Call to Canadians - NETWORKING

[thethirdpath]

Hello all, and particularly Canadians. ENFJ Networker and Team Leader personality type here. Western Canadian.

I've just come off of about 5 months of deep self-work/shadow-work/introspection/reflection. Its been a tough one, since I am a super extroverted and generally love large crowds, concerts, noise, interaction, comedy, work, play, and so on. Nonetheless its been useful. But its over. 5 months is enough ("ENOUGH!" He yelled at the clouds, listening to the reverberation echoing across the heavens). I am sitting here in the Mountains in a town with 5,000 people....so that's a scene I am changing actively.....

Now, I'd like to start really challenging the Canadians on this forum. I've heard plenty of people say they are from the Country and indicate they are interested in Networking. Now I am calling you all out, so to speak, in a fun and jovial way.

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Networking is NOT just about picking up a phone, or blogging on a forum, or sending emails. It is also about gathering in physical space. Canucks are a shy people, oh yes...and as someone who has been to every Province and been to every single major Canadian city (usually several times) I can say its a very very shy place overall. Time to crack out of the shell, Canucks!!!!

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I will get in my vehicle and drive to ANY Canadian within 1,000 KM who is a member of this board. Thats right, I am willing to spend hundreds of dollars to meet you. I don't care if the drive is 4-8 hours. I don't care, I will do it. Naturally, we would want to develop a rapport first, make sure neither of us is totally insane, and ensure that everyone would "get along". Once that is established, lets gather. Frankly the introversion and shyness of the National character of this Fair and Sparsely Populated Muskeg & Moose Nursery has bugged me since I was a small child (this is why I've spent time travelling and studying the world, which just makes me want to travel more).

I have no criminal record, love long form conversation and am a very naturally giving individual. You will laugh a lot, trust me, and we will learn from each other. If you'd like I will bring musical instruments, books (massive personal library....massive), or any number of other things. Plus I gots da crystals. Want to go hiking together? Done. Hunting? Done. Exploration? Done. Spiritual Exploration? Done. Whatever you feel is fun, I do it. Bikes, ATV, Silence, Loudness, Outwards/Inwards, Surf/Swimming, Trees/Desert/Forest/Lake/Ocean/Snow I don't care, lets just get it done....together.

Reach out, I am open to you. It will be entertaining. Open to flying as well. Fearless.

Much Love,
TTP

 

[Aeneas]

Hello TTP, I gather that you are keen to meet, but we do not really encourage private pm's or emails or private meetings, especially for very new members. This is to protect members from negative feeding dynamics. We encourage to share on the Forum here, where there are more eyes to see what is presented and thus give input seen from many different perspectives.

You have only been here 5 days, so perhaps learn about what we do here and let us get to know you first. It would help to familiarise yourself with the search function and there you will see all the topics which have been and are being discussed and where you might feel to give your input.

 

[thethirdpath]

Hello TTP, I gather that you are keen to meet, but we do not really encourage private pm's or emails or private meetings, especially for very new members. This is to protect members from negative feeding dynamics. We encourage to share on the Forum here, where there are more eyes to see what is presented and thus give input seen from many different perspectives.

You have only been here 5 days, so perhaps learn about what we do here and let us get to know you first. It would help to familiarise yourself with the search function and there you will see all the topics which have been and are being discussed and where you might feel to give your input.

Oh yes? I am aware of this and these dynamics. Although I am new "here" yes, I am not new.

So how do individuals meet each other in real space then? What is the mechanism, the time-line and rules? This seems contrary to Networking 101.

Thanks

 

[Aeneas]

So how do individuals meet each other in real space then?

Who says they do on this Forum?

This seems contrary to Networking 101.

Perhaps you will enlighten us on what is Networking 101?

 

[cinnamon]

Oh yes? I am aware of this and these dynamics. Although I am new "here" yes, I am not new.

So how do individuals meet each other in real space then? What is the mechanism, the time-line and rules? This seems contrary to Networking 101.

Thanks

I have a bit of a silly question for you, since you're not new - how does somebody near you that you'd like to meet know that you aren't some kind of crazy person?

Back when I was turning tricks, it was commonly understood that people (okay, men) who were professing things like 'no criminal record', 'will drive for hours and spend gobs of money to meet you', "you'll love hanging out with me", and the like were extremely dangerous predators; entertaining men like that is how escorts wind up dead. This sort of discussion of how predators act has been a long running feature of SoTT and this forum (I'm slow and had to learn the hard way) - but, again, you say you're not new, and yet you give off red flags that people here know to look for.

Would you kindly respond and reconcile the above?

 

[thethirdpath]

Who says they do on this Forum?

Perhaps you will enlighten us on what is Networking 101?

Who says they don't? Simple Logic - Has anyone met in real-space from this forum? Is the answer zero percent? If it is any greater than 0 percent, then yes, social link-ups from this forum do happen. I'm all ears.

Networking 101 - The connection of nodes to other nodes. Connections can be logical or physical (or spiritual it seems). Applies to technology, philosophy, language, spirit, and beyond.

Ex 1 - "Bro, I just networked some Ethernet Passive Optical Network from our NAS to the head end server! I'll bet we have the thruput now so we don't choke down like we did during the back-up last week!"
Ex 2 - "Oh hi hon! Its so good to see you after your business dinner! Did you get any networking done there? Any new contacts you think will help in personal or business?"
Ex 3 - He read hundreds of texts as the years went by, networking from one authors recommendation to the next, putting the pieces together, enjoying the Journey every step of the way. Some of his favourite authors each recommended dozens of other authors. As a bibliophile, the long march of knowledge was both beautiful and satisfying. As always there were more questions than answers.....
Ex 4 - It was a difficult day. Jane had been calling all day for Fred's local Municipal Election Campaign. She was an excellent Networker, sending flyers, making endless phone calls, emails, and so on. More networking was surely needed, and she knew within a week they would launch their door-to-door campaign, knocking on doors and shaking hands. Pressing the flesh, so to speak. It was a difficult volunteer position, but she felt Fred's policies were worth exposing to the community. At least there were the gala dinners, where her hard efforts to Network in-person would really pay off.

Many thanks!
TTP

 

[thethirdpath]

I have a bit of a silly question for you, since you're not new - how does somebody near you that you'd like to meet know that you aren't some kind of crazy person?

Back when I was turning tricks, it was commonly understood that people (okay, men) who were professing things like 'no criminal record', 'will drive for hours and spend gobs of money to meet you', "you'll love hanging out with me", and the like were extremely dangerous predators; entertaining men like that is how escorts wind up dead. This sort of discussion of how predators act has been a long running feature of SoTT and this forum (I'm slow and had to learn the hard way) - but, again, you say you're not new, and yet you give off red flags that people here know to look for.

Would you kindly respond and reconcile the above?

Completely understandable. This is where the rapport building comes in. ZOOM is handy, feeling one another out is good. Messages back and forth, and a sense of knowing through time. We read much through facial expression, eye movement, and other important tells. Writing style does matter as well, and the content of the message. Sometimes sincerity "bleeds through", but the written word is still a bit clumsy.

Sorry to hear about the predators, and I've done plenty of reading on the horror stories and I can definitely empathize. Everyone works at their own path and no one is forced to know anyone else. Everything in this world is an option, and no one is compelled.

Reconciliation happens through exploration. Naturally, its happening right now as we communicate here.

Thanks!
TTP

 

[Aeneas]

Networking 101 - The connection of nodes to other nodes. Connections can be logical or physical (or spiritual it seems). Applies to technology, philosophy, language, spirit, and beyond.

I think the Forum here is a testament to the power of Networking and as you mention yourself above in your Networking 101, it does not have to be physical.

As for meeting people physically and drive 1000 km to just say hello chat to someone that you don't know, sounds a little desperate.

Why go on a blind date, when it is possible via online networking to share and see if you have anything in common? That counts from all people involved and again one on one meetings is not recommended for all the pitfalls associated with it as @cinnamon also mentions. Get to know us and let us get to know you. For that the Forum is the perfect vehicle.

 

[thethirdpath]

I think the Forum here is a testament to the power of Networking and as you mention yourself above in your Networking 101, it does not have to be physical.

As for meeting people physically and drive 1000 km to just say hello chat to someone that you don't know, sounds a little desperate.

Why go on a blind date, when it is possible via online networking to share and see if you have anything in common? That counts from all people involved and again one on one meetings is not recommended for all the pitfalls associated with it as @cinnamon also mentions. Get to know us and let us get to know you. For that the Forum is the perfect vehicle.

We are in precise agreement. This is why I am active here, and am completely interested in all networking. All.

Who said blind? I sure didn't.

Discernment is critical. But if you risk nothing in throwing out who you are, then you gain nothing.

We are in precise agreement.

 

[Beau]

Discernment is critical. But if you risk nothing in throwing out who you are, then you gain nothing.

Why risk anything and "throw out who you are" (a curious turn of phrase)? Take time to settle in, let people get to know you and vice versa. You haven't been on this forum for more than a week, and while you've gone around to other forums looking for Canadians, here we tend to be very cautious of newbies who want to meet in person immediately. So you may find that there are not enough "risk-takers" here.

 

[thethirdpath]

Why risk anything and "throw out who you are" (a curious turn of phrase)? Take time to settle in, let people get to know you and vice versa. You haven't been on this forum for more than a week, and while you've gone around to other forums looking for Canadians, here we tend to be very cautious of newbies who want to meet in person immediately. So you may find that there are not enough "risk-takers" here.

- Because it is low risk, and now you know who I am, at least initially. Now we can go ahead and learn about each other. As we learn, we plug in further information into our own respective "discernment engines" and allow various conclusions to evolve.
- Be cautious! As we should all. I have a personality typology/archetype, and so do you.
- If it takes a month, a year, or a decade to meet another Canadian from the forum, thats lovely. The time-frame doesn't concern me.

Thank you!

 

[Aeneas]

I will get in my vehicle and drive to ANY Canadian within 1,000 KM who is a member of this board. Thats right, I am willing to spend hundreds of dollars to meet you

Who said blind? I sure didn't.

True, I used that word, but what you wrote above sounded just like blind dating. You are willing to drive 1000km to any member of this board who is a Canadian. Really? Why? Is there something about being physical together with somebody that is important? Even somebody you don't know and who doesn't know you? Sometimes being physically present can be a hindrance as our visual impressions can color our ability to see. Networking is about sharing ideas, observations, impressions so to help each other to dispel delusions and twisted perspective which we have about ourselves and the world we inhabit. Networking, sharing and getting feedback to our thoughts can help us to rid ourselves of our little 'i's and to better be able to see reality more objectively.

 

[thethirdpath]

True, I used that word, but what you wrote above sounded just blind dating. You are willing to drive 1000km to any member of this board who is a Canadian. Really? Why? Is there something about being physical together with somebody that is important? Even somebody you don't know and who doesn't know you? Sometimes being physically present can be a hindrance as our visual impressions can color our ability to see. Networking is about sharing ideas, observations, impressions so to help each other to dispel delusions and twisted perspective which we have about ourselves and the world we inhabit. Networking, sharing and getting feedback to our thoughts can help us to rid ourselves of our little 'i's and to better be able to see reality more objectively.

- I am willing to travel a long distance, once discernment is established, in order to Network personally. Driving long distances is also "normalized" for me. Several years my annual drive was 50-70K annual. Yes, annual.
- I have contacts in every province in Canada, this is normalized for me. Love cross country drives.
- Yes, being physically in proximity to people is important. It is not the only, but it is one-of-many ways in which networking is achieved. As previously discussed.
- Anyone who wishes to get-to-know can, and at their pace. It may be slow or fast depending on the two, or three or four, yes?
- Agreed on all else.

Many thanks!

 

[whitecoast]

Hi thethirdpath. Seems you really want to network with western canadians. Is there anything in particular that you want to network about? Because there's a lot of threads available to discuss whatever it is that is important for you right now in your life, and with everyone on the forum instead of just people in a certain geographical area. Depending on what your actual needs are the particular people who happen to live around you may not be the people with whom you should be networking. Maybe it's about prepping, or maybe it's about the romantic reading project, or maybe it's about The Wave and other books, or maybe it's about current events.

Some advice I got was that you need to figure out two things in life: firstly where you're going, and secondly who are you going with? And if you mix up the order of these things then you get into trouble. This has been found repeatedly to be true here, hence why the approaches given above are taken. You've made an offer in your opening post, and people have responded with asking that you just participate more in the regular threads or starting new ones. If you've put spending hundreds of dollars and hours of travel on the table as an offering, just being a regular participant and gaining knowledge and sharing your views and experiences is much more modest ask, although in ways it does ask more of us than just dropping time and money into something.

 

[Beau]

Based on what you've written so far, you have made yourself known as someone not to be trusted and not to meet. Just to give you an idea of how you come across, you are giving off a con artist vibe, especially with your eagerness to isolate individuals from the rest. You may call that "networking 101" but it's actually more comparable to predatory behavior.

I am willing to travel a long distance, once discernment is established, in order to Network personally.

In your earlier post you simply said "I will get in my vehicle and drive to ANY Canadian within 1,000 KM who is a member of this board. Thats right, I am willing to spend hundreds of dollars to meet you." There is nothing in there about "establishing discernment" first. You're moving the goalposts.

I have contacts in every province in Canada, this is normalized for me. Love cross country drives.

What may seem normal to you - meeting strangers from the internet - is pretty abnormal for the majority of people.

I have no criminal record, love long form conversation and am a very naturally giving individual. You will laugh a lot, trust me, and we will learn from each other.

Anyone who basically says "you can trust me I swear, I have no criminal record" sounds like they are selling a little too hard. Best take your wares elsewhere.