Guidance plea...

[marek760]

Hey sarahelizabeth
I was in a similar situation, in my experience if the other person is flirting or emotional cheating there is no true love in a relationship and It took me years to understand it, it was very painful for both of us.
good luck.

 

[sarahelizabeth]

Hello sarahelizabeth, sometimes the lessons life sends our way are not easily discernible at first, and your understanding only comes in hindsight.

It may be that your partner is 'not that into you' for whatever reason.
If he is indulging his passions in long distance relationship games, and yet is a FOTCM member, it is showing that he still has lessons of his own to learn, and only he can do that.

He does this from his own free will, just as you should exercise yours.
It's your move..

You could be right, maybe he isn't. He has read this thread now and will endeavour to reply soon. He's a bit of a lost soul at the moment, I'm not sure if even he knows what he wants. We both have so many lessons to learn.

It is hard sometimes to dicifer the lessons as they occur, as an outsider seeing in you get a lot more perspective.

 

[Konstantin]

This is how i see this situation.
Try to talk with him and explain to him how you feel about his behaviour. Tell him that it isn't right and that is hurting you . It is not important if the girl is on the other side of the world.The act of doing that is hurting you.You must explain that to him. If he is a person who wants to do the work and work on himself , i think that he can understand what he is doing and how he is out of the work by doing that.
In a relationship the both persons must be honest . Honest with yourself and with your partner. I think that is the base. I think that he is not aware how much he is hurting you. As soon as he really understands it , maybe he will change and understand what has been done.
Its a difficult and definitely not a black or white situation. As you have already said both of you have a lot of lessons to learn. This situation is maybe a big one for two of you.