jeff said:
Hello,
I'm very sad because a friend, who is 22 years old has a lung tumor. She is French but of Palestinian origin. I'm very distressed and I don't really know what to do. I advised her to try to eat healthy food, to take supplement (vit C, vit D, magnesium, to stop to eat gluten and dairy) to practise EE and to have a positive mental attitude. I called a friend who maybe knows people who works on energy...
Doctors wants her to start a chemotherapy but she refuses.
I think and she agree with me, that her tumor is connected to the death of her father, in 1993, and many members of her family in Palestine...This is a very sad story.
In your point of view, what can I do?
:(
Hi Jeff,
Data has compiled a
list of SOTT articles dealing with cancer. Maybe you'll have time to go through this list and gather some nutritional / therapeutic / psychological guidelines for your friend.
I guess an important first step would be to clearly identify the cause(s) of this cancer in order to apply the proper strategies that will treat the(o)se cause(s).
Your friend might be onto something when she mentions her father. At least there are some similarities with what Louise Hay says about the meaning of lung cancer:
For example, Lung Cancer would be unresolved grief as it relates to the father on earth and/or unresolved grief over the separation from the Father in Heaven.
There might be some similarities with what I recently went through (phase III brain cancer). This topic is partly addressed in this excerpt (bolding mine):
http://www.cassiopaea.org/forum/index.php?topic=12958.0 said:
(L) Let's save that for later. We'll go to P***. (J) Is P***'s tumor malignant?
A: No.
Q: (G) Is it a glioma?
A: No. Something in between.
Q: (A**) Is it curable?
A: Anything is curable with the right action within and without.
Q: (A*l) So what can we do to help him?
A: It's up to him to decide.
Q: (Allen) Since I recommended reading Bernie Siegel, would the stuff that he suggests help?
A: Absolutely. But that will not be so simple for P** who tends to escapism.
Q: (DD) Will the chiropractic help him?
A: Chiropractic will help a little. Meditating in the way you are preparing to teach will help a lot especially with the intentional assimilation of the "Prayer of the Soul."
Q: (C) What about chemotherapy - is it necessary?
A: If he wants to check out sooner.
Q: (A**) What about getting angry? Would it help him to get angry at his {childhood abuse} in a real way, or is it too late for that?
A: It's not too late but that is not the problem at the deepest level.
Q: (L) What is the problem at the deepest level?
A: Grief for not being protected and cherished. He needs to grieve.
And those observations were spot-on. Far more spot-on actually than what I thought at the time of the session.
So we can see that the EE program in general and the "intentional assimilation of the Prayer" can help very much (they did!). Here is a link to the
Prayer in French.
And the deepest problem is grieving.
Intellectually, grieving is very simple, it's like turning a page. Emotionally it's long and excruciating, it's like dying. Actually I believe that one part of you really dies. In my case it was the death of the illusion of the love of my parents. For your friend
it's the end of her life with her father but it's not her death.
With my personal process in mind, I will try to apply this grieving process to your friend's case.
It's as if you grieve every aspect of your relation with your father one by one. You remember one aspect / one memory, then you dive in it / embrace it and feel/acknowledge with all the parts of your being that
it is not part of the present reality anymore.
You see it as it is : you're acknowledging and feeling fully that this aspect/this fragment of your relationship is not here anymore, as if you cut one by one all the emotional strings that connected you to your father. It doesn't mean that you forget him, it means that you
turn the page (emotional, unconscious...) from a world with your father to a world without your father.
The most important parts are emotional and unconscious. Emotionally it leads to rivers of tears, frustration, sadness, despair, feelings of unfairness, rage and anger. At the unconscious level, this process manifested strongly in dreams. Journaling them, feeling them, contemplating them might be a good idea.
Recently, I started to go beyond those overwhelming negative emotions and see some lights at the end of the tunnel. It's difficult to share this mostly emotional and unconscious process with words then I wrote a
poem attempting to give a glimpse of what happened behind the intellect.
that some young people feel this way. I used to go through terrible depressions as a young person and I wish I had had all this help that I find here on this forum back then. I would not have wasted so many sleepless nights crying myself to sleep, forcing myself to get up from my bed when I felt like dying all the time. It's terrible. I think no one should go through that. There is a hope here and I hope she chooses to live. There are people here that care and she is very lucky. A lot of people are not that lucky.
