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this book is a fascinating read. It is also a necessary background for the presently unfolding FLDS saga.
The authorities have paid renewed attention to FLDS after Carolyn Jessop's escape. Her accounts told of the worsening conditions within the cult and of Warren Jeffs's rise to the heights of authoritarian power. This is what led the law enforcement to arrest Jeffs. Jessop's testimony in court was instrumental on convicting him on one count of facilitating rape (Jessop witnessed him forcibly marrying a 14 y.o. girl to her older cousin). After that, it seems, the authorities were only waiting for a formal reason to raid the compound. However, it appears that no well thought-out plan was in place.
During the evacuation of women and children from the ranch and their subsequent placement within the foster system, Jessop was working with social workers as a consultant, giving them tips on what to expect from, and how to approach, these kids:
Now, back to the book. From a popular Amazon review:
Her account of polygamy is also revealing. Some people have this idealistic view that such lifestyle is not w\o its advantages: people in extended family will help and support one another, women's friendship, this sort of thing. Not so, says Jessop:
Most of the stuff in the book is so far out, it's very hard to keep in mind that all this is happening in the 21st century America. Yet, in reality, it isn't THAT far removed from the experience of life of women, children, and commoners during MOST of the European or Asian history, directed by the religious dogmas of the monotheistic triad. In fact, a lot of people from mainstream religions can relate to the FLDS experiences even now:
The book is written in an easy-to-read, almost simplified language that you would expect from a mainstream bestseller. Still, the sheer atrocity of the facts recounted by Jessop, and also the fact that it is easy to connect them to everything else we have been reading and talking about, make it a very useful book for Work, IMO.
A local library will sure have a hardback copy; also, a paperback is coming out this summer.
The authorities have paid renewed attention to FLDS after Carolyn Jessop's escape. Her accounts told of the worsening conditions within the cult and of Warren Jeffs's rise to the heights of authoritarian power. This is what led the law enforcement to arrest Jeffs. Jessop's testimony in court was instrumental on convicting him on one count of facilitating rape (Jessop witnessed him forcibly marrying a 14 y.o. girl to her older cousin). After that, it seems, the authorities were only waiting for a formal reason to raid the compound. However, it appears that no well thought-out plan was in place.
During the evacuation of women and children from the ranch and their subsequent placement within the foster system, Jessop was working with social workers as a consultant, giving them tips on what to expect from, and how to approach, these kids:
She commented positively on the operation until the state made a decision to return the children back to their families (motivated, no doubt, by the prohibitive costs of it all rather than any sense of fairness). She criticized that decision bitterly, saying that "We have just lost another generation".With her once long locks now trimmed to her shoulders, Jessop's hands fluttered as she described some of the more arcane religious beliefs of the FLDS. Take down the plants and crosses on the walls, she advised potential foster care providers. Those will be seen as sacrilegious icons to children brought up according to the strict FLDS code. And watch your fashion.
"If you wear red, they will think you are mocking Christ because they are taught that the color red is reserved for Christ and Christ alone," she said.
Jessop recommended foster care agencies hire social workers capable of shrugging off criticism from the children they are trying to help. Some girls have gotten physically violent with their caretakers, Jessop told the group.
Scott Lundy, a licensed child care administrator with Arrow, said his staff members, who volunteered in the first days after the raid, struggled to take everything from contempt to racism from the sect's children. [Jeffs teaches his followers that black people descend from Devil himself]
It is this difficulty in reaching FLDS members that worries Jessop.
http://[..]www.chron.com/disp/story.mpl/buzz/USNews/5797658.html
Now, back to the book. From a popular Amazon review:
Indeed. It is even more worth telling because FLDS appears to be a very obvious example of pathology on a societal scale. This is true for both their ideology that literally turns women and children into chattel, in both physical and spiritual sense, to the kind of people that it propels to the top. The two factors are, undoubtedly, linked -- the ideology is so bizarre and absurd that it takes a special kind of person to be able to impart it to others. In this respect, I think Jessop puts undue stress on Warren Jeffs as a culpable figure in what was going on to FLDS. It is never "one man, and one man alone", as we know.Escape is undoubtedly one of the most bizarre memoirs you are ever likely to read. It is small wonder that it quickly made its mark on the New York Times list of bestsellers. Written by Carolyn Jessop, a woman who was born into the Fundamentalist Lattery Day Saints (FLDS), the book describes what it is like to live as part of this cult which is distinctive primarily for its beliefs about polygamy. The FLDS, which emerged in the 1930s as a fundamentalist offshoot of the Mormon church, holds that God has ordained polygamy and not only that, but that it is a requirement for anyone who wishes to attain the highest level of heaven. Most men eventually have at least three wives, with more prominent members of the cult holding far more than that. Some of the leaders are believed to have fifty, sixty, or even one hundred wives. Women are generally placed with husbands at the whim of the cult's leader (who claims to receive divine guidance about which women belong with certain men). There are around 10,000 adherents to this cult living in the United States today.
Jessop was born into a family that eventually had two wives but one that, compared to others in the community, seemed almost normal. When she was just eighteen, though, she was assigned to become the fourth wife of a fifty-five year old man. While she was married to him he added two more wives and later went on to add five or six more. Through fifteen years of marriage, Jessop gave birth to eight children. Through her marriage she suffered constant abuse at the hands of her husband, his other wives, and other members of the community. Though for much of her life she believed the claims of the FLDS religion, she eventually began to see through its hypocrisy and decided that, for the good of herself and her children, she would need to escape from it.
Escape from FLDS is not easy. Their tight-knit communities have immense power and wealth. Even the local police officers are members of the cult and will not support a wife who seeks to emancipate herself or her family. Until Jessop, no woman had managed to escape the clutches of the cult with all of her children. Jessop, though, ran from the cult and fought against it in the courts, eventually winning full custody of her eight children. This was no small victory. In fact, it was worth telling in a book.
Her account of polygamy is also revealing. Some people have this idealistic view that such lifestyle is not w\o its advantages: people in extended family will help and support one another, women's friendship, this sort of thing. Not so, says Jessop:
In her particular case, the "dominant wife" -- one of her husband's older wives -- appeared to have had clear psychopathic tendencies, and have made everyone else's lives miserable. That woman's tendencies had fed the narcissistic and dominating tendencies in the husband, too. There was no way to hold either of them accountable because the religion and the norms of community life were stalked against any woman who thought of complaining. "Keeping it sweet", i.e., not getting angry over a mistreatment, turning the other cheek etc, was viewed as a supreme virtue in the community. No wonder that up to a third of women in the cult were taking antidepressants, according to Jessop.I also realised the only way to protect myself in my marriage was by remaining of sexual value to him.
Sex was the only currency I had to spend in my marriage - every polygamist wife knows that. A woman who possesses a high sex status with her husband has more power over his other wives. If she becomes unattractive to him, she is on dangerous ground - usually winding up as a slave to the dominant wife.
So although I hated Merril touching me, I knew I had to make myself attractive to him, even though there was no chemistry between us and our sex life was always perfunctory. In fact, throughout our 17 years of marriage, he saw me naked only a few times, and the bedroom was always completely dark.
Nevertheless, I did bear him eight children - all of whom were regularly beaten by their father. The only way I could stop Merril beating my children was to have sex with him.
http://[..]www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-559132/Forced-marry-50-year-old-wives-just-18---One-womans-harrowing-tale-escaping-Texas-polygamist-sect.html
Most of the stuff in the book is so far out, it's very hard to keep in mind that all this is happening in the 21st century America. Yet, in reality, it isn't THAT far removed from the experience of life of women, children, and commoners during MOST of the European or Asian history, directed by the religious dogmas of the monotheistic triad. In fact, a lot of people from mainstream religions can relate to the FLDS experiences even now:
The book also gives a very good idea of how hard it is to disabuse oneself of one's programming. Its akin to coming up from 100 feet under, gasping for breath -- and after that, you still have to learn to swim ASAP!! Jessop's account of her life after the escape emphasizes that point.After I left my husband and underwent two years of domestic violence counseling, I came to understand what most people don't: Abuse takes place in many forms, even within reputable, out-in-the-open institutions such as marriage and the church. And within these institutions, unattainable standards are set up as the norm.
http://[..]www.womensenews.org/article.cfm/dyn/aid/3583
The book is written in an easy-to-read, almost simplified language that you would expect from a mainstream bestseller. Still, the sheer atrocity of the facts recounted by Jessop, and also the fact that it is easy to connect them to everything else we have been reading and talking about, make it a very useful book for Work, IMO.
A local library will sure have a hardback copy; also, a paperback is coming out this summer.