A young girl needs help!

cassandra

cassandra

The Living Force
FOTCM Member
Quick background:

I have a 16-year-old daughter going through the nightmare that is the German education system. I'm afraid she was rather spoilt and pampered by us, but she used to be a merry and funny if extremely headstrong girl.
She went to a very academic school, but overwhelmed by the workload and not a fan of hard work, and picked on by the teachers, she was failed two years and had to leave.
She, unknown to us began smoking marijuana every weekend at the age of 13.
We started her at another school, and paid a lot of money for private education, because we were wary of sending her to a state school, which are known for being extremely tough, and I had heard too many horror stories about the system to want her to go through it.
We wondered what had happened to our happy little girl. She would spend all day if she could in a darkened room, watching TV, never going out, and being absolutely horrible to us.
Eventually, after months of (yes, expensive therapy) we discovered she was experiencing hallucinations due to a bad reaction to the drugs she had taken, causing psychosis.
She was difficult at the expensive skool, which was run by a narcissistic businessman. Not worth the money.
Anyway, she really improved towards the end of the year, but it was too little too late, and she was asked to leave.
She is now in a state school, which turned out to be an improvement on the last ones, and is fairly happy, and on the right track. She doesn't touch any drugs, including alcohol.
I haven't mentioned that almost every teen she knows has at some stage tried marijuana, a lot smoke it on a regular basis.
 
Sorry, this is turning out longer than I thought.
The reason I'm posting is that a girl in her school is in a very serious situation. This girl has just turned 16, and is going through a similar experience to my daughter, except her parents are not only misguided like we were, but have not given her any support.
Her parents are from Turkey and are divorced. Her mother lost custody of her daughter due to drug use and this girl who used to come to the morning lessons high, was put into a home. She acted out during lessons a few times and when the school discovered the problem, they insisted she attend therapy. (She steals mobiles to fund her habit.)
A couple of weeks ago, she woke up to discover her boyfriend's twenty something friend raping her.
Today my daughter heard she had been thrown out of the home due to bad behaviour and will be deported to another home, somewhere in Turkey on Monday.
My daughter says she is not all that bad. In fact, she is very sweet most of the time, and bright.
Her mother can't do anything and her father, a strict Muslim approves of the fact that her daughter is being sent to a strange place without friends or family.
We are going to try to do something, but the situation seems bleak.
My request is that maybe you can remember her in your prayers tonight at EE.
 
Hi cassandra, it sounds indeed very bleak and also good to hear that your daughter is doing better!

cassandra said:
We are going to try to do something, but the situation seems bleak.
My request is that maybe you can remember her in your prayers tonight at EE.
Click to expand...

There was also a discussion about praying for other people:
http://cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php/topic,10724.15.html

As long there is no anticipation it should be fine to pray for her.
 
cassandra said:
Sorry, this is turning out longer than I thought.
The reason I'm posting is that a girl in her school is in a very serious situation. This girl has just turned 16, and is going through a similar experience to my daughter, except her parents are not only misguided like we were, but have not given her any support.
Her parents are from Turkey and are divorced. Her mother lost custody of her daughter due to drug use and this girl who used to come to the morning lessons high, was put into a home. She acted out during lessons a few times and when the school discovered the problem, they insisted she attend therapy. (She steals mobiles to fund her habit.)
A couple of weeks ago, she woke up to discover her boyfriend's twenty something friend raping her.
Today my daughter heard she had been thrown out of the home due to bad behaviour and will be deported to another home, somewhere in Turkey on Monday.
My daughter says she is not all that bad. In fact, she is very sweet most of the time, and bright.
Her mother can't do anything and her father, a strict Muslim approves of the fact that her daughter is being sent to a strange place without friends or family.
We are going to try to do something, but the situation seems bleak.
My request is that maybe you can remember her in your prayers tonight at EE.
Click to expand...

Hello cassandra,

Your daughter's friend's situation sounds bleak indeed. In case your daughter would like to pass it on to her friend, terre des femmes in Germany offers counselling and assistance: _http://frauenrechte.de/online/index.php/beratung.html

I hope they can help.
 
Update:

The girl got in contact with us yesterday. I told her I would try and sort something out. We had several conversations.
She said she had been thrown out of the home (which is illegal) and was now on the streets.
I called around to see what could be done, but since her father is willing for her to be sent to Turkey and she has consistently behaved badly at several orphanages (she said she had been robbed by the kids there and maltreated), there didn't seem to be much else to be done except go to her father until Monday where she would be flown to Turkey.
I did not invite her to stay with us, because I was wary of having her around my 9-year-old.
We tried to call her, but she did not pick up her phone. Then a lady called to say they had found her phone and a few personal possessions including cigarettes - an ominous sign. Who would leave their phone and cigarettes lying in the open?
My husband and elder daughter went to pick up her phone and look for her and ended up reporting her missing to the police. Apparently, no one had heard from her.
Well who knows what really happened? It was bitterly cold and wet last night. I hope she found somewhere to stay.
I wish I had at least met up with her and fed her. If I had asked her to come over, I would not have had the heart to ask her to leave and leave us open to all kinds of trouble.
 
I'm not surprised she didn't go to her father and wait to be shipped off to Turkey... Since her experiences in the German orphanage were so bad, I suppose she'd hardly trust things would be any better in a Turkish one. Also, if she's a legal resident of Germany, her father has no right to do that in the first place. I hope the police will find her.
 
Unfortunately, the father is allowed to have his daughter sent to Turkey. She has duel nationality, so I hope she will be allowed to return eventually. She sounded desperate, poor mite, but she has also been a trouble-maker and a drug user and has been banned from several shelters already.
Hope she's OK, but I don't have a good feeling.
 
She just spoke to my daughter, saying she woke up in hospital after collapsing last night near to where we live.
Her father went to see her and was able to give her some reassurance and hope (seems he isn't all bad). It turns out that she will most likely only be sent to Turkey for a short while, where she can recover and contemplate (hmm). Then she will be allowed to return and complete her education. Yes!!
I hope this turns out to be a wake-up call and lesson learned. My daughter says she is often very sweet and quite good at school, so let's hope for the best!
I said she can always contact us.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Trending content

Back
Top Bottom