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Well I wanted to post about what you see as a title, friendship status and the future, regarding friendships. We know that the world is going to change, we ourself's are experiencing the changes already and noticing them. But the world is walking blindfolded, so they are not aware of what's happening to their lives, relationships, health or to their minds. The majority of the population is just going with the flow that psychopathic rulers have imposed to us. So it is only normal that our friends follow this same trend, just go along for the ride to destruction.
So I have this BFF of mine, we have known each other for years and I care for her tremendously. We have shared a lot of good times, bad times, I've been for her when she needed me I even talk to her about more esoteric things and she listens, she knows I'm on this forum and she knows what kind of books I like to read. So for not treating me like a crazy person I do the same for her.
So the thing is that, she a couple of month ago had an abortion, she was super scared and finally did it after a couple of weeks of just coping with the situation. She was on a relationship with a younger man, or boy, probably two years younger than her.
She had the abortion, she recovered pretty well and was OK, and everything seemed to be fine. Until she received a phone call from her boyfriend's EX, the ex told my friend that she had been going out with Pepe (not real name for boyfriend) for as long as my friend (July) had been seen Pepe intimately.
The ex told July that she and Pepe had been going out for dinner and kissing for over 5 months, and that she didn't knew July and Pepe where a couple. So July immediately called Pepe and confronted him over the phone, first Pepe denied everything but after a couple minutes he confessed.
After that I received a desperate phone call from July, that was crying and sobbing, I told her that she could come to my house so that we could talk and try to calm her down. So she arrived, more chill, not crying anymore, we talked, and she practically was looking for ways in her mind to forgive him and make it as if nothing had happend, of course I was like "break it off right know" "he is a cheather" "he has no heart, he make you lived a lie for the whole summer" but no no no she didn't listend to me, or anyone that talked to her and told her, what seemed obvious. She later that day went to meet Pepe, and she basically told him that she forgave him.
OK so after a couple of days I meet with July for lunch, we went to get a salad and talk a little bit about her relationship situation, I was not in the mood of talking her out of anything so I just said to her "everyone deserves a second chance, but your basically telling him 'yeah you can cheat on me, I'll be here wainting for you to lie me some more'" So we dropped the subject, honestly it was killing my appetite and I didn't wanted to ruined my lunch...
So this experience make me realise that my friend July is completely weak, and does not listened to her rational mind, but on the contrary she listens to her fears. I'm pretty sure she got back with him out of fear of being alone.
Her and I had this project of making a clothing line, we have been planning this for years and haven't yet produced anything. So one of my intentions was telling her that the fashion brand was a no no, and that we should separate and each one do its own thing.
We are on very different situations, I personally do not want to work with her, I mean yeah she's my friend, my best friend, but I really don't want any more of her drama into my life. It's draining! I mean I'm even posting about it here...
So I was about to tell her that I did not wanted to continue to be on the project for the fashion line, and that I wanted to worked alone, but she kinda sensed what I was about to say and started to plan for things and setting dates to go make the dresses and send them to the manufactures and blah, blah, blah. I was weak, and I couldn't say no to her so we worked that same day on the designs and putted on inventory our fabrics and scheduled a day for taking the fabrics to the manufactures.
Of course that day has already passed and nothing happend, I not complaining I just probing my point that a business with her wold definitely not worked.
SO YEAH, I need advice, how can I tell a best friend that I don't want to work with her and that I do not condone the drama that she brings into her life and then spreads it all over anyone that is kind enough to listen to her?????? OMG it's going to be hard, this whole forgiving the boyfriend and welcome him with open arms has completely changed my perception about her.
EDU
Well I wanted to post about what you see as a title, friendship status and the future, regarding friendships. We know that the world is going to change, we ourself's are experiencing the changes already and noticing them. But the world is walking blindfolded, so they are not aware of what's happening to their lives, relationships, health or to their minds. The majority of the population is just going with the flow that psychopathic rulers have imposed to us. So it is only normal that our friends follow this same trend, just go along for the ride to destruction.
So I have this BFF of mine, we have known each other for years and I care for her tremendously. We have shared a lot of good times, bad times, I've been for her when she needed me I even talk to her about more esoteric things and she listens, she knows I'm on this forum and she knows what kind of books I like to read. So for not treating me like a crazy person I do the same for her.
So the thing is that, she a couple of month ago had an abortion, she was super scared and finally did it after a couple of weeks of just coping with the situation. She was on a relationship with a younger man, or boy, probably two years younger than her.
She had the abortion, she recovered pretty well and was OK, and everything seemed to be fine. Until she received a phone call from her boyfriend's EX, the ex told my friend that she had been going out with Pepe (not real name for boyfriend) for as long as my friend (July) had been seen Pepe intimately.
The ex told July that she and Pepe had been going out for dinner and kissing for over 5 months, and that she didn't knew July and Pepe where a couple. So July immediately called Pepe and confronted him over the phone, first Pepe denied everything but after a couple minutes he confessed.
After that I received a desperate phone call from July, that was crying and sobbing, I told her that she could come to my house so that we could talk and try to calm her down. So she arrived, more chill, not crying anymore, we talked, and she practically was looking for ways in her mind to forgive him and make it as if nothing had happend, of course I was like "break it off right know" "he is a cheather" "he has no heart, he make you lived a lie for the whole summer" but no no no she didn't listend to me, or anyone that talked to her and told her, what seemed obvious. She later that day went to meet Pepe, and she basically told him that she forgave him.
OK so after a couple of days I meet with July for lunch, we went to get a salad and talk a little bit about her relationship situation, I was not in the mood of talking her out of anything so I just said to her "everyone deserves a second chance, but your basically telling him 'yeah you can cheat on me, I'll be here wainting for you to lie me some more'" So we dropped the subject, honestly it was killing my appetite and I didn't wanted to ruined my lunch...
So this experience make me realise that my friend July is completely weak, and does not listened to her rational mind, but on the contrary she listens to her fears. I'm pretty sure she got back with him out of fear of being alone.
Her and I had this project of making a clothing line, we have been planning this for years and haven't yet produced anything. So one of my intentions was telling her that the fashion brand was a no no, and that we should separate and each one do its own thing.
We are on very different situations, I personally do not want to work with her, I mean yeah she's my friend, my best friend, but I really don't want any more of her drama into my life. It's draining! I mean I'm even posting about it here...
So I was about to tell her that I did not wanted to continue to be on the project for the fashion line, and that I wanted to worked alone, but she kinda sensed what I was about to say and started to plan for things and setting dates to go make the dresses and send them to the manufactures and blah, blah, blah. I was weak, and I couldn't say no to her so we worked that same day on the designs and putted on inventory our fabrics and scheduled a day for taking the fabrics to the manufactures.
Of course that day has already passed and nothing happend, I not complaining I just probing my point that a business with her wold definitely not worked.
SO YEAH, I need advice, how can I tell a best friend that I don't want to work with her and that I do not condone the drama that she brings into her life and then spreads it all over anyone that is kind enough to listen to her?????? OMG it's going to be hard, this whole forgiving the boyfriend and welcome him with open arms has completely changed my perception about her.
EDU