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Offline melatonin

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Best book to understand Gaslighting
« on: May 20, 2017, 09:23:22 AM »
Hi there,

Im looking for a book that explains gaslighting really well. Its for me and my Dad.
My mum abused me as a child, along with her siblings.
ts a big family secret they have kept well by using group gaslighting.
Their gaslighting, and pretending nothing happened/excluding me, is probably the last biggest hurdle I have in healing (My dad was also manipulated by them).
At some level...I still find it hard to believe myself.

So im looking for a really good book about gaslighting.  Any help would be very much appreciated!

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Re: Best book to understand Gaslighting
« Reply #1 on: May 20, 2017, 09:35:34 AM »
Hi there,

Im looking for a book that explains gaslighting really well. Its for me and my Dad.
My mum abused me as a child, along with her siblings.
ts a big family secret they have kept well by using group gaslighting.
Their gaslighting, and pretending nothing happened/excluding me, is probably the last biggest hurdle I have in healing (My dad was also manipulated by them).
At some level...I still find it hard to believe myself.

So im looking for a really good book about gaslighting.  Any help would be very much appreciated!

The term stems from the film Gas Light which is free available on youtube so maybe apart from the recommended books about psychopathy it's useful to (re)watch the film to get better understanding?
Overhead the albatross
Hangs motionless upon the air
And deep beneath the rolling waves
In labyrinths of coral caves
An echo of a distant time
Comes willowing across the sand
And everything is green and submarine.

And no one called us to the land
And no one knows the where's or why's.
Something stirs and something tries
Starts to climb toward the light.

Offline Meg

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Re: Best book to understand Gaslighting
« Reply #2 on: May 20, 2017, 03:30:48 PM »
Hi there,

Im looking for a book that explains gaslighting really well. Its for me and my Dad.
My mum abused me as a child, along with her siblings.
ts a big family secret they have kept well by using group gaslighting.
Their gaslighting, and pretending nothing happened/excluding me, is probably the last biggest hurdle I have in healing (My dad was also manipulated by them).
At some level...I still find it hard to believe myself.

So im looking for a really good book about gaslighting.  Any help would be very much appreciated!

There is a book called "The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life" by Dr. Robin Stern. I read it a few years ago and thought it was excellent.

https://www.amazon.com/Gaslight-Effect-Survive-Manipulation-Control/dp/0767924452

George Simon's book "In Sheep's Clothing" is really good too.

https://www.amazon.com/Sheeps-Clothing-Understanding-Dealing-Manipulative/dp/1935166301
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Re: Best book to understand Gaslighting
« Reply #3 on: May 20, 2017, 05:16:11 PM »
Another good one is: The Empathy Trap: Understanding Antisocial Personalities by by Jane McGregor and Tim McGregor.

The authors also had an interview on SOTT Talk Radio: https://www.sott.net/article/270014-Behind-the-Headlines-The-Empathy-Trap-Understanding-how-predators-manipulate-peoples-strengths-and-weaknesses
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