Facebook a psychopaths garden

[piranah]

Having recently re activated my old account i have realised how this face book is basically populated by the naive and the bully. Apparently you can create fake accounts and find out so much private data. You can become a friend of someones friend and socially cause problems. Alot of people pretend to be who they are not. I tried to deactivate my account and actually you cant. It remains dormant but people can still send you messages which are emailed i think. Imagine the data held on you for ever.

 

[ocean59]

Having recently re activated my old account i have realised how this face book is basically populated by the naive and the bully. Apparently you can create fake accounts and find out so much private data. You can become a friend of someones friend and socially cause problems. Alot of people pretend to be who they are not. I tried to deactivate my account and actually you cant. It remains dormant but people can still send you messages which are emailed i think. Imagine the data held on you for ever.

IMO, Facebook is what you make of it. As there are many members of these forums actively using Facebook to spread the word about what we're doing here, I think it is a bit rash to characterize the entire userbase as "basically naive and bullies." Such sweeping generalizations can be made about almost any public forum where anybody is allowed to post anything.

Don't forget, it is the responsibility of the user to set their own privacy settings. If you have it set to where your data is not shared with anyone but your friends, then strangers with fake accounts won't be able to see it or abuse it. If you only accept friend requests from people you know personally, then that takes care of the "people pretending to be someone they're not." Well, maybe not necessarily, but I think you get the drift here. ;)

If you apply the available knowledge, you can take steps to prevent the psychopaths from abusing you on that service, and elsewhere in life. You may also find the Cassiopedia entry on Strategic Enclosure helpful, http://cassiopedia.org/glossary/Strategic_enclosure .

Facebook is a "permanent record" of sorts, and should be used with caution IMO. I've had nothing but great experiences with it personally, and have reconnected with many people in my past I never thought I'd hear from again. I know everything I type on that site is associated with my "public image" -- and so I just keep that at the forefront of my mind before I hit that post button, before I add that "friend," each and every time. Just some food for thought on the topic.

 

[ocean59]

You may also wish to reference the following thread for more info about how the group is using Facebook: http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=15795.0

 

[truth seeker]

Having recently re activated my old account i have realised how this face book is basically populated by the naive and the bully. Apparently you can create fake accounts and find out so much private data. You can become a friend of someones friend and socially cause problems. Alot of people pretend to be who they are not. I tried to deactivate my account and actually you cant. It remains dormant but people can still send you messages which are emailed i think. Imagine the data held on you for ever.

Have you tried blocking out/unfriending the people you consider bullies?

In my opinion, fb is no different from real life in the sense that we need to use discernment in order to distinguish those who are not on the same page as us from those who are. Once you begin to do this, just like your life, your fb page will begin to reflect that choice. :)

 

[Artemis]

Having recently re activated my old account i have realised how this face book is basically populated by the naive and the bully. Apparently you can create fake accounts and find out so much private data. You can become a friend of someones friend and socially cause problems. Alot of people pretend to be who they are not. I tried to deactivate my account and actually you cant. It remains dormant but people can still send you messages which are emailed i think. Imagine the data held on you for ever.

What you just described is exactly like real life.

As Jason said, it's your responsibility to make it to your liking. And I believe there is an option at the end of a FB email that allows you to unsubscribe to getting mails from them.

 

[piranah]

sorry was a bit sweeping but i access it from my mobile and some setting options dont work or are not availible. you only need one stalker to make a whole heap of problems. sometimes it suggests people who could be friends i have noted some names are related to my problem person and knowing the way my bully works she uses others to get close to my friends and turns them away from me. i think though it is my fault for not usin discretion in who i give personal info to.

 

[Quigley]

I've had Facebook for several years and I have seen it go both ways.

Swan--- You are correct that FB can be upsetting and yes, it is just like real life.

There was a time when a friend sort of lived her life by reading what I was doing. She'd tell friends the things I was doing "she went to New Orleans on vacation, she bought a new car"... like she was talking to me, yet I had not spoken to her in years... it really got on my nerves. My sister would read what I did and turn it around, --- that same new car was told to my mother on the phone " she has no business buying a new car, ranted on and on how stupid I was" ... poor Mom, she went with me to buy the car, it was a fun day, did the test drive and I got a good deal... then she had to hear how stupid I was from my sister from out of state... it's upsetting and Mom asked "why did you tell her you bought a car?" we know how she is with anything she hears something is going good for the rest of us. I wanted to just stay away from FB. In the end, I set my privacy settings quite strong and I have a list of people who can not see anything about me, they are on my Blocked list.

When I posted I was having a surgery and very bad recovery, my friends and family posted warm wishes and it really lifted me up. I'd say 98% of my friends are good people who give encouragement and advise. Just Saturday a friend posted on using Cutter spray to kill mosquitoes on her patio, the bottle that attaches to the garden hose... where else could you get advise like that??

I also go each day to FB to play their games. It's enjoyable and entertaining.

 

[Vulcan59]

Hi Quigley,

Welcome to the forum. :) We recommend all new members to post an introduction in the Newbies section telling us a bit about themselves, and how they found their way here. Have a read through that section to get an idea of how others have done it. Thanks.

 

[Quigley]

Sorry Vulcan.... I'll head over to the Newbies section and start properly.....

 

[ocean59]

Welcome to the forum, Quigley. :)

Just Saturday a friend posted on using Cutter spray to kill mosquitoes on her patio, the bottle that attaches to the garden hose... where else could you get advise like that??

I wanted to issue a caution about the product "Cutter" -- it is a mosquire repellent spray that contains the highly poisonous and neurotoxic chemical DEET (N,N-diethyl-meta-toluamide).

Research is showing that any products containing this chemical are not safe for use by humans and should really be avoided wherever possible.

Here are a couple of recent articles that ran over on SOTT.net:
http://www.sott.net/articles/show/211611-Finally-Deet-Exposed-as-a-Neurotoxin
http://www.sott.net/articles/show/192797-Insect-Repellent-DEET-is-Toxic-to-Brain-Cells

There are many natural alternatives available such as Citronella, Eucalyptus, and even certain B vitamins (can't remember which ones off the bat) that are known to help with detracting the pesky skeeters. :)

Just a friendly head's up!

 

[piranah]

Well it did not take long. Just last week dnd -Darling Narcisstic daughter- messaged me hi how are you all. Livin in cardiff. I miss you and the others. Love c. . . She was able to message me via my other son as i had blocked her but i have not replied. I think when i have responded to emails and texts in the past she beer nasty things to the reply and then goes around showing it to people saying how horrid i am. Its a sneaky little trick but. . . she could have emailed me any time over past two years so i wonder what games afoot now. Apparently there is a took that lets you see who has viewed your page on Facebook i was told. Even if you are blocked you could join under a new name and stalk people.