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Marie
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Hi,
I'd like to ask the help of the group in undoing a "knot" in my thinking that's been giving me trouble.
Here goes: I've wanted to do martial arts ever since I was a kid, only I never had the combination of money, time and opportunity - until very recently. So I signed up for a karate course a local guy gives from autumn to spring.
As you might guess I was pretty happy about starting up. I went to the first course real motivated, ready to train every day and everything. The problem is that, as I soon found out, I'm in the kids' class. I mean six and seven-years old. Besides me there are only two girls over three feet in height, and they are still a lot younger than me - one of them I know because I baby-sit her sometimes. I know it seems silly like that but it kinda eats up my motivation.
Now I understand that the first and most obvious answer is: "Suck it up", and yes it would do part of the job, in that I have enough "mechanical will" to drag myself there and back, but see that's precisely the point: I don't want to drag myself there. I could really love this. My stupid reaction to this situation might turn something that means a lot to me and that I've wanted to do for a long time into something I hate. Plus I figure that just dragging myself there has to be a bad attitude.
I have tried to analyze this. My first idea was that it was probably self-importance or something such, and self-importance may be a part of it, but not the whole. I live with a bunch of kids and I spend lots of time with them, it's not the being with/around kids that bothers me so much; it's more like I'm discouraged because I'm fifteen years behind everybody else.
And okay, there might be something like retrospective envy - like that when I was that age I would have given a lot to be able to get a course like that, but things didn't turn out that way, and now I feel like I'm too old to ever get real good.
There is another group with people closer to my age, but that's the group of those who actually know something - most of them are blue belts, or orange at least. If I can stick with it and learn I'll eventually get transferred to that group, but it seems like that would take six months or a year, and really my problem is making it that far.
The irony's not lost on me that I wanted to do martial arts partly to improve my mental strength, and now I am lacking said strength to get seriously started at all.
So I suppose that what I should do is adjust my attitude/point of view, only precisely how to do that and what I should adjust it to are mysteries to me. Probably it has something to do with motivating oneself regardless of context, but still I'm not really sure of how I would do that. As is probably obvious I would welcome any comments, ideas, suggestions etc.
I'd like to ask the help of the group in undoing a "knot" in my thinking that's been giving me trouble.
Here goes: I've wanted to do martial arts ever since I was a kid, only I never had the combination of money, time and opportunity - until very recently. So I signed up for a karate course a local guy gives from autumn to spring.
As you might guess I was pretty happy about starting up. I went to the first course real motivated, ready to train every day and everything. The problem is that, as I soon found out, I'm in the kids' class. I mean six and seven-years old. Besides me there are only two girls over three feet in height, and they are still a lot younger than me - one of them I know because I baby-sit her sometimes. I know it seems silly like that but it kinda eats up my motivation.
Now I understand that the first and most obvious answer is: "Suck it up", and yes it would do part of the job, in that I have enough "mechanical will" to drag myself there and back, but see that's precisely the point: I don't want to drag myself there. I could really love this. My stupid reaction to this situation might turn something that means a lot to me and that I've wanted to do for a long time into something I hate. Plus I figure that just dragging myself there has to be a bad attitude.
I have tried to analyze this. My first idea was that it was probably self-importance or something such, and self-importance may be a part of it, but not the whole. I live with a bunch of kids and I spend lots of time with them, it's not the being with/around kids that bothers me so much; it's more like I'm discouraged because I'm fifteen years behind everybody else.
And okay, there might be something like retrospective envy - like that when I was that age I would have given a lot to be able to get a course like that, but things didn't turn out that way, and now I feel like I'm too old to ever get real good.
There is another group with people closer to my age, but that's the group of those who actually know something - most of them are blue belts, or orange at least. If I can stick with it and learn I'll eventually get transferred to that group, but it seems like that would take six months or a year, and really my problem is making it that far.
The irony's not lost on me that I wanted to do martial arts partly to improve my mental strength, and now I am lacking said strength to get seriously started at all.
So I suppose that what I should do is adjust my attitude/point of view, only precisely how to do that and what I should adjust it to are mysteries to me. Probably it has something to do with motivating oneself regardless of context, but still I'm not really sure of how I would do that. As is probably obvious I would welcome any comments, ideas, suggestions etc.