vinceb54
A Disturbance in the Force
In my normal daily travels/errands, if I see someone on the median or outside a gas station, I like to donate about $5. In fact, I try to keep some cash on me in small bills just for these purposes. I like to simply do this as the opportunities present themselves. In other words, I do not drive around all day looking for people to help. I do this partially because a few years ago I had no job and little money, lived in my vehicle, and relied on such sources for gas money etc. While I'm not rich now by any means, I feel that now that I am in a better position that I should reciprocate the charity I was given previously. I average 1 or 2 of these per week.
Before I ask my question, I will add that I understand it is best to give not expecting any future benefit and to give with no strings attached.
For example, today I went to Denny's by myself for lunch. When I was leaving, I saw a man on the median flying a sign. So, I walked over and gave him the extra $4 in my wallet and tried to brighten his day a bit.
On my way home, I would be lying if I stated here that I did not briefly hope that my small action would not either come back around, bring good karma, boost my polarity, etc. I try not to dwell on such thoughts, but I fail to see how this is possible to avoid. I'm wondering how much I should strive to not do this?
Second, it is my personal preference to give to someone that I personally know, if possible. I am curious as to your thoughts of whether or not knowing the person matters or not?
Let's say you go to a gas station, and two people are panhandling. You are friends with one and have never seen the other. You have a $5 bill and can't get change. Who do you donate to? How much do you think it matters?
While I'm on this topic, it's my personal preference to help a person directly. I don't generally donate to charities or drop off extra clothes to goodwill because I *think* it's best (most of the time) to give it directly to someone who needs it. It's kinda "faster", more "efficient", and has a personal touch that a non-profit organization does not have. I'm curious if you agree with my philosophy?
One last thing, and this is strictly my opinion, but I do not agree with people who claim that giving money to homeless people is enabling them to consume alcohol/drugs. Yes, many homeless people do these things, but your small donation is not going to sway them one way or the other, and you are still shining a bit of light into their day by adding a kind word with your money. If you insist upon this belief, then I would encourage you to ask the person what they need and try to accommodate if reasonable. However, I do believe that all spiritual material (that I've read) agrees that it's ideal to give and then consider it out of your hands.
For this reason, when I give money, I usually say something like "hey man, I know it's not easy out here because I used to live in my car, so here's a little something. Use it on whatever you want!"
Before I ask my question, I will add that I understand it is best to give not expecting any future benefit and to give with no strings attached.
For example, today I went to Denny's by myself for lunch. When I was leaving, I saw a man on the median flying a sign. So, I walked over and gave him the extra $4 in my wallet and tried to brighten his day a bit.
On my way home, I would be lying if I stated here that I did not briefly hope that my small action would not either come back around, bring good karma, boost my polarity, etc. I try not to dwell on such thoughts, but I fail to see how this is possible to avoid. I'm wondering how much I should strive to not do this?
Second, it is my personal preference to give to someone that I personally know, if possible. I am curious as to your thoughts of whether or not knowing the person matters or not?
Let's say you go to a gas station, and two people are panhandling. You are friends with one and have never seen the other. You have a $5 bill and can't get change. Who do you donate to? How much do you think it matters?
While I'm on this topic, it's my personal preference to help a person directly. I don't generally donate to charities or drop off extra clothes to goodwill because I *think* it's best (most of the time) to give it directly to someone who needs it. It's kinda "faster", more "efficient", and has a personal touch that a non-profit organization does not have. I'm curious if you agree with my philosophy?
One last thing, and this is strictly my opinion, but I do not agree with people who claim that giving money to homeless people is enabling them to consume alcohol/drugs. Yes, many homeless people do these things, but your small donation is not going to sway them one way or the other, and you are still shining a bit of light into their day by adding a kind word with your money. If you insist upon this belief, then I would encourage you to ask the person what they need and try to accommodate if reasonable. However, I do believe that all spiritual material (that I've read) agrees that it's ideal to give and then consider it out of your hands.
For this reason, when I give money, I usually say something like "hey man, I know it's not easy out here because I used to live in my car, so here's a little something. Use it on whatever you want!"