Hemophobia

Tzara

A Disturbance in the Force
Out of all the things that I've faced in my life, hemophobia seems to be the most troublesome.


Let me begin by saying that I cannot cook, I've never been taught how to cook, and trying to learn is proving quite difficult. Especially after learning more and more about what types of foods I should be eating, and what not to eat. My opinions so far, closely match the opinions here on forums, but vary slightly to a degree.

The reason for the variance is because I have been reading Nora T. Gedgaudas' book "Primal Body, Primal Mind," which has an entire section focusing on how little sugar we actually 'need,' going as far as to say that over consumption has a cumulative toxic effect. I haven't finished the book, but the impression I get is that we can get this minimal amount of sugar from the dark, leafy greens we should eat with our fatty meats.

Fruits should be minimized, since they've been selectively bred to be sweeter than anything we would find in paleolithic times. However, I have no clue really what varieties of vegetables I should be eating to get the adequate vitamins and nutrients. Examples being vitamin C, I've never studied how many nutrients and minerals we need daily, and how to get them.

Another contradiction is that the author claims dairy is okay, when I see it circulating around here that this isn't the case. But I also wonder why we'd eat butter but not cheese? Aren't they both made from milk? Anyways, this whole confusion leads into my next point.

It's not that I do not like finding information on my own, but this in particular feels overwhelming a thought, before even approaching it. The idea of making a weekly food chart to ensure I get everything is incredibly daunting. So, I often just wind up cranky and angry with myself, and eat whatever I'm used to eating (carbs). Coupled with my lack of cooking knowledge and tools, I usually wind up with something that's barely edible.

I'm uncertain why this feels so incredibly unapproachable to me. I live with my boyfriend, and his answer is fast food. He'll happily feed on junk food with no affect, but I eat the same food and of course, have a host of health and weight issues. He convinces me he doesn't mind if I'm 'fat,' he just wants me to be 'happy,' yet will go above and beyond to pretend to not know all the things which are making me unhappy.

Well, I've made it known to him that either him or I, or both of us need to take a cooking class; and invest in cookware and healthy foods.
This circular logic mayhem has been going on for many years now, and it's taking it's toll on my sanity (what little I have left, I'm clingin').

And now, my final point, the point of my thread initially. I am severely hemophobic. This affects my health in two ways, first in that I find it impossible, unless on my death bed, to go to a doctor. The second way that this has affected me is, it takes me longer to read this book because I get woozy and have to lay down, but also when it comes to preparing meat.

Even the thought of an organ meat makes me feel lightheaded. I can barely take the meat from the package and put it on the pan, let alone cut fat off, or cutting the meat into smaller pieces. It makes me weary to read about things I know I need to know, like parts of the animal and what cuts are what.


In conclusion, I guess I'm not so much looking for a direct answer, as much as I'm looking for guidance. Or maybe someone who went through a similar situation. It also might be nice to know how others feel about the view of the book I'm reading, in particular the dairy and any thing that raises glucose levels (fruit/sweet potatoes) being just as bad as a candy bar in terms of physiological functions of the pancreas and insulin and blood sugars.

I should note also, I have watched the first installment of the EE breathing program, and wondering if this only works with stress, or if it could help me with the nearly passing out from blood/medical/organ meat?


Many thanks for your time,

Tzara
 
Tzara said:
In conclusion, I guess I'm not so much looking for a direct answer, as much as I'm looking for guidance. Or maybe someone who went through a similar situation. It also might be nice to know how others feel about the view of the book I'm reading, in particular the dairy and any thing that raises glucose levels (fruit/sweet potatoes) being just as bad as a candy bar in terms of physiological functions of the pancreas and insulin and blood sugars.

I should note also, I have watched the first installment of the EE breathing program, and wondering if this only works with stress, or if it could help me with the nearly passing out from blood/medical/organ meat?

Hi, I don't cook much either. Never been taught, always had somebody do it for me, and got accustmed to having food set in front of me. Really have zero interest in doing in now. However, I have forced myself to cook some rather plain things to eat for health reasons. Have you read the "Life Without Bread" thread here? It's all pretty much spelled out there. Basically, meat and fat and a very few carbs maybe in the form of non-starchy vegetables, is the optimal diet. Zero sugar.

As for the hemophobia thing, I do think the EE program may help you release some blocks about why you have this fear of blood to start with. One of the benefits of the program in addition to stress relief is the release of pent-up tramas and emotions. One of the EE teachers here can maybe explain it better.

How about cooking fish and/or chicken? Minimal blood there. Also, fast food will make you something other than "happy" as your boyfriend seems to think. It will ruin your health and mind.

I'd be willing to bet if you changed your diet to exclude those carbs and sugars and dairy that maybe the woozy feeling would go away and/or some of your irrational fears also, as what you eat effects your mind.

A lot of people here eat ghee, which is clarified butter, that has the casein removed, which is in cheese.

As for investing in cookware, you're best off with an old-fashioned cast-iron skillet. All those other materials such as the non-stick kind can leech out harmful chemicals into your food.

There is a lot of information about supplements and minerals here in the Diet and Health section. Use the "search" function to find information on whatever you are looking for. Or ask, if you can't find it. :)
 
In addition to what Mrs. P said, doing the writing exercises in the Redirect thread may be helpful as well in figuring out why you have this fear, for what it's worth. :)
 
Tzara said:
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In conclusion, I guess I'm not so much looking for a direct answer, as much as I'm looking for guidance. Or maybe someone who went through a similar situation. It also might be nice to know how others feel about the view of the book I'm reading, in particular the dairy and any thing that raises glucose levels (fruit/sweet potatoes) being just as bad as a candy bar in terms of physiological functions of the pancreas and insulin and blood sugars.

Tzara - I think Nora's book is one of the best I've read on Paleo. Some of the inconsistencies in her own book and those with the forum's current conclusions may be due to a desire to please the Weston Price (WAPF - Sally Fallon) folks. Reading her book, I sense an undercurrent to get a "thumbs-up" review in the WAPF Journal. This won't mean anything to you if you aren't familiar with the WAPF folks. So, I second Mrs. Peel's recommendation to go through the Life Without Bread thread - its all in there along with the evolution of the ideas.
 
Thank you very much, guys :)

I will definitely push forward with this book and take notes so that I can get a price estimate on these things suggested. Of course, I'll compare the notes with the thread mentioned, "Life without Bread."

I also am very grateful to being directed to the psychology forum, I didn't realize there was one! I've spent the last while reading there, not just the Redirect one, but others also. These should prove to be an invaluable resource for my journey ahead. It should be interesting what comes out of this four day journal session.

Thank you for your opinions on the book, too!

I'm going to go to sleep now, you 3 have given me much to consider and absorb.


Take care,

Tzara

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Just to add, the issue about butter is still a bit of a mystery. After not having eaten any for over a year, I reintroduced it back around 9 months or so and have no negative reactions, and neither do anyone else in my family (we only ate ghee until the reintroduction of butter). We now eat A LOT of grass fed butter.

Others have mentioned in the "Life Without Bread" thread similar experiences. Some tried heavy cream to increase their fat intake, but had very bad reactions. But eating butter (which is made from heavy cream) didn't have any of the reactions. I think it's the fat molecule configuration in the butter that somehow eliminates the negative casein reaction. Some people even mentioned that they have bad reactions with ghee, but not butter -- but that may be accounted for by a bad source of ghee.

Oh, also vitamins, including Vitamin C, and pretty much all micronutrients are all in the grass fed meat, especially organ meats, as you'll see in the "Life Without Bread" thread.
 
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