Kisito
Jedi Council Member
My Christmas gift. I do not expect to have such a "salary"! Here's the story: My sister is a party three months in Argentina with his companion. Knowing that I'm currently unemployed, she asked me if I could take care of the rental of her apartment in Boulogne (a suburb near Paris) to host and wash the sheets. That does not make me happy, but as is my sister, I agreed. Also, she told me she would give me financial compensation, but it bothered me for several reasons. On December 20, I hosted a family of Morocco. There were a couple of 60 and 25 year old son, who was on crutches. His mother was pushing a wheelchair with a suitcase on it and the father was carrying two suitcases. They were there for the operation of son to Boulogne Hospital Ambroise Pare. Our place of meeting was in the square, just steps from the building. After being welcomed, I said that the apartment was on the second floor and not the lift. The mother and the father became hysterical. They did not frighten me, but pity. They told me they had indicated on the website "Rbn'b" with lift. They had booked for 17 days, and their son had to do back and forth frequently between the apartment and the hospital. The son remained calm. I phone my sister to tell him of the problem. I have more empathy for this family. I call my sister in Argentina but my sister rétissente to repay. Also it does not give me a solution, and I do not want to giving up that family. They decide to come for a night at the apartment. The son had to stop three times, his leg was hurting and he seemed out of breath. His father climbed on all fours up the stairs so that his son could s' hang in there. The son said "no" to his father, because he obviously did not want his father could stoop this way before a stranger. My compassion was very high, and I helped the son and then I went up the suitcases. The son s' relief collapsed on the couch. They begged me to find a solution. I phoned my sister to tell her if she could accept the new contract for a night instead of 17 days. I heard his companion who was not okay for one night, because my sister was losing too much money. I was upset because I had bias for the "poor family" Moroccan. I told my sister, we always criticize the materialists, and we preach sharing and generosity, and there you hesitate ... Also for short, my sister agreed to charge a single night. When I said goodbye to the family, my voice was moved, my eyes moist. I was completely taken from the emotional "stuck in my compassion. I yelled at my sister, and I apologized because I had not done since childhood. Two days after I come back for change the sheets. The family had left the keys on the table. When I returned, I was unpleasantly surprised. The whole apartment was dirty. I had to say it on purpose to put an apartment in a such chaos. One shelf was broken, and food scraps and crumbs littered the floor and on the carpet, and I'm not talking about toilets. I was obviously angry, but I was especially surprised to my error. Make them pay one night was a good thing I think. But I understood immediately what the purpose of a deposit. I have not thought about because I was blinded by my compassion. So I including that compassion and empathy are not good when we feel them because we fall into guilt. Guilt is an emotional trap. We need, not feel the emotion of others, but to understand it. The felt compassion, we slid into the trap of guilt.
