Intruder

WhiteBear

Jedi Master
I'm not quite sure where this should be posted, so I'll post it here.

I usually talk to my wife on the cell phone when she walks home from work in the afternoon. Today, as we're talking, she unlocks the door, steps in, and says, "That's weird, my med kit is open in the middle of the living room floor." My wife is a Type 1 diabetic and the kit holds her pen-injectors of insulin, needles, and other meds.

My initial thought to tell her was, "Step back out and call the police." This wasn't what I said. I didn't want to over-react, so I told her, "Make sure there's nobody else in the apartment." She laughed, because we live in a two-room apartment and most of it is visible when you walk in the door.

She was still sort of chuckling when she walked into the bedroom and cut loose the most frightening, blood-chilling scream I've ever heard, then her phone went dead. It was like a scene from a horror movie.

I called "911" and gave the police my address and that there was someone in the apartment with my wife, and to please go check it out. While I was on the phone with the police, I got a "call waiting" beep, but, being on the emergency line, I couldn't just hang up and respond to the new call, I just had to sweat it out while the police took down my address and complaint.

When I was done with the police, I called my wife's number. She picked up (I half expected it to not be her, but the intruder, answering), and said he was gone, had pushed past her and left, and could I PLEASE leave work and come home.

Interesting things about this...we've been living here for 8 years, and neither we, nor our neighbors, have had anything like this happen...not even -remotely- like a daylight break-in.

This happens 3 days after I find this board.

My wife, who is a trained observer, only had the following description of the intruder.
-He was short, about 5 feet tall.
-He was stocky.
-He had a dark ball-cap.

No skin color, no discernible features...in fact, when we talked more about him later, she got a horrified look on her face and said, "He didn't have a FACE, he didn't have a FACE."

I had assumed that the phone line had gone dead when she screamed because she dropped the phone. She hadn't. She had been holding it the whole time, screaming after the departing intruder, "Who are you? What are you doing in my apartment?"

I'm not a believer in coincidence. I don't have proof, but I believe this invasion was linked in some way to our waking up. I also believe the intent was not to do physical harm, but to cause fear. I refuse to be frightened away from this new knowledge...but then, they didn't come after -me-.

Has anyone else had any problems similar to this? Is this a normal part of "waking up"?
 
Hi WhiteBear,

What a traumatic experience for your wife. I am glad that she was not physically hurt in any way. I wouldn't say that this experience is part of the normal experience for someone waking up, although I could be wrong. Perhaps it has something to do with you being in the Navy before, then again maybe not. Perhaps it's a junkie who happened to see the first aid kit and thought that he/she might get some easy drugs.

I also don't understand what your wife meant when she says "He didn't have a FACE, he didn't have a FACE." Was the intruder wearing a mask of some type? In any case, stay alert and let us know if you get more data.
 
Vulcan59 said:
Perhaps it's a junkie who happened to see the first aid kit and thought that he/she might get some easy drugs.
Thank you for responding. No part of our apartment is visible to people just walking by. You'd have to break in first, before it is visible. He was in front of our closet, when she walked into the bedroom, and I could see that he'd been rummaging around, and had a leather jacket and suit of mine separated from the rest of the clothes, still hanging on the bar inside. Nothing was taken, although there was disturbed dust on the shelf underneath our altar, as though things had been pulled out and examined, then pushed back in. Nothing was taken, even though we have several CD's, a laptop and other valuable items that could be easily pocketed and sold for cash.

Vulcan59 said:
I also don't understand what your wife meant when she says "He didn't have a FACE, he didn't have a FACE." Was the intruder wearing a mask of some type? In any case, stay alert and let us know if you get more data.
She could see no visible facial features, even though he was not wearing a mask of any type. No eyes, nose, mouth, etc. The police were still there when I got there, and I mentioned that I could smell the intruder. There was a distinctive smell that I've come to associate with toxins leaving the body through the skin. I've smelled it on unhealthy people and people who are toxic due to substance abuse.

I don't know if this increases or decreases the signal-to-noise ratio, but a Marine officer friend of mine recently took a position in the Pentagon...started last Monday, in fact, and I have a mathematician friend who works in MITRE, and I believe I've seen their name pop up in the reading, somewhere.
 
Whitebear, really has lived a horrible experience. I hope that you and your wife are well now that has happened. Is there anything else you can say about this subject? Perhaps the gait, dress, etc? Would be possible for the case of a common thief? Has missed something else? There was something more scrambled than the med kit?
I'm glad you have not suffered any damage.
 
I apologize that I have been unable to put this all down in one clear, concise posting. I'm still a bit rattled from it, and Jenn is crashed on the couch from emotional exhaustion. I'm glad you asked about his gait, because she said he didn't move in a human fashion. She said he "pushed past her on the way to the door", but then said he didn't actually touch her. When I asked her what she meant by "pushing past" if he didn't touch her, she got very upset and couldn't find the words for what happened.
 
WhiteBear said:
I don't have proof, but I believe this invasion was linked in some way to our waking up.

Hi WhiteBear. I'm sorry to hear about this. This sounds like it was a traumatic experience for your wife. :flowers:

I've read similar stories where a witness said something similar to "he didn't have a face". Considering the description of the intruder, could it be possible the person was simply wearing a stocking over their face and avoiding a direct look at your wife?

Also, considering the huge number of parallel cause-effect cycles occurring simultaneously in this world at any given moment, it would seem to me that the probabilities are greater that the break-in was not directly connected to your esoteric-related awareness. After all, everything that happened today and two days ago, also happened after you found this board, did it not? :)

I could be wrong, of course. I just thought that widening the picture a bit might give you some room to see more possibilities.

Please keep us informed. I hope your wife recovers OK.
 
What about the way he entered the apartment? There is a door or window forced?
Although it is possible that this is simply a thief, the case has some interesting dyes. Please take care you and your wife, and keep us abreast of any developments.
 
[quote author=Bud]Also, considering the huge number of parallel cause-effect cycles occurring simultaneously in this world at any given moment, it would seem to me that the probabilities are greater that the break-in was not directly connected to your esoteric-related awareness. After all, everything that happened today and two days ago, also happened after you found this board, did it not? :)[/quote]

No, I believe they're linked. Nothing was taken, even though there are many very portable, valuable items scattered throughout our apartment. The medkit was left open in the middle of the living-room floor, almost as though it was planted there to appear as though it was the reason for the break-in. It was left in the middle of the floor, still open and laid out, even though other items in the apartment were pulled out for examination and placed back carefully in their original positions. I'm assuming that they didn't take the amount of dust on our horizontal surfaces into account...lol. I've seen apartments that have been burglarized, and it's fairly typical that if the burglar hasn't found anything valuable, they pull stuff off the walls and damage things out of frustration and anger...not put them back carefully.

[quote author=msante]What about the way he entered the apartment? There is a door or window forced?[/quote]

The front door was jimmied by a screwdriver or something similar. It wasn't hanging open, and Jenn had to unlock it to get in...another reason it took her so totally by surprise that there was someone inside.

Thank you all for your support and input...this is helping me greatly to work through this here on the board with you. I'll definitely have Jenn read through your kind support when she gets up tomorrow.
 
I don't recall if I told the story of the intruder that broke into my house one night years ago and I woke up to find a strange man in my bedroom going through dresser drawers with a flashlight. The horror was that the drawer was full of boxes of bullets and on the wall in the hall outside the bedroom was a rack of rifles belonging to my ex. I was certain he was going to take the two, put them together, and me and the kids were goners. I pretended to still be asleep and, after a few minutes, the guy went out of the room. The phone was under the bed, so I rolled over, got it and called the operator in the dark, whispered what was happening, she connected me with the police emergency and, since it was about 2 a.m. in a small town, within two or three minutes, the house was surrounded. They came crashing in the front door with dogs and guns pulled... the intruder went crashing out the back door, went over the fence into the neighbor's yard, and then the next one, right into the arms of the police that had surrounded the block.

This was in 1990. I was pretty traumatize by it but mainly AFTER the fact, when I realized what COULD have happened, but didn't.

Of course, at the time, I was very much into the New Age thing where the only things that happen to you are those you "attract." I kept going over and over in my mind, trying to figure out what was wrong with me that I would attract an intruder and a possible life-threatening situation. Was I not thinking positively enough? Did I not say enough affirmations? Was I harboring bad feelings towards others?

Anyway, as things went on and other things happened, the Cs came along, more things happened, looking back, I realized that this incident did happen, in a way, because I "attracted" it. It was a physical manifestation of my state of vulnerability - that I was NOT aware of many things, that I was not really paying attention to reality. Rather, I was dreaming and thinking that all I had to do was think nice thoughts, be positive, affirm that all was well, and presto! all would be well. There was also a certain element there that involved my ex and his lack of protection for me and the children.

So, there are a number of ways to look at this.
 
Wow Bear, this was like a scene from some movie.
Hang in there and maybe install some good intruder alarm.

Few things came to my mind whilst reading your account of the events.
Maybe he was a drug addict- the fact that he want for the medical kit first thing he entered the house is telling.
Also the smell you noticed.
As for the lack of facial features, I cant remember where I read it but I remember that our conscious mind can play amazing ticks on us when we experience severe shocks or trauma. Its good thing that he just pushed aside your wife and fled.
 
As for the lack of facial features, I cant remember where I read it but I remember that our conscious mind can play amazing ticks on us when we experience severe shocks or trauma. Its good thing that he just pushed aside your wife and fled.


This was my first thought when reading about your wife's reaction, Whitebear, was that the shock of finding a stranger in the bedroom might have been enough to keep her from cataloging the guy's face.

Being robbed is a profound violation. I'm just glad your wife wasn't hurt when she surprised him.

It sounds to me like the guy was either an addict or looking to find supplies to sell to addicts. That he left the kit out on the floor makes me wonder if it was to remind him to pick it up on the way out, or as a warning that he was there..so that your wife would leave and call the cops instead of coming all the way in to interrupt him....but I may be giving the thief credit for brains he didn't really have. ;) In my experience thieves tend to be opportunists, and when they're not opportunists, mistakes are still made that can be glaring.

It might be good for you and your wife to vary your routines for a while, get better and more locks, or a dog, if the apartment allows pets. Very few thieves will wrangle with a dog, even a small one. Our Dex will bark at everyone, even us, until we identify who we are. (Especially if he can't smell us.)

Above all, hug the wife and ask if she would like a can of mace. :)
 
WhiteBear said:
I'm not quite sure where this should be posted, so I'll post it here.

I usually talk to my wife on the cell phone when she walks home from work in the afternoon. Today, as we're talking, she unlocks the door, steps in, and says, "That's weird, my med kit is open in the middle of the living room floor." My wife is a Type 1 diabetic and the kit holds her pen-injectors of insulin, needles, and other meds

Laura said:
I don't recall if I told the story of the intruder that broke into my house one night years ago and I woke up to find a strange man in my bedroom going through dresser drawers with a flashlight. The horror was that the drawer was full of boxes of bullets and on the wall in the hall outside the bedroom was a rack of rifles belonging to my ex. I was certain he was going to take the two, put them together, and me and the kids were goners. I pretended to still be asleep and, after a few minutes, the guy went out of the room. The phone was under the bed, so I rolled over, got it and called the operator in the dark, whispered what was happening, she connected me with the police emergency and, since it was about 2 a.m. in a small town, within two or three minutes, the house was surrounded. They came crashing in the front door with dogs and guns pulled... the intruder went crashing out the back door, went over the fence into the neighbor's yard, and then the next one, right into the arms of the police that had surrounded the block

Hi WhiteBear, i can only express the same sentiment to you and your wife's ordeal that know one was harmed, and that it opens one eyes to the point of how secure we all are in these very tense economic conditions that face the world today. I would also point about the two quotes from above that sensed the disturbance and maintained there integrity by not doing anything that might provoke the criminal to react to a desperate and confrontational situation with no option but to violence. I would think that it was a petty thief, looking as others have said was a quick fix as an opportunist.

Laura said:
Anyway, as things went on and other things happened, the Cs came along, more things happened, looking back, I realized that this incident did happen, in a way, because I "attracted" it. It was a physical manifestation of my state of vulnerability - that I was NOT aware of many things, that I was not really paying attention to reality. Rather, I was dreaming and thinking that all I had to do was think nice thoughts, be positive, affirm that all was well, and presto! all would be well. There was also a certain element there that involved my ex and his lack of protection for me and the children.

So, there are a number of ways to look at this.


But be forewarned that this is a gift. That a change may be necessary with security as to not promote the condition again. So perhaps a review of the situation with your wife for procedure's as when your wife entered and detected things were a miss. That your sense's were on Que to tell her to flee and call the police from a safe distance while maintaining her cool.

Do you have or can you install deadbolts and a door chain that secures the door. Do you leave a light on at night when not at home, with perhaps a radio on that's audible for out side the door if some comes uninvited? It will give the impression that some is in the home. If anyone has limited access to views in the home because curtain a kept drawn.

These are recommendations from a security company. Though all may not be achievable, some are and very inexpensive. Best of luck to all on this growing condition with in the population.

Not to put you in a state of fear and panic but this how this element operates and is promoted by certain clues that an attempt can be had because certain condition's make for better opportunities.

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Gimpy
This was my first thought when reading about your wife's reaction, Whitebear, was that the shock of finding a stranger in the bedroom might have been enough to keep her from cataloging the guy's face.

Being robbed is a profound violation.

I agree with both these ideas.

Indeed--this is a deeply traumatizing situation for the two of you but it sounds like your wife is experiencing the worst of it. My own experience with trauma is that some sort of therapy early own can help people process the emotions and ameliorate PTSD like symptoms later. Talk therapy alone with a good trauma specialist, or therepies that help make a mind-body connection like EMDR or Reevaluation Co-Councilling can really help people move on from such a stressful ordeal as this. Good luck to you both.
shellycheval
 
If someone is going to break into my house and possibly do bodily harm to my family, after observation or at least making sure it IS a stranger, I WILL SHOOT THEM WHERE THEY STAND.

I'd rather not shoot but sadly that is the world as I "see" it...

No more will I "turn the other cheek".
 
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