When you wake up with a song in your head (request for clarity, knowledge and advice)

[Noctu]

This morning, Monday, 12 May, 2025, I woke up with the partial chorus of a song in my head.

As it often goes with my memory, I tend to remember about 70 to 80 eighty percent of the correct lyrics of the refrain.

I'm not a native English speaker but I learned English since I was 5 or 6 through watching The Simpsons in the mid 1990's and reading the Dutch subtitles.

What I remembered, next to the melody, was: "nobody gonna na na na, na na na slow na down, oh no, I got to keep on moving".

That was enough for me to do a Google search and find the song: "Break My Stride" by Matthew Wilder.

I haven't listened to it yet, as I wanted to look up the meaning, and it's a positive-feeling song, which I felt, too, when the lyrics came into my head.

"Break My Stride" is about a girl leaving Wilder behind as she is moving on to further adventures.

That's exactly what happened on Thursday. My girlfriend broke up with me. And I found myself in denial, and negotiating, wanting to be with her still. We still have contact now.

I have some questions:

Did my emotional feeling state precede the popping up of the song and is the memory through association caused by my feelings? Or is it rather vice versa where the song causes my feeling state?

I feel it's the latter. If so, who or what is causing me to hear this song in my head? Is it my own subconscious, my higher self, help from STO beings?

A more paranoid part of me, I'd say, suspects it's put into my head by STS beings.

Apart from that, I'm wondering if the song has programming in it. Is this particular song a mind-control programming song? I don't think so but what do I know?

Furthermore, is this a message to move on myself as well? I'm afraid STS influences wanted this outcome of us being apart and I'm afraid I'm going to make a mistake by not having contact with her anymore and moving on.

I also see a pattern where romantic intrests of mine are not sure, doubting, saying we're not meant to be together, where I am sure or want to be sure to have what I want, i.e. a relationship. Is this a low self-worth issue, where I find myself not worthy enough to be with a woman who sees me as her man the same way I see her as my woman?

I'm afraid what I want might be too STS, and at the same time neglecting my own needs and desires seems to be punishing myself in a way.

My conclusion for now is to let her go, try and release any attachment to her, and to go for a period of no-contact. If she initiates contact after that I can see how I feel and without anticipation or expectations see if she wants to be with me.

I don't think it's a good idea to be friends as I want more.

Any thought on anything I shared? Any reflections? Any advice? Any insights? Any anything?

 

[Mrs. Peel]

My partner wakes up with random songs going through his head lots of times, he jokes that he's tuned into some Cosmic radio station that plays bad music. I wouldn't read anything too much into it, the lyrics may just have been somewhere in your subconscious and got nudged out.

As for letting your girlfriend go, if that is what she wants then you should respect it. This is a pattern of yours, maybe you come on too strong or appear too needy?

Sometimes people will say after a breakup, let's still be friends. Cpuld just be something to say to soften the blow of rejection. No sense to keep hanging around the person if they are not interested in you in the same way. Maybe going forward, make it clear from the very start that you were looking for a serious committed relationship, if indeed that is what you want.

 

[3DStudent]

I get random songs in my head sometimes and often think in song lyrics. So sometimes the song is just an indication of my emotional state. You're probably emotionally vulnerable and so may have some overactive pattern recognition, but others might have better relationship advice.

 

[Learner]

First, I am sorry to hear about the break-up. As it's still very fresh, it will need time to process, depending on how long you both have been together. Don't rush anything. But I agree with Mrs. Peel here to not seek contact as you still want more from her while she only wants to be friends, according to her saying. Keeping your distance will help with you with processing the break-up.

Maybe the popping up of the song is part of the current processing? We pick up on a lot of music indeed, be it on the internet, in cafés, at your heardresser, in stores, ... there're just so many possibilities. I for one have much music popping up in my head, also due to happening to work at a concert hall (where sometimes more contemporary music is being played as well, next to the classical stuff). (Right now one of Chopin's "Nocturnes" is playing in my head, for example. I recently heard it at work.)

If you want to share more about your break-up, you can also open a thread in the Swamp area where people will listen and give you some tailored advice.

 

[zak]

Any thought on anything I shared? Any reflections? Any advice? Any insights? Any anything?

There is a great similarity between a break-up and the death of a loved one, except that in the case of a break-up the loved one is still alive, but we have to accept that he or she will no longer be present in our lives.

In this thread, there's this video that may be useful.

I had a climbing buddy who, when he was stressed in a tree, used to sing... or rather shout out an Annie Cordy song, ‘Tata Yoyo’, and I can tell you that the whole team sang it at the end of the day, whether we wanted to or not!

 

[spheric]

Thanks for sharing Noctu, otherwise I wouldn't have shared that I also had the exact same experience around the same time.

It's a very positive uplifitng song (especially the chorus) keep moving forward, don't let anything get you down, take action. reading your msg is a nice reminder we are connected. I was dealing with stress things, work etc, lots of pressure BUT just like you I seemingly received this msg at the right time, to stay positive.

I did do some research about the artist and found the origin quite interesting. Also the youtube comments for the song have people with the same experience been happening for years, maybe it's been happening ever since it entered the collective.

“Wrote stride in a fit one afternoon came pouring out of me in a 30 minute shot”

 

[Basque Seeker]

I have some questions:

Did my emotional feeling state precede the popping up of the song and is the memory through association caused by my feelings? Or is it rather vice versa where the song causes my feeling state?

I feel it's the latter. If so, who or what is causing me to hear this song in my head? Is it my own subconscious, my higher self, help from STO beings?

A more paranoid part of me, I'd say, suspects it's put into my head by STS beings.

Hi Noctu,

Just few ideas from here:

- What if indeed this came from your higher self foreseen the situation? If it helped for a probably hard moment, it could be a good indication in that direction.

Furthermore, is this a message to move on myself as well? I'm afraid STS influences wanted this outcome of us being apart and I'm afraid I'm going to make a mistake by not having contact with her anymore and moving on.

- What I think STS forces want is basically you in pain, weakened, powerless; what I understood from your words is that this wasn't your case after receiving this message.

- My own advice with breakups is 'better not to force anything nor anyone'. Just let others be and continue their path as you will continue yours.

Take care!

 

[Bastian]

This morning, Monday, 12 May, 2025, I woke up with the partial chorus of a song in my head.
As it often goes with my memory, I tend to remember about 70 to 80 eighty percent of the correct lyrics of the refrain.
(...) That was enough for me to do a Google search and find the song: "Break My Stride" by Matthew Wilder.
I haven't listened to it yet, as I wanted to look up the meaning, and it's a positive-feeling song, which I felt, too, when the lyrics came into my head.

FWIW, I've experienced for time to time to awaken with a melody, or more rarely a song lyrics, in my mind.
Generally it's in resonance with my inner state, and particularly emotional humor.

But sometimes it's more precise.
Once, several years ago, after two days really special of hiking on a "sacred" mountain (and fasting for a day), I awakened from a night under the stars with the melody and the chorus of an uncommon 70's song from Quebec (that I already knew), with a quite specific story, which then was (symbolically) in resonance with my life/relationships.
That song helped me to understand my situation differently, even if it went not well after that.

I have some questions:

Did my emotional feeling state precede the popping up of the song and is the memory through association caused by my feelings?
Or is it rather vice versa where the song causes my feeling state?

Why not both ways ?
One's emotional and mental states are both reflections of inner self.
Anyone has already observed that emotions do impact the mental mind, but just by thinking about some mental images can trigger emotions too.

I feel it's the latter. If so, who or what is causing me to hear this song in my head? Is it my own subconscious, my higher self,

I would say yes, that's your unconscious (or maybe "overconscious") mind sending a musical message to your conscious mind, just as by the images or stories of night dreams.

help from STO beings?
A more paranoid part of me, I'd say, suspects it's put into my head by STS beings.

I would suggest not to overanalyze or speculate too much here.

What's the symbolic message of this song ? How does it resonates with your own life now ?
And that's it.

 

[axj]

FWIW, I've experienced for time to time to awaken with a melody, or more rarely a song lyrics, in my mind.
Generally it's in resonance with my inner state, and particularly emotional humor.

I wake up with song melodies quite often too and it does seem to be similar to dream messages in emotional language (music is mostly about feelings). Maybe sometimes there is a symbolic message too, similar to dream imagery.

It sometimes seems helpful to listen to a recording of the song or melody that I wake up with.