Coaching Session - A Pathway to Self-Love?

[Turgon]

A friend shared this video with me. A fascinating breakdown of a coaching session of getting in touch with one's felt sense through the act of welcoming of all that arises and how it can cause tremendous shifts to bring about more presence and being.

I'm reminded of the saying, that which we resists, persists. And a few quotes from Healing Developmental Trauma that seems to relate to the above session:

"The more welcome you feel, the less you have to try."

"...the more we try to change ourselves, the more we prevent change from occurring. On the other hand, the more we allow ourselves to fully experience who we are, the greater the possibility of change."

"The felt sense is not a mental experience, nor is it only bodily awareness; it is the coming together of (1) the body's direct sensory and emotional responses to internal and external events (2) the mind's attention to and synthesis of the information gathered by the senses (3) the level of cognizance between these channels of experience and their integration to form the awareness of a particular state of being, situation or problem."

 

[Ryan]

Good way to start the day, that one!

 

[Jefferson]

A friend shared this video with me. A fascinating breakdown of a coaching session of getting in touch with one's felt sense through the act of welcoming of all that arises and how it can cause tremendous shifts to bring about more presence and being.

I'm reminded of the saying, that which we resists, persists. And a few quotes from Healing Developmental Trauma that seems to relate to the above session:

"The more welcome you feel, the less you have to try."

"...the more we try to change ourselves, the more we prevent change from occurring. On the other hand, the more we allow ourselves to fully experience who we are, the greater the possibility of change."

"The felt sense is not a mental experience, nor is it only bodily awareness; it is the coming together of (1) the body's direct sensory and emotional responses to internal and external events (2) the mind's attention to and synthesis of the information gathered by the senses (3) the level of cognizance between these channels of experience and their integration to form the awareness of a particular state of being, situation or problem."

This was a good one!

A lot of people (talking about myself here) carry tons of insight and information in their heads, but it often stays there—circulating as thoughts without ever landing deeper. Just taking this real session as an example, real ‘efforts’ and true inner work isn’t just about understanding things intellectually; it’s also about connecting with what Heller and LaPierre call the felt sense. I personally can read, and have read, those authors' words but not apply them in the same meaningful way shown in this coaching video.

That last quote Turgon shared is just when the body and mind come together to give someone a more honest, grounded read on what they’re experiencing—not just what they think, but what they know in their gut. Like tuning into a quiet signal beneath all the mental noise. This is part of the protracted efforts of the Work that is not to be forgotten.

Thanks for sharing this video!

 

[Martina]

I follow Joe Hudson's YT channel, it's really good.

 

[Breo]

A friend shared this video with me. A fascinating breakdown of a coaching session of getting in touch with one's felt sense through the act of welcoming of all that arises and how it can cause tremendous shifts to bring about more presence and being.

This video and coaching approach is really fascinating - of welcoming all that arises with one´s felt sense.

I think this also points at the difference in coachings with the hidden expectations to seek "improvement" ", which try to achieve to get better, (wishful thinking) vs. this approach with the open and positive intent to welcome all that arises, life offers us, for to experience and learn from it.

Somehow these lines from Ark came to my mind, while reflecting on this coaching session:

FORGET "I should", forget it all. Replace it by "I LOVE TO DO ...." and skip completely the TIME issue. If you need five lives to accomplish what you WANT, let this be the first of those five. And then, without any "time obligation" or "should stressing" - start it. First step first. And ENJOY it. And LOVE yourself - take care of yourself. It is is the only thing that the Universe (God?) wants from you, I think.

Thank you for sharing, Turgon!

 

[987baz]

Thanks for sharing, really interesting concept of welcoming the human experience in all its forms. I have suffered from perfectionism for a long time, when I get it right, when I work hard enough and “earn” it I’ll be ok, I will be “ worthy” until then I will keep struggling on. But as we know we never get there because there is an endless amount to do, endless lessons to be learned. This concept just says that’s ok, welcome the doubt and the fear .. welcome being human, it’s ok if you’re not perfect in your own mind, because that is an illusion anyway, you are imperfectly perfect and are here to experience all that entails.

 

[987baz]

I just started watching this interview with Joe Hudson from 2 months ago, but it seems pretty good so far fwiw ..