Chinese parents force 4-year-old child to run naked in snow

[Regulattor]

This video made me cry and mad at the same moment! In spite of years educating my self here, on this forum about human psychology, that is psychopathy I couldn't watch this clip. After initial shock I'm now so mad I could bite my desk board and chew it completely how outraged I'm! Doing this to your own child for me as a father of three girls is beyond any explanation. There was even a man passing by, not even to turn his head or god forbid, to say something! And I'm wondering myself why this world is in such a mess. Poor little boy.

_http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iORoPWwtM2s


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[Laura]

Re: Chinese parents force 4-year-old kid running naked in snow


I agree it's sick, but there ARE worse things than this. But then, if this is what he shows the public, those worse things COULD be going on too.


http://english.eastday.com/e/120207/u1a6348829.html

Dad makes boy, 4, run nearly nude in snow
2012-02-07 09:06

A father's harsh parenting has aroused wide controversy after a video was circulated online showing his nearly-nude four-year-old son running in snow.

The boy, Duo Duo, was running with only a pair of pants and trainers to combat the morning temperature of minus 13 degrees Celsius in New York, where the family from the eastern Chinese city of Nanjing spent their Spring Festival holiday.

The 44-year-old entrepreneur trained his son to run in the freezing weather for five minutes and do push-ups despite the boy's trembling and cries for a hug.

He uploaded the training footage online and dubbed it the "eagle dad" parenting approach, the Yangtze Evening News reported yesterday.

Young eagles learn to fly when their mothers expel and drop them from their nests on cliffs. They learn to survive through cruel tests, and the fierce parenting method is also suitable for kids, the father surnamed He said.

His unusual parenting philosophy has ignited discussion on the Internet, with some agreeing on the eagle way while others worried about the health of the little boy.

"You are torturing your child." "Why didn't you run with your son naked too? You are crazy!" "The child can't be spoiled but needs to be loved!" were some of the comments.

It was not the first time Duo Duo went through such militaristic training. To improve his health, He worked out a scheme to train his weak son, a premature baby with a series of complications.

He has arranged eight-hour daily excises for Duo Duo, including swimming, mountain climbing, bicycle riding and martial arts. He told the newspaper these schemes started after his son once went hiking with him for 14 days, with a daily walking distance more than 10 kilometers.

"Duo Duo stayed in the hospital for two months after he was born. But since then, he was in perfect health and never sent to hospitals," the proud father said.

Besides, his strict family education created a miracle, with the boy's IQ reaching a genius-level 218, enabling him to advance to primary school, the father claimed.

 

[Slow Motion Mary]

I'm all for physical activity, but this is extreme for a young child. Looks like dad could write a book, "How to Create a Psychopath in Four Easy Steps." This is another child I'd like to see in about 20 years.

 

[Graalsword]

Even if it's true that his IQ got high and his health improved, this harsh spartan training will likely create serious emotional problems in the child.

 

[Chu]

Even if it's true that his IQ got high and his health improved, this harsh spartan training will likely create serious emotional problems in the child.

Unfortunately, when living in China and giving language lessons to some very young children, I noticed that this seemed to be more and more common over there. They have so many after-school activities and training and this or that, that they are exhausted and quite sad. One 13 y.o. student was particularly depressed. The saddest thing is that, when the parents are so determined, there is nothing you can do, apart from making their time with you not seem like "another lesson", and have fun and let them express their feelings. But I doubt they will ever be happy with so many restrictions, competition and this obsession with over-achievement for the sole sake of overachieving in something. :(

 

[Slow Motion Mary]

[quote author=Ailen]
Unfortunately, when living in China and giving language lessons to some very young children, I noticed that this seemed to be more and more common over there. They have so many after-school activities and training and this or that, that they are exhausted and quite sad. One 13 y.o. student was particularly depressed. The saddest thing is that, when the parents are so determined, there is nothing you can do, apart from making their time with you not seem like "another lesson", and have fun and let them express their feelings. But I doubt they will ever be happy with so many restrictions, competition and this obsession with over-achievement for the sole sake of overachieving in something. :(
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This is how it is in the U.S., too. My sister and I are raising two children, now 8 and 12. We've been doing this about five years, and when the youngest was in kindergarten I visited his classroom. There was no where to rest your eyes! The window curtains were drawn and patterned with the alphabet, and there were diagrams and ABC's and stuff on every single surface of the classroom--walls, doors, ceilings. In addition to the extra-curricular activities, it's no wonder children are over-stimulated and quite frankly, sometimes crazed. Also :(

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[Bobo08]

Even if it's true that his IQ got high and his health improved, this harsh spartan training will likely create serious emotional problems in the child.

Unfortunately, when living in China and giving language lessons to some very young children, I noticed that this seemed to be more and more common over there. They have so many after-school activities and training and this or that, that they are exhausted and quite sad. One 13 y.o. student was particularly depressed. The saddest thing is that, when the parents are so determined, there is nothing you can do, apart from making their time with you not seem like "another lesson", and have fun and let them express their feelings. But I doubt they will ever be happy with so many restrictions, competition and this obsession with over-achievement for the sole sake of overachieving in something.

This is the norm in many developing countries, the so-called "dragon" and "tiger" countries Children as young as 6 stay in school from 7am to 5pm. When they get home in the evening, they will have to do homeworks for at least another 2 hours. Weekends, more studies and extra-curriculum trainings to fill all the time available. Even in school holidays, teachers would make sure to give them enough homeworks to cover all the vacation... That's heavy schedule even for adults. For young children, it is insane :(

I don't think it is all about parents pushing their children to over-achieve for the sole sake of overarchieving though. Many parents in Vietnam (my original country) actually understand that it is not a good thing for their children and have been calling for the study load to be reduced year after year. But all the government did was making some superficial changes. Everything stays the same, if not worse after each of their education improvement programs. Also, the entrance exams to universities are so competitive that there would be no chance of getting into a good university if the students didn't follow that insane schedule to cram all the materials in their heads, materials that will be useless later in their lives.

I think it's all set up to be that way. Just as the education system in the US is set up to produce self-centered, narcissistic students, the education systems in the developing countries are set up to produce neurotic, depressed students. Can't leave any place that a semblance of normal education exists.

 

[cassandra]

My daughter went to a really good kindergarten. Twice a week they would go to the woods, the river or help on a farm.
They also got plenty of attention and affection there, who were very dedicated. It was managed by the parents and, so we had a say on what went on.
She's also happy at school. They have to work really hard , but the staff care about the kids, make sure they also have fun, and that makes all the difference, so not all is hopeless over here in Germany.

 

[Chu]

This is the norm in many developing countries, the so-called "dragon" and "tiger" countries Children as young as 6 stay in school from 7am to 5pm. When they get home in the evening, they will have to do homeworks for at least another 2 hours. Weekends, more studies and extra-curriculum trainings to fill all the time available. Even in school holidays, teachers would make sure to give them enough homeworks to cover all the vacation... That's heavy schedule even for adults. For young children, it is insane :(

Geez... and the sad thing is that often, that doesn't include any creative activities, but mostly a lot of parroting.

I don't think it is all about parents pushing their children to over-achieve for the sole sake of overarchieving though. Many parents in Vietnam (my original country) actually understand that it is not a good thing for their children and have been calling for the study load to be reduced year after year. But all the government did was making some superficial changes. Everything stays the same, if not worse after each of their education improvement programs.

That's terrible. They really want robots...

I think it's all set up to be that way. Just as the education system in the US is set up to produce self-centered, narcissistic students, the education systems in the developing countries are set up to produce neurotic, depressed students.

Well, that might apply to some developing countries. In others, like where I grew up (Argentina), it's actually the contrary. I see a lot of people graduating and becoming totally unmotivated, lazy, and quite ignorant overall. Over-achievement is not really encouraged.