emotional violence and indoctrination system

[Green_Manalishi]

Adolescence: One in each four romantic relations are violent

One in each four love relations among teenagers is marked by episodes of violence, a study from the University of Minho reveals. To the Portuguese Association of Victim Support (APAV), arrived this year denounces of 11 years old girls.
“Insults, slapping, screaming, throwing and breaking objects, stopping or controlling contacts with others” are the more denounced actions in the doctorate theses about violence in love relations written by psychologist Sónia Caridade.
According with the researcher from the University of Minho, “25,4% of young people have been victims, at least once, of an act of violence during a relation”.
The study covered 4467 young people between 13 and 29 years old. In the first semester of 2008, the association received six denounces, all of them from girls, between 11 and 17 years old. A number “very far for reality, because it only describes the ones that decide to complain” Rosa Saadreva, responsible for the APAV, told Lusa. From this six victims, only two still kept a a romantic relation when they were abused. The majority complains about emotional aggressions, the principal form of violence in a romantic relation.
According with the study from U.M, one in each four young people recognized been a victim of emotionally abusive behaviours, although most “don't comprehend this form of violence has inadequate”, reminds Carla Machado, the theses supervisor.
Acts of control by the mate are still seen has a manifestation of jealous and mistaken has “proofs of love”. A lot of times, the notion of gravity of the action is conditioned by the occurrence or not, of it, being in a public space, explains Carla Machado: “The insults are taken as a joke, even when being very humiliating and recurrent. But when they happen in front of other people they are given more valour.
According with the researchers, abusive physical behaviours are also a lot of times not blamed. “It doesn't mean that they don't perceive them as correct, but don't attribute them a lot of significance”, regrets Carla Machado. The study reveals that “18% of young people are victims of this crime”, remembers Sónia Caridade. In the case of “punching, beatings, kicking and threats with guns. All young people understand that it is inadequate”, remembers the theses supervisor which detected 6,7% of young people that suffered this kind of behaviours.
By cross reference of data it is possible to perceive that a lot of this acts are isolated, “happening once or twice”, but there also exists “a substantial number of young people that relate various forms of violence”, she adds.
About the aggressors, the numbers are even more high, because 30,6% of the respondents admitted being responsible for acts of violence. According with Sónia Caridade, one in each five assumed that they exerted emotional abuse, but there is also a lot of physical violence cases (13,4%). The psychologist underlines still, that 7,3% of the respondents recognized being the author of “severe physical abuse”.

The above quote was taken from a Portuguese news site (my translation).

Could we take the the sentences i highlighted, and make a parallel with the relation between government and and the people that elect them?
I believe we can. The kind of emotional violence the article talks about, seems like a scale model of what governments around the world are doing in terms of restriction of liberties, controlling and inflicting emotional pain in order to implement their control system.
It seems like a very good indoctrination technique, for young people, I mean if they use and are the targets of this kind of abuse by their partners, and don't see it has wrong, they probably won't see similar techniques implemented by the government has wrong, or they even won't see them altogether. They will be perceived has our good leaders taking good care of us.

 

[Pierre]

Could we take the the sentences i highlighted, and make a parallel with the relation between government and and the people that elect them?

I guess so. It looks like a ponerologic fractal where you keep finding the same patterns at different scale : interpersonal level (couples, parents/children...), group level (companies, schools,...), population level (nations, religions...), hyperdimensional level (4D STS/3D STS, 3D STS/2D...)

You keep seeing the same dynamics of manipulations, deception, lies, use of violence while the victims follow the same behaviours (denial, depression, self blaming, ...)

This last sentence you highlighted can remind of the Stockholm syndrome

We ascribe barbarous acts to "human nature" when, in fact, it is not "human" at all. Normal humans are shocked and repelled. The idea that "we are all potential Idi Amins" is tantamount to the Stockholm Syndrome. We have identified with the kidnapper and so we elaborate theories to justify our behaviour. According to Stout, the idea that we all have a shadow side...

"...maintains in its most extreme form that anything doable or feelable by one human being is potentially doable and feelable by all... Ironically, good and kindhearted people are often the most willing to subscribe to this theory in the radical form that proposes they could, in some bizarre situation, be mass murderers. It feels more democratic and less condemnatory (and somehow less alarming) to believe that everyone is a little shady than to accept a few human beings live in a permanent nighttime. To admit that some people literally have no conscience is not technically saying that some human beings are evil, but it is disturbingly close. And good people want very much not to believe in the personification of evil." [Martha Stout. 106]