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My daughter has been suffering from depression for several years. There seem to be a number of reasons for this: one of the major ones is that she has a condition known as hyper-hydrosis which is excessive sweating. I have tried a number of remedies for her: acupuncture, diet, and a device that provides mild electric shocks to the nerves of the hands which seems to work to a certain degree. I have watched several videos with her in which people with this issue express how profoundly they feel shame and embarrassment in social situations. Acupuncture seemed to work, but it takes many treatments to have an effect as do the electrical shocks delivered by the device I bought for her.
Her reaction to stress is avoidance. This took the form of first cutting school, and then dropping out entirely. Despite her profound self-consciousness, she has many friends who want to see her and whom she avoids, and she has refused to date anyone because she is anxious that some remark will be made about her hands.. She is uncomfortable around people her own age and spends most of her time at home. She has a job taking an eight year old bringing him to school and chaperoning him to soccer practice, supervising his homework and babysitting when the parents go out. Before that she worked in a bakery, and after that an ice skating rink.
I was really happy that she was ice skating as she loved it. But some of the people at the rink sent unkind texts about her to each other, and she became depressed and after the job ended she never skated since.
She is too depressed to exercise, and has not been able to follow any dietary protocol always reverting back to sugar, and wheat based products. She has seen several therapists, but has never followed their recommendations.
A few weeks ago, her friend's mother gave her the name and contact information for a psychiatrist. My daughter has always wanted to take medication and I've always said no. The mother who gave my daughter the contact info for the psychiatrist put her daughter on meds at a very early age. I remember that when this friend was about 8, she kept threatening to kill herself at my daughter's birthday celebration. She kept insisting that I give her the knife to cut the cake, and I kept saying no. It was awful. She was under the table, then she was wrestling me for the knife. At the end of that awful occasion, she told me that it was a good thing that I hadn't given her the knife because if I had, she would have killed herself.
I don't understand why, with all the friends my daughter has, she has chosen this one to have the most influence on her. I guess many parents are bewildered by there children's choice of friends.
My daughter is now twenty, but I do think this parent should have consulted me before offering my daughter the psychiatrist's number.
I have a friend whose entire family has needed to take medication, and she spoke to me at length about what might happen with certain classes of drugs.
She was very concerned as she herself has had tyroid damage and feels that the chemicals have so altered her brain chemistry that she will never be able to stop taking them.
As my daughter is working and has her own money, there is really nothing I can do. She really sees anti-anxiety medication as the answer to all her problems.
My daughter's reaction to anything I say has always been very oppositional from a very early age. For me, the best tactic will be to keep my mouth shut and let go. At least that would allow our relationship to survive. It's very hard though. I started the breathing exercises, and am working on my diet to help me through this.
The one thing that I was able to convince my daughter to do was to look up some of the side effects of the family group of, I think they're called SSRIs. They have a number of side effects one of which, ironically enough, is hyper-hydrosis.
Her reaction to stress is avoidance. This took the form of first cutting school, and then dropping out entirely. Despite her profound self-consciousness, she has many friends who want to see her and whom she avoids, and she has refused to date anyone because she is anxious that some remark will be made about her hands.. She is uncomfortable around people her own age and spends most of her time at home. She has a job taking an eight year old bringing him to school and chaperoning him to soccer practice, supervising his homework and babysitting when the parents go out. Before that she worked in a bakery, and after that an ice skating rink.
I was really happy that she was ice skating as she loved it. But some of the people at the rink sent unkind texts about her to each other, and she became depressed and after the job ended she never skated since.
She is too depressed to exercise, and has not been able to follow any dietary protocol always reverting back to sugar, and wheat based products. She has seen several therapists, but has never followed their recommendations.
A few weeks ago, her friend's mother gave her the name and contact information for a psychiatrist. My daughter has always wanted to take medication and I've always said no. The mother who gave my daughter the contact info for the psychiatrist put her daughter on meds at a very early age. I remember that when this friend was about 8, she kept threatening to kill herself at my daughter's birthday celebration. She kept insisting that I give her the knife to cut the cake, and I kept saying no. It was awful. She was under the table, then she was wrestling me for the knife. At the end of that awful occasion, she told me that it was a good thing that I hadn't given her the knife because if I had, she would have killed herself.
I don't understand why, with all the friends my daughter has, she has chosen this one to have the most influence on her. I guess many parents are bewildered by there children's choice of friends.
My daughter is now twenty, but I do think this parent should have consulted me before offering my daughter the psychiatrist's number.
I have a friend whose entire family has needed to take medication, and she spoke to me at length about what might happen with certain classes of drugs.
She was very concerned as she herself has had tyroid damage and feels that the chemicals have so altered her brain chemistry that she will never be able to stop taking them.
As my daughter is working and has her own money, there is really nothing I can do. She really sees anti-anxiety medication as the answer to all her problems.
My daughter's reaction to anything I say has always been very oppositional from a very early age. For me, the best tactic will be to keep my mouth shut and let go. At least that would allow our relationship to survive. It's very hard though. I started the breathing exercises, and am working on my diet to help me through this.
The one thing that I was able to convince my daughter to do was to look up some of the side effects of the family group of, I think they're called SSRIs. They have a number of side effects one of which, ironically enough, is hyper-hydrosis.
