Narcissistic Love Songs?

[HowToBe]

[Note: I was a bit unsure where to put this. I eventually decided to post it in the "Political Ponerology: Macrosocial Evil" forum as opposed to the "Psychopaths at Home, at work, and in the Garden" forum because music affects so many people and thus seems to relate to the societal more than the individual scale.]

My brother mentioned to me that he has a Jim Brickman song which seems pretty creepy to him, although he also said most people might not tend to think so. He suggested that Jim Brickman might be narcissistic, but since I'd never heard about him, I decided to look up some of his music to see what it was like and why my brother might say that. I noticed the song titles that came up were all "warm and fuzzy" types of titles, such as: "Destiny", "Your Love", "The Gift", "Beautiful", "Love of My Life", "Never Alone", etc. It appears he does love songs exclusively, from the selection I looked at. I listened to the song "Destiny", and it does seem pretty narcissistic to me (it's not the song my brother mentioned). Having recently read Perceval's post, "On Love", I was inclined to analyze the lyrics, and I thought I would share a quick analysis of them here. Please let me know if this is noise, or if I'm really off in my interpretation.

My comments are in brackets.

What if I never knew
What if I never found you
I never had
This feeling in my heart

How did this come to be
I don't know how you found me
But from the moment I saw you
Deep inside my heart I knew
[Hmm... seems like "me, me, me" so far. It doesn't appear to matter how the other person feels, because 'deep in his heart', he already 'knew'...]

Chorus:
Baby you're my destiny
You and I were meant to be
With all my heart and soul
I'll give my love to have and hold [!!!]
And as far as I can see
You were always meant to be
My destiny
['You wouldn't dare to fight Destiny, would you?!' I get the feeling that the lover the song is addressed to is being set into a guilt trap to keep them from considering leaving the relationship. I am reminded of Darth Vader and Emperor Palpatine's obsession with proclaiming Luke's "destiny" is to join them.]

Oooohhhhh
I wanted someone like you
Someone that I could hold on to
And give my love until the end
Of time
[This is very much about the singer's wants and about possessing the other person, it seems. Until the end of time, even! 'Only a cruel person would reject such an offer of "love", nevermind whether it was asked for, or whether it is beneficial or harmful to the partner!']

Oohhh
But forever was just a word (just a word)
Something I'd only heard about
But now you're always there for me
When you say forever I believe
['It would be cruel to ever shatter my belief in you.' In other words, "You promised, so you can never leave no matter what I do!"]

Chorus:
Baby you're my destiny
You and I were meant to be
With all my heart and soul
I'll give my love to have and hold
And as far as I can see
You were always meant to be
My destiny

Oooooohhhh

Maybe all we need
Is just a little faith [There's that word...]
Cuz baby I believe
That love will find a way
['If things start going badly, it must be because you don't have enough faith in the power of love!']

Heyyyyyyyy

Ohhh

Baby you're my destiny
You and I were meant to be
With all my heart and soul
I'll give my love to have and hold
And as far as I can see
From now until eternity
You were always meant to be
My destiny

You're my destiny
Yeahh yeahh oohhh

This song seems to set the singer up as the "loving", righteous one, and to make the "loved" one seem to be the one with the problem if he/she doesn't accept what ever form of "love" the singer dishes out. The phrases I placed in bold seem to reveal the nature of the "love" the singer is referring to; something which is used to buy possession of the other person. In other words, this "love" is not something that is given for the "loved" one's benefit; rather, it is simply an expression of want or need, or a way of attaining these things. It reminds of what Laura's preface to Political Ponerology (which I'm currently reading along with The Wave) says; "[Psychopaths] "feel" need/want as love, and not having their needs/wants met is described by them as "not being loved"."

Is this analysis accurate? Does anyone have other examples of pathology in love songs?

For what it's worth.

 

[bluenorther]

I think most love songs are garbage.

When I got this computer, one of the first things I discovered was the online seduction community-- David Deangelo, Ross Jeffries, "Mystery" and so on.
Whatever feelings you have about them, they've gone that extra mile to help out guys (like me) who have grown up utterly clueless about how to make romance work.

After following the dating gurus long enough, it's become impossible for me to listen to most gooey pop music.

 

[cubbex]

I think most love songs are garbage.

When I got this computer, one of the first things I discovered was the online seduction community-- David Deangelo, Ross Jeffries, "Mystery" and so on.
Whatever feelings you have about them, they've gone that extra mile to help out guys (like me) who have grown up utterly clueless about how to make romance work.
After following the dating gurus long enough, it's become impossible for me to listen to most gooey pop music.

LOL same for me, I have found that when I fall in love I was open to be hurt, and in some kind of trance mode. And without being in trance, I cannot be romantic, and I really, don't like the gooey romantic social program of today, is a little stupid for me, and that doesn't mean I don't like romance of course.