This is a post to vent a little, I'm really getting to a point where I resent the presence of my brother in law, let me explain; My brother in law and my sister has been married for about 8 relatively years ago but before that when I met him, I thought he was someone quiet and somewhat reserved, but occasionally made some jokes, many macho jokes btw (even mocked sometimes my sister's ex boyfriend but my father noticed that and told him of the situation and he later stopped with that) after almost four years ago they had a son (my nephew called matteo) and although I had lived with them in 2011 (for about 5 months), is in this month that I have me been on holiday with my family here when I actually saw the nature of my brother in law (his name is Lenio), he has a super narcissistic attitude, he often treats my sister as if she were a servant, he lives complaining for anything my nephew does, Ex: yesterday my nephew wanted to give him a peck on the cheek and Lenio refused him and said "matteo go away" (that part gave me a lot of courage) he treats well matteo only when people are around, the rest he lives complaining with the child and many times tells matteo "You are a man now, behave" He only has 3.5 years old!!! Almost everything matteo does annoyed him, when my sister goes away for work or other situation she tells me to take care of matteo, even is the father is there because she knows that Lenio do not care that much or just scolds, (does he really wants his son? I ask myself many times..)
Another case is that they have 3 dogs and Lenio is always yelling at them and commanded silence to stop barking, sometimes punishes locking them in the cage and left there until someone takes them out, even though I'm in his home, always break that rule and take them out early, I told my sister to give away the dogs if they will be treated in that way, but she says the house on the backyard even lacks heating to them to live out fully, I asked her then when expect to fix the house of dogs? All she say is that she is waiting for Lenio to do it (because lenio said that he will do that).. although Lenio is someone worker and has greatly improved the living conditions for my sister, is someone I do not see giving love to my sister and the little that gives is bothering or risking her (a bit rough sometimes)
My mom feels the same way and even my father (who came to live here with them) feels the same way I do and my mom tells me she plans to talk directly with Lenio, although I recommended he to do it with my sister and not with him, to not create stress in their relationship, because really how Lenio is raising my nephew is concerning us, my sister on the other hand is trying to give all the love to matteo to try to compensate the scolding that Lenio give him, Although I have a good relationship with my brother in law but in deep he angers me many times and I have always felt something not right with him, I know he had a very difficult childhood and her parents were hard on him, but I do not want to see that same path repeating with my nephew, I do not see him as psychopath or anything like that because he cares for the family (as a whole) and he worries we have food always and that my parents are comfortable living here, but his narcissistic personality could be dangerous for my nephew. :/
Another case is that they have 3 dogs and Lenio is always yelling at them and commanded silence to stop barking, sometimes punishes locking them in the cage and left there until someone takes them out, even though I'm in his home, always break that rule and take them out early, I told my sister to give away the dogs if they will be treated in that way, but she says the house on the backyard even lacks heating to them to live out fully, I asked her then when expect to fix the house of dogs? All she say is that she is waiting for Lenio to do it (because lenio said that he will do that).. although Lenio is someone worker and has greatly improved the living conditions for my sister, is someone I do not see giving love to my sister and the little that gives is bothering or risking her (a bit rough sometimes)
My mom feels the same way and even my father (who came to live here with them) feels the same way I do and my mom tells me she plans to talk directly with Lenio, although I recommended he to do it with my sister and not with him, to not create stress in their relationship, because really how Lenio is raising my nephew is concerning us, my sister on the other hand is trying to give all the love to matteo to try to compensate the scolding that Lenio give him, Although I have a good relationship with my brother in law but in deep he angers me many times and I have always felt something not right with him, I know he had a very difficult childhood and her parents were hard on him, but I do not want to see that same path repeating with my nephew, I do not see him as psychopath or anything like that because he cares for the family (as a whole) and he worries we have food always and that my parents are comfortable living here, but his narcissistic personality could be dangerous for my nephew. :/
