Friend with melanoma

[aragorn]

Today we learned that my wife's sisters boyfriend has melanoma. He hasn't got all the details yet but they said that the biopsy from the mole raised a strong suspicion for malignant melanoma. The mole was red and it was the size of a little fingers nail, he said. I'm posting this in case there's anything that you guys come to think of that could help.

Since my wife's sister knows I'm into diet and health issues, she wanted me to talk with him on the phone. So, I shared with him some of the information I've learned through this forum and recommended books, and my own experiences with diet, supplements etc. I stressed the importance of a healthy low carb, high fat, non-dairy, non-gluten, additive-free diet and he seemed ready to try it. The thing that concerns me is that since he has so far eaten a completely main stream diet, would a sudden change to the recommended diet be too big of a shock to his body?

The other things that I recommended/suggested were:

- Vitamin C (preferably ascorbic acid powder), starting with 1g/day - increasing "until bowel movement"
- Vitamin D, 50-100ug/day
- Fish Oil, at least 1000mg/twice a day
- Curcumin, I'm not sure about the dosage - advice appreciated!
- A good multivitamin
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The other things that I'm thinking of suggesting to him(his head was already spinning from my information today) are:

- DMSA, heavy metal detoxing (and all the supplements on the DMSA protocol)
- FIR-Sauna treatment
- Magnesium oil (especially on the cancerous area, good idea?)
- Coffee enema (I'm not sure he likes to hear about this)

He is going to hear from the "skin specialist" tomorrow, so I guess he knows more then. Just to be clear, I didn't imply that he shouldn't hear what the doctors and specialist have to say and offer. I think that they can be very important in the healing process too.

Any advice and thoughts would be very much appreciated.

ADDED: Eiriu Eolas would naturally be one of the beneficial things for him to do.

 

[bltay]

Hi Aragorn, I am sorry for the delay in answering your post as I just now came across it. I have a hard time reading everything on this forum; I hope it is not too late for this information to help. I would recommend this black salve from Alpha Omega Labs:

_http://www.herbhealers.com/store/http-www-altcancer-com-cansema-htm-1.html#ingredients

I have personally used this salve and it works well. I have not had melanoma, just the milder form of skin cancer which causes the flaky patches. It works just as it is described on the website, and I am sure, based on what I have seen, that it will work for melanoma as it claims. For the price it is unbeatable for the results you get. And no, I do not work for Alpha Omega Labs, I am just very pleased with what the salve has done for me. Just a little goes a long way. I think I am genetically predisposed to skin cancer as it is quite common on my mother's side of the family, so I keep an extra small container just to be safe. I am at an age where the skin cancer begins to manifest itself readily, so I decided to be prepared for it.

I am just working my way through Life Without Bread, and I am hoping a conversion to a low carb diet helps alleviate, or at least lowers, this tendency to develop this skin cancer.

Best of luck to your wife's sister's boyfriend regardless of which direction he decides to go.

 

[aragorn]

Things have taken a bizarre turn in this case. Or, perhaps, knowing the mechanicalness of the persons involved, things couldn't be any other way (paraphrasing anart).

Okay, so the melanoma thing was apparently no biggie, he had surgery and they successfully removed the cancerous area. As yet, there are no signs of it spreading. So, the guys is fine, at least for the moment.

But, here comes the shocking part. During the ca 2 weeks that they mulled over his melanoma - and my wife's sister "was sure he was going to die..." - they decided that they wanted to have children, trying to get my wife's sister pregnant. Get this, they only known each other for 1 month, and now, in the fear of him dying they make children!!! And yes, things clicked right away, my wife's sister got pregnant...

My wife's sister is notoriously into emotional thinking, being the classic passive aggressive type. She has impulsive "great" thoughts, and always want to implement them directly. And she calls my wife constantly for advice - and when my wife gives it, she (my wife's sister) gets mad. In the book 'In sheep's clothing' the author says that getting angry in this case is because the passive aggressive type doesn't want to be under anyones control - even when she seeks advice, because she's afraid to make her own decisions, she rejects them in the end because she hates to be told what to do.

And the boyfriend doesn't seem to have any degree of critical or long term thinking either - me and my wife have estimated that with his salary he has big trouble paying his huge mortgage for this new apartment he's renovating. And now my wife's sister is supposed to participate in the costs, and we're talking about ca 100 000euros here. I see a huge red flags here - they've only known each other for some months, now she's pregnant, supposed to get a big loan and pay for the apartment etc.

Today we learned also that they've got engaged - well considering what's happened so far that is hardly surprising. I guess the wedding will be soon. Knowing how me and my wife made huge efforts in order to learn about each other and ourselves during several years BEFORE we got married and had kids (kids came many years later than marriage), I can't in any way see how this thing with my sister's wife could work. I hope I'm wrong, but knowing how totally mechanical and reactive my wife's sister is, I'm pretty sure that this thing is just a catastrophe waiting to happen. I guess it can't be any other way... My biggest concerns are for the baby, how s/he will be treated and cared for.

Sorry for the rant, I just had to let it out...

 

[Gimpy]

Any advice and thoughts would be very much appreciated.

Stay out of it as much as possible. In fact, I'd limit contact with them period, and encourage your wife to cool things off.

Do you really need to become embroiled in this drama? I don't see a reason for it....that's just my thoughts on it, and I could be very wrong. I'd see what other folks
have to say.

 

[aragorn]

Any advice and thoughts would be very much appreciated.

Stay out of it as much as possible. In fact, I'd limit contact with them period, and encourage your wife to cool things off.

Do you really need to become embroiled in this drama? I don't see a reason for it....that's just my thoughts on it, and I could be very wrong. I'd see what other folks
have to say.

Not getting involved are just our thoughts, you're right about that. My wife isn't mad or worked up by these latest developments (pregnancy, possible marriage) nor am I - we are just concerned about what will come...and shaking our heads because of this madness. Luckily we live almost 500km away from where they are, so that should limit our involvement in this matter. I just hope that my wife's sister doesn't start calling my wife every second, there's been heavy bombardment already for years (calling because of some great idea that popped into her head).

The grandparents are just happy for the news, immersed in wishful thinking. Well, there's always the possibility that things will not be problematic, but somehow I doubt it.

 

[David]

Though its an old thread, I was looking for somewhere to share this, just some thoughts and experience of family with alternative treatment to get a mole/suspect melanoma removed, though a mole, is a mole, is a mole, no need to get excited if one finds one, its not necessarily going to be anything, hope your in-laws are ok Aragon.

Though there are times when a mole/melanoma is no biggie to get removed through conventional medicine, like when they are caught in their early stage or some appropriate treatment, maybe its best not to take the first thing a doctor might recommend and not to delay in deciding what is the best thing to do, for ones specific situation.

A friend of my mothers paid no attention to a mole she had for years, until it started irritating her, at which point she had it surgically removed and several months later, cancer had spread all over her body. Though this is what seems to have happened.

My dad had a big mole on the side of his abdomen, that seemed to be growing, it was one he had for many years, he didn’t have it removed through surgery, he went to a healer who specializes in extracting mole/melanoma, with a cure that was handed down to him, made from herbs and a process that usually takes a few weeks to draw out what I can only described as it’s tentacles, though in my fathers case it took a few months, for a big disgusting thing with long tentacles to be drawn out.

I’m reasonably certain no surgeon could have removed that thing my dad had, without leaving some of it behind or taking some pieces of other organ with it, though he didn’t have a biopsy carried out, to see if it was malignant or not, though if something is asymmetric and growing, well it seemed the best option to take, that was many years ago, he’s in his mid eighties now.

Recently I was talking to a man, who had one drawn out from his forehead and was starting treatment on the second one, he said he wouldn’t take conventional treatment, because a friend of his had one removed and like my mothers friend, cancer had spread all over, he was convinced if his friend, had taken the same treatment he was undergoing, she would still be alive and he was not going to take that chance.

I’m no expert in these matters, but some alternatives to conventional treatment do seem to work. But a mole, is a mole, don’t freak out and do something one might regret. There’s a saying my mother uses, ‘when doctors differ patients die’, try and get a second opinion, find out what or who comes highly recommended, maybe one might find a natural alternative or conventional treatment more suited than the first one recommended by your doctor, along with what been mentioned, in this thread.

Do ones own homework, make ones own choice, whatever that will be.

Note: I do not know what herbs this particular healer uses

Added: Though the description of drawn out, might not be very accurate, as the body is not inactive in the process, one could say, the process enables the body to push it out, which might be closer to the truth.