Setting an Aim...Having a goal.

Menna

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G talked about having an aim setting a goal and doing what is so to achieve this goal/aim. What does not serve the aim one does not get involved with and what does serve the aim one is involved with. Sounds simple enough and theoretically straight forward. This post is not to make a point but to share experience and what I have intellectually mixed with emotionally gleaned from living life with different aims from 19yrs old to now 33. I have had 4 aims/goals over the past 14yrs. Each goal/aim lasting anywhere from 3-5yrs.

After 14yrs of living through aims and goals I have come to surmise that this way of living recommended by G for me not the most efficient way to live but is an exercise where one can learn about themselves and intern learn who they are, what wants are superficial or A influences.

After one aim wether completed or not I had an experience where I learned something about myself, life, body and gained wisdom. Then I was off to the next aim after 3-5 years of experiences focused on the aim I was off to the next one learning along the way.

After my last aim I have realized that there are certain childhood or anchor emotions in me that have stayed through my 14yr aim reaching lifestyle. These emotions have not stayed at the forefront with persistency but they have always been within me while others have faded away for good so far out of memory.

Setting aims and goals and orchestrating ones live around a goal or aim is a great way to learn about yourself it’s a great exercise. You are able to work on different skills, emotional and intellectual disciplines and see your misconceptions.

There will always be aims in life such as going out to the supermarket to get food for dinner or driving to work, however at this point in the post I think you can read I am not talking about those temporary daily aims I am talking about aims where you sacrifice certain life pleasures, emotions, wants and so on for achievement to fulfill a wonder or a temporary want.

Over the past 14yrs I have gained a lot of knowledge about life, myself and my interaction with life, however focusing on an aim for 3-5yrs at a time I believe is not the best way for me at this point to interact with life I want to be more open and less restrictive or cut off from the universe. Maybe in a way that’s my next aim to be more open to the things I have discovered are true within me since early on. To be true to the self I have rediscovered. I also have more faith in life and how it will work out so I want to be open to this maybe eat it guide me more than I have in the past.

It is interesting that after certain work related exercises or experiences I am reminded of thoughts, smells and feelings of childhood. I would like to live in a state closer to how I was when I was in adolescence, obviously protecting myself with the knowledge I have today but mentally I need my thoughts to be more pure, open and curious and at the same time staying vigilant with the wisdom gained from the work and my life experiences
 
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You! Young Man, i have been thinking about your post since i read it on sunday.

I want to thank you for sharing this, im almost 50 and i fail with goals. i think that if i said if actually really wrote it down and tried, the falsetto of who i think i am, would just shatter me.
I lie to myself and others, daily. i must 1st stop lying.
Impressive, thanks again for sharing your process, i have been a miss- Jordan Peterson said, man my age with no family no job, no woman, no property, and alcoholic.

Can i ask what is your next goal? i have experienced, aimlessness, i dont know what i want, i scared to death to write it down.

thankx so much
~Stevie
 

Joe

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There will always be aims in life such as going out to the supermarket to get food for dinner or driving to work, however at this point in the post I think you can read I am not talking about those temporary daily aims I am talking about aims where you sacrifice certain life pleasures, emotions, wants and so on for achievement to fulfill a wonder or a temporary want.

Over the past 14yrs I have gained a lot of knowledge about life, myself and my interaction with life, however focusing on an aim for 3-5yrs at a time I believe is not the best way for me at this point to interact with life I want to be more open and less restrictive or cut off from the universe. Maybe in a way that’s my next aim to be more open to the things I have discovered are true within me since early on. To be true to the self I have rediscovered. I also have more faith in life and how it will work out so I want to be open to this maybe eat it guide me more than I have in the past.
Ideally, people involved in the 'Work' would have a kind of 'meta goal' that permeates everything else they do, including smaller more mundane goals. That 'meta goal' would, I think, be something along the lines of having a strong desire and motivation to understand the deepest truths about life and reality. If you think about it, such a goal would make all of your daily interactions and experiences so much richer, because you would naturally be focused on seeking the most truth in any given situation, regardless of how simple it is.
 
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Joe, thank you!

You say so much in 4 sentences, i am still decompressing, an un packing what you write.
Yeah!
You are describing a goal, whre i fall entirely short. Meta means many, and i just know am learning.
I am responsible for everything i do, so im follow jordan peterson for a minute.
He says make today a little bit better than yesterday, and to only compare yourself with your yesterself.
and Meta does help me, i just wanted to know you to know i got your back.
 

SlipNet

Jedi
Interesting posts here on this thread. I'm struggling a bit in this regard at the moment, meaning that I'm trying to pull all my interests and activities into a more coherent whole, in the way Joe described above. I don't think it's a particularly difficult undertaking, I just need to put a bit more effort in this year, because last year ended so terribly with the death of my elder brother, leaving me pretty depressed over Christmas and New Year.

I need also to make more of an effort with all my social contacts, I've been very withdrawn since last November. Enough of the hermitude, I need to get out more. I'm in danger of stagnating so I'm going to arrest the slide now , before things slip any further.
 

nicklebleu

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Sorry to hear about your brother, SlipNet. I think focussing on knowledge is a good way of warding off the funk. And a few years ago I was in a similar situation, being a full-time hermit. Going out and socialising, without any anticipation served me well, too. My focus was on finding out who others were, or to put it in another way, putting the emphasis on others, away from myself.
 

Jones

Jedi Council Member
I'm wondering if having aims/goals no matter how big or small basically sets up an internal 'stop' alarm clock like the Gurdjieff exercise. If so I think it helps if the aims/goals are very well defined and it basically reinforces the idea that it's not the aim/goal itself that is most important, but the striving to attain the aim/goal. Then of course is the choice as to whether the aim/goal chosen is in alignment with STO or STS.

That brings up another question though - do STS graduate to 4D because they have such a dogged determination to pursue their selfish aims/goals?
 

Elohir

Jedi
That brings up another question though - do STS graduate to 4D because they have such a dogged determination to pursue their selfish aims/goals?
I would say that each candidate wants to gather information and truth about our reality. In fact, if I well understood the concept of graduating to 4D, one has to learn his 3D lessons and learning passes through getting knowledge, especially on this density level.
Then, comes the reason why we want all of that, our "metagoal" as said Joe in another topic, a main purpose wich guides our action.

Finally, I think that we could say that the answer is yes, indirectly. This is not THE reason why they graduate. They did it because they learned enough but they did it for what we'd call "bad reasons".

The SDS who graduates wants knowledge to improve his domination, power, control, richness. It reminds me that famous expression "Information is true power".
At some point in the graduation system, SDS beings seem to be blocked because they cannot see things as they really are but do it as they want it to be (Wishfull thinking). Nevertheless, for the 4D, SDS can graduate because they simply learn their lessons while they "pursue their selfish aims/goal"...

Thank you.
 

Ambrose's Spirit

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Sodajax, it sounds to me like tackling your deep seated underlying fear is as good first, Joeian, overarching objective as any. If successful in this to any reasonable degree, I would expect a lot of your current life-holes as you see them to strat fill up and fixing "themselves" as a direct result, especially so substance dependence and fear of rejection and intimacy, which in turn leads to other holes you described.

I suspect you are still in the claws of some deeply embedded form of PTSD. But I aint no pro here, just an educated guess.

Good luck, honest brother. May your own Force learn how to be with you.
 
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