i may know a psychopath,, what can I do...

[Phill4]

hi everyone.
i have met someone who i felt in love with, we are no longer together, but i hear from him and I've been present in situations he creates to get what he wants without any empathy or remorse(including me off course) it is kind of long to explain the whole thing.
he is not a murderer as far as I'm concerned, but he lies all the time to get all he want, he doesn't seem to have any respect for anyone.
he is young looking, which makes it easy for people to get attracted to him, he is 27 and looks 18.
he usually look for young individual to get sex, the thing with that is that he have had been with people of 17, 16 and even 14 years old, according to him (which i think is true).
he calls and makes sure that the people who he is with momentarely fell in no danger and having a charming and personality that for some reason dissociates anyone, no matter what he had done before.
he would provide excellent excuses for everything, deceive people, and i know I'm not talking out o jealousy, because somebody else notice it since he had the same situation with my ex ex (my friend now).
manipulative, charming, and superficial. in looking at this other individual, at the same time i was reading that psychopath victims show PTSD. he, my friend, when he talks i sense him paranoid in his words and not in peace when i approach the subject of love...
i can remember at this time much of it, since is a lot!! and must of my memories are affected and clouded by emotions, fear, I'm just beginning to sort out the whole thing in a more or less psychological way.


my question here is simple..
I you were to find a psychopath, or have and suspicious of any.. what can someone do.
now It is true, one must begin by himself, but, if a have a situation, where i see it, only if i call the police would work to keep him away from hurting people, but neither i have real proves myself to do nothing, nor has he commit ed any mayor crime in my presence. what can i do, who can i call, where do i report. and how do i start to procede (if i should)


was I so naive, and lived in my imagination for so long?
or is he a real danger for others as he was for me?

 

[jordifs]

I also discovered around me, people that may well be a psychopath. Nonetheless I do not find something is to be done by me. Some of them I met for so long, that is shocking to see how ignorant I was. But certainly knowledge protects, because now I can interact in another manner. Specifically I avoid contact at all costs. To those I cannot avoid, like my boss, I force him to write email. Even he wants to talk about things, I always finish sending an email with the details. Eventually he shouts at me with a letter font face +16 and red colour. He is mentally ill, so I understand, but very important for me is to have a proof for what he is doing. If he shouts at me during a conversation, no record is saved, on email ... I got everything that happened for 3+ years.

For me I just try to avoid contact with them (forever).

 

[Tigersoap]

my question here is simple..
I you were to find a psychopath, or have and suspicious of any.. what can someone do.
now It is true, one must begin by himself, but, if a have a situation, where i see it, only if i call the police would work to keep him away from hurting people, but neither i have real proves myself to do nothing, nor has he commit ed any mayor crime in my presence. what can i do, who can i call, where do i report. and how do i start to procede (if i should)

Hello Felipe,

You should most probably stay away and cut off all contact with this person.
If you don't have any proof or someone ready to testify for some criminal behavior I don't think it would help to call the police right now.

The best is to keep reading and educate yourself about psychopathy and start learning to see such situations before they happen.

If you can it would be better to try to calm down your emotions, did you try the EE program ?

Take care.

 

[Aiming]

Hi Felipe,

I agree with Tigersoap that the most important thing is to stay away from this person in order to protect yourself as well as learning as much about this topic as you can.
As for how to protect others from him, you might find this recent thread of help.

.. he, my friend, when he talks i sense him paranoid in his words and not in peace when i approach the subject of love...
i can remember at this time much of it, since is a lot!! and must of my memories are affected and clouded by emotions, fear, I'm just beginning to sort out the whole thing in a more or less psychological way.

Have you read Women Who Love Psychopaths? I think both you and your friend could benefit greatly from it. Don't be turned off by the title referring only to women, it provides a lot of valuable information and insight into the topic of why a person falls for a psychopath, what the psychopath's methods are, describes the bonding process, and much more.

If you haven't yet done so, read up on this thread, too.

 

[T.C.]

Hi Felipe4

The answer all depends on the individual situation. The general rule is to have nothing to do with the person in anyway and get out of there. But life doesn't always make things that easy.

 

[seek10]

hi everyone.
my question here is simple..
I you were to find a psychopath, or have and suspicious of any.. what can someone do.
now It is true, one must begin by himself, but, if a have a situation, where i see it, only if i call the police would work to keep him away from hurting people, but neither i have real proves myself to do nothing, nor has he commit ed any mayor crime in my presence. what can i do, who can i call, where do i report. and how do i start to procede (if i should)


was I so naive, and lived in my imagination for so long?
or is he a real danger for others as he was for me?

It all depends on the situation. As much as possible maintain distance and play dumb at the same time watching his moves and keep distance. If he is not hurting you and hurting others gather info carefully without creating suspicision. It is tough and stressful to be with them, once we know how dangerous they are. if you haven't read 'snakes in suits' you may want to read, though that is written for corporate setting, still it is illuminating. Be guard on 'saviour' self image, with out complete knowledge of psychopaths and how they work.

 

[Phill4]

I understand and appreciate the comments.
i will read these links.
I do EE, yes.
extremely helpful by the way.
unfortunately i have no contact to any of the subjects he was with. just know that he stole money from someone.
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but i'd like to comment, to those who care about others the wrong way (like i did) no one out there deserves inner consideration as G. says, merely a waste of energy in uselessness. guess it was one of my illusions. Daydreaming and imagination and dissociation were feeding the keeping the horror constant. i became aware, and to destroy the so called "buffers" (of G.) became important to a great extent.

some people would just take all they can, and they will and they do! no matter how nice, or inclinated to the love/light thing you are. now i understand it.

YOU NEVER IGNORE NOTHING THAT HAPPENS TO YOU.
once you do, an attack most likely will come. everything must be checked carefully in your life.