a new author, Laura Kinsale and My Sweet Folly which I bought at discount with other two books of this trilogy Regency Tales. I didn't find the other two books from trilogy on the Romance Novel List spreadsheet though, are they worth to read?
Ok that answers my question.The books are not connected in any way, so I would only recommend My Sweet Folly.
Real men don't need instructions!
But since it was mentioned...
Where is this possibility in Kindle to put the Romance list? How to do it?
That was was very interesting, indeed. It also shows that the desire to love freely sometimes needs a lot of trial and error:
I got a bit annoyed at Peregrine, for example, because even though he was trying to apply what you quoted, "For love cannot take anything for itself. It can only give and leave itself wide open and defenseless against emptiness and pain and rejection", and that was noble, sometimes I thought he took it too far. Like when Grace goes and shows him the letter from her ex the selfish rake. That was obviously her asking for help, and wanting to be open about the whole thing. Instead, he preferred to let her do her own thing. I thought that was a bad move, because he wasn't really much help. But then, he learns how to do it better, and SHE finally learns that the past is not a chain, that she must fight for what she wants in the present.