Coincidences... a LOT of coincidences this last week

[GreyCat]

So, my fellow human beings, I need some guidance. I have been since long not satisfied with how things were going in my country re:work and salary. I finally decided to take the plunge and go to Germany to work.

That is where the fun starts. First 30 or 40 kms of the trip were uneventful. After that, things become interesting. You see, I had about 13hrs of driving ahead of me, and then my new boss calls for a detour to pick something up, which will add about 1.5 hrs on my trip, no problem. I get out off highway, take the work suits, and head back on my way. I also picked up two people from neighbouring country to drive them to Germany (car sharing system). That is where the fun starts. I needed to switch over my mobile phone to roaming on a foreign network so I an call them. But my mobile phone refused to cooperate with me. It wouldnt budge. Tried all kinds of settings, nope. Wont roam and thats it. So I get back into the petrol station, and ask the salesman to give me a cheap burner phone. I got out, insert the battery and SIM cars, and.... at THAT exact time MY other phone rings. It acquired the network, somehow.

Later on, we came to the first destination with minimal tyre wear. I get them off the car and unloaded, then press on to my destination. I arrive in 3:30 am, and you need to get up to work at 4:30 am. Oh well, wont be the first double shift. BTDT before. I shower, get ready for work, and try to put the new suit on. It wont fit. I go to the work in the civilian clothes. I go to the processing center, get my access card, and go to the production factory. Once inside, they wont let me work without the suit. People are super super nice, but they cant let me work like that - regulations. They set up to order a new suit for me trough the factory. I go to the apartment, and wait.

Tomorrow comes, I came to the door and the entry card doesnt work. Wont let me in. I call to the office, they say the card doesnt work because I didnt take some safety equipment and so on. Ok, I go again to the processing center, reactivate my card, get into the refinery. I get to the bosses office, and lo and behold, the pants are still not there. So I go back, again.
Then the next day I come, got turned back.

I called the manager and explained whats happening. He sat ma card was probably faulty and will need replacement, again..

So it is like something doest want e there. Like something is blocking me from going to work there. The funny thing is,I feel very much easy here, I feel at ease with myself as I havent felt in a looong time.

So what am I to do next? What do you make of all of this?

 

[Dave_P]

Hi @GreyCat .
I can speak from my own experience. many times coincidences are ... just coincidences.
On the other hand, if you feel calm in your work, you think you are qualified to do it and the pay is good, nothing bad.
Taking into account the current world situation, it seems to me that you are on the good track.
It all depends on how you take it, to put it another way, how you perceive it. many times they are stones that we must avoid.
it's just my opinion, but normally one tends to give up at the slightest "problem" and you went your way.

 

[GreyCat]

Hi @GreyCat .
I can speak from my own experience. many times coincidences are ... just coincidences.
On the other hand, if you feel calm in your work, you think you are qualified to do it and the pay is good, nothing bad.
Taking into account the current world situation, it seems to me that you are on the good track.
It all depends on how you take it, to put it another way, how you perceive it. many times they are stones that we must avoid.
it's just my opinion, but normally one tends to give up at the slightest "problem" and you went your way.

I feel extraordinarily calm these days. Havent been so in a long time. As for the work, my colleagues are working and they showed me what they are working on, it is low to middle complexity work so definitively yes, work is no problem. Pay is also rather good, after a full months I can buy whatever I need, food, gas, pay bills, and pocket a few hundred euros for future. I am not giving up since this is something I've been thinking about for a long time, because situation in Croatia is a catastrophic one regarding work. Also here in Germany people rather do care about safety when working, use safety gear and nobody is looked funnily upon because he is protected when working. I rather like that.

 

[syldan]

I don't know if this fits into the category of coincidences but we have had items go missing then reappearing. Like many instances in a short time frame. We have not had something appear out of nowhere yet like the baseball cap mentioned in a recent transcript but missing items reappearing after having searched for them throughout the house. A half a dozen times in a month, that seems like many coïncidences from my point of view. Also, no relationship between the different items that I can think of. But several of us quite baffled this last month.

Also major déjà vu experienced by 4 different people all at the same time or very close. Picture frames coming off walls, objects falling off shelves... To the point where we are wondering about poltergeist or something of that nature. Yet we are all adults in our 50's and 60's and none of us have had previous experiences of the same nature that we can recollect. The events pushed us to talking about it together several times, and to start paying closer attention. FWIW.

 

[Cosmos]

I can speak from my own experience. many times coincidences are ... just coincidences.

Yes I think that is always a good and healthy perspective to take on such situations and to hold the idea of it being "more than that" just as a possibility in your mind (that might as well not be the case at all!) in order to not get hung upon it and go astray. Because in the end, even if it really was something "special" in the sense of it being a sign or interference or whatever, what counts at the end is what you do in real life. Speaking of possibilities: It could also have been signs from your "higher self" to you that you need to pay attention to something in your down to earth ordinary day-to-day life that you might be ignoring.

 

[syldan]

Yes I think that is always a good and healthy perspective to take on such situations and to hold the idea of it being "more than that" just as a possibility in your mind (that might as well not be the case at all!) in order to not get hung upon it and go astray. Because in the end, even if it really was something "special" in the sense of it being a sign or interference or whatever, what counts at the end is what you do in real life. Speaking of possibilities: It could also have been signs from your "higher self" to you that you need to pay attention to something in your down to earth ordinary day-to-day life that you might be ignoring.

As we shared this between the 4 of us, each one had the impression that we should pay more attention for sure. And in the near future maybe we will start to understand what it is about. At least by speaking about it together we feel less isolated in our observations and we can begin to share more about these type of events, whereas not long ago we each would have kept to ourselves about these impressions. Because you make a good point, they are just impressions that seem to take on a synchronicity.

Having said that, it is the first time for each of us that we feel comfortable enough together to share this type of thing. That may just be the point of these happenings. We share a house but only began sharing such objective and personal impressions following last month's weirdness if we can call it that. Probably we are entering a new level of togetherness somehow... That is what came to mind as I read your reply Pashalis. Thank you!

 

[Gmork]

I experienced the same thing lately. Everything i do that seams to be for good is getting little problems etc. If you feel that it is not coincident then it might be beneficial to take extra effort to look for potential problems(legal or other). If you feel resistance you are heading the right way.

 

[Revolucionar]

I concur with @Gmork . @GreyCat , if you’re getting resistance and especially in the form of all these hard to ignore “coincidences”, you’re probably doing something right and the general law is trying to put you back in your place. Now, all of this could just be coincidences, or a result of you not paying attention. Whatever the cause, just keep going and redouble your vigilance. The truth will become clear soon enough.
I think the most useless interpretation for these kinds of occurrences is that “the Universe is telling you that this is a bad course of action”. I just don’t see it standing up to scrutiny based on what we know about how this world works.

 

[GreyCat]

An update. On how it all went. I got back from Germany in the final days of July. It went pretty much as it started. I had about two weeks of work in the original place where we got near Koeln. We were supposed to be there until the June 30, but have been told that the work was done earlier then that, and so we got shipped off on June 12, off to the new location. New location was Mannheim, also chemical plant nearby. It went pretty uneventful, a day or two to get checked in, get our bearings as to what is where, as the company is huge, and we started to do some actual useful work. Then, after a few days working there, they told us that June 18th, would be our final day working there. I was flabbergasted, and pissed off, as well. Going through all that, moving from one accommodation to the next, learning and checking in to the new company, learning where the tools are, and all, just to get f**ked over. So thats how it went.

Oh and the people. There were four of us in the group, including me. Only one guy had experience working as an industrial electrician, he was a good person, easy going, easy to get along with, and a very good human being all in all. But the other two were stuff of horrors, self entitled, self righteous, full of hatred for mostly anyone around them. Always contrary, always judging, being downright a pest. Also, go figure, they havent set foot in industrial setting ever before this. They also were a nosy bunch, whining like small kids in kindergarten, for example when we moved from first accommodation to the second, we were pretty close to the work, maybe a few kms out. We had a relatively normal flat all to ourselves. Nothing was amiss, it was a bit dated and upkeep has seen better times, but still, it was ok. After all I got there to work, not to live a luxury life. I had a place to rest, to cook and eat, to take a shower and I was all good. That evening on the June 13, I think, I went out to shop - in Aldi, Lidl, and similar supermarkets, to get food and to get ready for Monday. I came back to the apartment a couple of hrs later to find those two obnoxious colleagues proclaiming that we are moving in the morning. No asking, no talking, they just decided that all of us would move! Talk about one sided idiots. Then I threw a fit, since I was fed up with them, I said I was going home and thats it, f**k them and f**k all of that, I had enough. They were falsely like, shocked, how and why am I so upset. They knew full well what they did. My normal co-worker called them a complete and utter savage moronic idiots, which have no regard for anyone or anything. He was right.

And so on, as it started, it ended on pretty much the same note. I went, I worked, I earned some, enough to get back something I loaned to get me started, to service the car, but I havent been working long enough to put any real money aside.

I am at home now, looking for similar work, tried to make some arrangements with a few other firms on a similar basis, and they all ended up being liars, we have one agreement, then I wait 5 to 7 days and every day they call and are like " well call you tomorrow with exact address of the accommodation and address of the work", and so on and on and on it goes. One even said to me, just drive to Germany, and we will call you and tell you the addresses when you cross the border. I just laughed at him, and hang up.

Time is going, I need to be earning money, and yet, all I seem to get is getting nowhere fast. There are a LOT of offers for work, until you start talking to them, and they mostly start ok, then a few days later lie about agreed upon conditions, etc. I am starting to feel stuck and desperate here, and I am thinking to myself what am I doing wrong? Why it isnt working? I have a desire to work, I have knowledge, I have tools, where is the problem? Is it such a problem to find someone or some company that is standing behind what they say these days? Just want to work, and earn money for my family. Why is it not going? I am getting so tired of it all to the point of being royaly pissed off, and lethargic. I have moments when Im ready to send it all to.... and let the chips fall where they may. Im so tired of this world, its bullshite, its lies and deceit. I am just... tired.

 

[naorma]

An update. On how it all went. I got back from Germany in the final days of July. It went pretty much as it started. I had about two weeks of work in the original place where we got near Koeln. We were supposed to be there until the June 30, but have been told that the work was done earlier then that, and so we got shipped off on June 12, off to the new location. New location was Mannheim, also chemical plant nearby. It went pretty uneventful, a day or two to get checked in, get our bearings as to what is where, as the company is huge, and we started to do some actual useful work. Then, after a few days working there, they told us that June 18th, would be our final day working there. I was flabbergasted, and pissed off, as well. Going through all that, moving from one accommodation to the next, learning and checking in to the new company, learning where the tools are, and all, just to get f**ked over. So thats how it went.

Oh and the people. There were four of us in the group, including me. Only one guy had experience working as an industrial electrician, he was a good person, easy going, easy to get along with, and a very good human being all in all. But the other two were stuff of horrors, self entitled, self righteous, full of hatred for mostly anyone around them. Always contrary, always judging, being downright a pest. Also, go figure, they havent set foot in industrial setting ever before this. They also were a nosy bunch, whining like small kids in kindergarten, for example when we moved from first accommodation to the second, we were pretty close to the work, maybe a few kms out. We had a relatively normal flat all to ourselves. Nothing was amiss, it was a bit dated and upkeep has seen better times, but still, it was ok. After all I got there to work, not to live a luxury life. I had a place to rest, to cook and eat, to take a shower and I was all good. That evening on the June 13, I think, I went out to shop - in Aldi, Lidl, and similar supermarkets, to get food and to get ready for Monday. I came back to the apartment a couple of hrs later to find those two obnoxious colleagues proclaiming that we are moving in the morning. No asking, no talking, they just decided that all of us would move! Talk about one sided idiots. Then I threw a fit, since I was fed up with them, I said I was going home and thats it, f**k them and f**k all of that, I had enough. They were falsely like, shocked, how and why am I so upset. They knew full well what they did. My normal co-worker called them a complete and utter savage moronic idiots, which have no regard for anyone or anything. He was right.

And so on, as it started, it ended on pretty much the same note. I went, I worked, I earned some, enough to get back something I loaned to get me started, to service the car, but I havent been working long enough to put any real money aside.

I am at home now, looking for similar work, tried to make some arrangements with a few other firms on a similar basis, and they all ended up being liars, we have one agreement, then I wait 5 to 7 days and every day they call and are like " well call you tomorrow with exact address of the accommodation and address of the work", and so on and on and on it goes. One even said to me, just drive to Germany, and we will call you and tell you the addresses when you cross the border. I just laughed at him, and hang up.

Time is going, I need to be earning money, and yet, all I seem to get is getting nowhere fast. There are a LOT of offers for work, until you start talking to them, and they mostly start ok, then a few days later lie about agreed upon conditions, etc. I am starting to feel stuck and desperate here, and I am thinking to myself what am I doing wrong? Why it isnt working? I have a desire to work, I have knowledge, I have tools, where is the problem? Is it such a problem to find someone or some company that is standing behind what they say these days? Just want to work, and earn money for my family. Why is it not going? I am getting so tired of it all to the point of being royaly pissed off, and lethargic. I have moments when Im ready to send it all to.... and let the chips fall where they may. Im so tired of this world, its bullshite, its lies and deceit. I am just... tired.

I am very sorry to hear that things don´t work for you at the moment. I have no explanation, no advice, just feel sorry for you because I feel that you are really desperate.

 

[GreyCat]

I am very sorry to hear that things don´t work for you at the moment. I have no explanation, no advice, just feel sorry for you because I feel that you are really desperate.

Thanks you for your comment. It makes me feel a bit better. Just knowing that someone cares a little bit, makes it a bit easier. However, I am too at a loss to explain why and how this keeps happening again and again. Why do I always seen to run into some fools on the job, ok, I mean I ignore them and whatever, but then I cannot ignore the fact that for instance my job got cut short and that I wont make anywhere close to the earnings I need to patch financial holes. Its a bit harder to get over that. Much harder to get over that. Maybe, sometimes I think, it has to do with karma, but then I also think, wtf did I do in my last life to get so much negative karma? I sure hope I wasn't a mass killer or something like that...

 

[Ursus Minor]

Thanks you for your comment. It makes me feel a bit better. Just knowing that someone cares a little bit, makes it a bit easier. However, I am too at a loss to explain why and how this keeps happening again and again. Why do I always seen to run into some fools on the job, ok, I mean I ignore them and whatever, but then I cannot ignore the fact that for instance my job got cut short and that I wont make anywhere close to the earnings I need to patch financial holes. Its a bit harder to get over that. Much harder to get over that. Maybe, sometimes I think, it has to do with karma, but then I also think, wtf did I do in my last life to get so much negative karma? I sure hope I wasn't a mass killer or something like that...

Could it be that the whole situation in society and the workplace has deteriorated to a point where you have to be lucky not to be disappointed by short-lived contracts, treacherous colleagues, subcontractors that employ people and run off before payday?

There are cut-throat conditions in most industries, maximizing revenue by minimizing the work force and if you're not permanently employed you are the first to go.

It seems that you are mainly describing the signs of times...

 

[seek10]

Time is going, I need to be earning money, and yet, all I seem to get is getting nowhere fast. There are a LOT of offers for work, until you start talking to them, and they mostly start ok, then a few days later lie about agreed upon conditions, etc. I am starting to feel stuck and desperate here, and I am thinking to myself what am I doing wrong? Why it isnt working? I have a desire to work, I have knowledge, I have tools, where is the problem? Is it such a problem to find someone or some company that is standing behind what they say these days? Just want to work, and earn money for my family. Why is it not going? I am getting so tired of it all to the point of being royaly pissed off, and lethargic. I have moments when Im ready to send it all to.... and let the chips fall where they may. Im so tired of this world, its bullshite, its lies and deceit. I am just... tired.

Keep trying. there is no issue with trying to figure out what else one can do, but blaming one self when things doesn't work out may not be that helpful. Unpredictability is normal part of job market - particularly part time assignments. Use this time to do somethings you would like to do if you have time.

 

[Christine]

Thanks you for your comment. It makes me feel a bit better. Just knowing that someone cares a little bit, makes it a bit easier. However, I am too at a loss to explain why and how this keeps happening again and again. Why do I always seen to run into some fools on the job, ok, I mean I ignore them and whatever, but then I cannot ignore the fact that for instance my job got cut short and that I wont make anywhere close to the earnings I need to patch financial holes. Its a bit harder to get over that. Much harder to get over that. Maybe, sometimes I think, it has to do with karma, but then I also think, wtf did I do in my last life to get so much negative karma? I sure hope I wasn't a mass killer or something like that...

Je vis la même chose mais un peu d’une autre manière, à chaque que je voulais changer ma situation comme trouvait un travail, déménager, puisque je ne peux plus payer mon loyer totalement (ce qui fait que ma dette de loyer augmentes) , et en déménageant cela m’aurait aussi permis de rencontrer d’autres personnes et ne plus rester seule et ces changements que je veux faire ou entreprendre ou un rêve qui se réalise mais qu’on m’empêche de le vivre, tous tombent à l’eau à chaque fois d’une manière ou d’une autre pour m’empêcher d’avancer et, du coup, de m’épuiser, en tout cas c’est ce que je ressens et je me demande aussi ce que j’ai dû faire dans l’autre incarnation pour vivre ce je vis dans cette incarnation aujourd’hui
Il y a des leçons dans tous cela que j’essaye de comprendre, il y en quelques unes que j’ai apprise et comprise comme ne plus avoir peur, mon propriétaire a essayé en utilisant un huissier mais ça n’a pas marché, avoir de la patience, je manquais de patience, ce qui m’a fait du tort et ne plus être angoissé puisque l’être ne change rien et je ne parle que de cette situation pour les leçons apprises.
Ce que je dis ne t’aidera pas mais c’est pour que tu saches que tu n’es pas seul dans cette situation et que je pense à toi.


I live the same thing but a little bit in a different way, every time I wanted to change my situation like finding a job, moving, since I can't pay my rent totally anymore (which makes my rent debt increase), and by moving it would have also allowed me to meet other people and not to stay alone anymore and these changes I want to do or undertake or a dream that comes true but that I am prevented to live it, All of them fall into the water each time in one way or another to prevent me from moving forward and, as a result, to exhaust me, in any case this is what I feel and I also ask myself what I had to do in the other incarnation to live what I am living in this incarnation today.
There are lessons in all of this that I am trying to understand, there are some that I have learned and understood like not being afraid anymore, my landlord tried using a bailiff but it didn't work, having patience, I lacked patience, which hurt me and not being anxious anymore since being anxious doesn't change anything and I am only talking about this situation for the lessons learned.
What I say will not help you but it is to let you know that you are not alone in this situation and that I think of you.:câlin2:

 

[naorma]

I was thinking yesterday what helpful things I could say.

There is one - a very banal one, but most often true - that came to my mind: If one door is closing, another one will open. (One does not know when, of course!).

Often it is - at least in my life - when I was forcing things too much, they did not work. I was always working as a freelancer and very often had to care for the next job. Of course you call people you know with effort and so on, but sometimes it just wont work . . .
My advice would be - like @seek10 said (and this is what I did in these hard times, too) - do the things you want to do and keep your focus on something else. Maybe some idea will come to you . . .

Sometimes it is better to do nothing. I have an example: One day when I was walking on the mountain (I always am overdoing myself a little bit!) I had lost orientation and did not know where the way down to the valley was and nobody around. I simply had no idea. I said to myself: Well, if you dont have an idea where to go you just sit down on the place where you are and wait. What I did. About 15 minutes later a couple passed my place and I could ask them where to go . . . (and they knew it!!)

In general I would say, the less stress you put on yourself the better things might work! Easy said, but sometimes difficult done, I know . Nevertheless I think its the best way! Warmest greetings!