A Disturbance in the Force
I totally agree that it most probably is a pre-incarnational choice, but so is heterosexuality - and his way of stating the issue just struck me as judgmental/ill informed and, quite frankly, rather stupid. Personally, I know that I could not understand 1/10th of what I understand about being human if I were not in this most maligned minority. Knowing from a very young age that I was not only different from everyone else I knew, in this most central of issues, (face it - from the time you're old enough to hold a doll or watch a Disney movie, you're told that you are waiting for Prince Charming - that marriage and children are the goal of your life), but that this difference would subject me to hatred and discrimination from complete strangers. This gave me an extra window of understanding on the injustices and cruelty of which humanity is capable. Luckily for me, I was also born with a sharp wit, and a genius level IQ - so I learned quickly and well that as long as other people saw something in me that they could relate to (the humor in my case) that they were more likely to just leave me alone instead of beating me up psychologically or physically. My sexuality has taught me volumes about other people and myself. It has taught me that love, real love, is never easy to come by in this world, but I know that lesson can also be learned in many other ways. Basically, being born gay and female in 1966 to an upper middle class family in America led to an extremely interesting life path, filled with awe, pain, love and, very often, solitude. That's okay, I wouldn't have it any other way; I'm lucky enough to be a woman and still get to love women - we're amazing creatures and in some small way, I feel really lucky to have had the chance to do what I've done and be who I am. Although my sexuality does not define that, it has definitely added extra facets to my life.hkoeli said:Could it not be a pre-incarnational choice? What if lamasing had said that being born middle-class "seems to fulfull a need, a choice within certain people." If we accept karma (say, atlantean karma? holocaust?), this makes sense on a certain level. People (like the Palestinians) sure as hell won't think "well I really did choose this life of abject poverty and suffering," but it seems to me to be a choice of lessons. A few paragraphs down, lamasing says "Homosexuality can be caused a number of ways. Often it is karmic." What I got from this is that:
1) homosexuality is often karmic (what isn't?)
2) for 'certain people' it is a choice (perhaps even a conscious one in rare cases)
3) for non-OPs, at least, it wouls most-likely be 'chosen' in 5D
4) for OPs, perhaps the more 'mechanical' explanatios apply, like parents' karma
What do you think, Anne?
Yep, I've no question that sex can lead to attachments; anytime one person energetically opens that completely to the energies of another person, it seems that they are rolling out the red carpet for any attachments hanging around. If you add to that the situations in which one of the people involved is an OP, well then not only do you have a feeding frenzy going on (no wonder no one else has ever made you feel 'that way' - you just had a deluxe buffet of my energy!) - well, then you have more than one recipe for disaster. It is a tricky tricky thing.Laura said:I certainly knew from experiences with hypnosis that sex was one of the major ways of getting attachments, so that part certainly interested me.
We published an article on Signs the other day about some studies that showed that the chemistry of the mother and whether or not she had had several boys already could influence a subsequent child to be homosexual. It was also pointed out that it was partly genetic and could "run in families." That DOES tend to support the part where Lama Sing says in some cases "homosexuality is the result of imbalanced sexual energies of the parents which causes an imbalance to the entering soul." This study related specifically to boys and nothing was said about women, but I expect that something similar can be the case with women. Reading this study is quite compelling for understanding that it is not a "choice" in the sense of just up and deciding one day to be gay.
Also, I've read much information on the mother's previous child bearing and its possible affects to sexuality. I think that they may be on to something with that. My mother miscarried a little boy about a year before she conceived me and before the miscarriage, she had given birth to my older brother. So, basically, she had conceived and carried two little boys before I came along. It was all those 'boy germs' I tell ya!! Seriously, though, it may well have been. I have a little sister as well and she is straight, but not 'fru fru' at all - rather like she's one step away from me on the boy/girl continuum. The oldest sister in the family, the first born, is very 'fru fru' - so if you just took a case study of my siblings and their birth order, that alone would correspond with these studies mentioned. Overall, it's just another few pieces of data to add to the rest, I suppose, and no real conclusions could be drawn from my single situation.