Recent assault, Attack by an OP?

[slowone]

I wanted to share a situation that happened to me three weeks ago. I can't list all details as it is still ongoing but I wanted to share this with the forum.

I was assaulted whilst collecting my 3 year old daughter from Nursery by another mother from another school. Both of us involved are middle aged and what I would term middle class.

I am not proud of my actions, I got frustrated with the fact she was turning her car in the entrance to the Nursery and swore at her under my breath and in my car (windows closed). I didn't even realise she was looking at me. She was in a four by four and I in a mini so the difference in height meant she could see me clearly but not vice versa.

Anyway she jumped out of the car we exchanged words , she walked away and then returned to hit me round the face. Her children were in her car , My daughter in mine. What I found so scary was the look of pure hatred on her face when she did it. She showed no remorse and walked back to her car still berating me. She was apparently disgusted with my language in front of my daughter and thought she would correct me by hitting me in front of my daughter. The strange twist is that we know people in common . The police are now dealing with the case as it was caught on CCTV. She never reported the assault herself or came forward, the police contacted her! I await the conclusion.

I decided to use the assault as an opportunity to work on my own programs, impatience, intolerance and to re read the Wave book 5 , Petty Tyrants. Forms of attack truly come in strange ways!

 

[PepperFritz]

Hi slowone:

I am sorry to hear that you've had such an upsetting experience. I've had similar encounters with the type of person you are describing, and it is always a deeply shocking experience. But, as you point out, one that has great potential for personal growth and lessons.

However, I question your assumption that this person is an "Organic Portal", and would suggest that you may have not quite grasped the concept. As Laura and the C's remind us, it is not extreme behaviour like that you encountered that tends to characterize an OP, but rather an extremely smooth and "uber normal" demeanor, and an excellent ability to "mimic" having a soul and "normal" emotions. They also point out that OPs "cannot be discerned except by long and careful observation and experience".

It's possible that the woman you encountered is a psychopath (whom the C's suggest are "failed" or "malfunctioning" OPs), but again, I think that would be a premature conclusion to come to based on one brief encounter. She could have just as easily been someone with severe anger-control problems or a Personality Disorder, and/or an angry Narcissist.

But no matter. The important thing is to recognize such people as DANGEROUS -- i.e., they cannot be "reasoned with", and they should definitely not be poked at with a stick. The likelihood of encountering one on any given day is a good reason to gain control over your OWN anger, and to think twice before being aggressive towards a complete stranger. Such people are indeed "Petty Tyrants" who can help us to develop self-control and discipline, temperance, and general forebearance. They have certain taught ME to not take their behaviour "personally" -- anymore than you would be personally offended at an attack by a wild animal. As Casteneda might say, "May you have many Petty Tyrants in your life!"

:)

 

[slowone]

Thanks for your reply. I take on board what you are saying. I think that this may be one of the most illuminating encounters I have had! If nothing else it has taught me that attack comes through your own weakest point, i.e my impatience, and I will definately be working on my "weak points".

Maybe what I needed was a "slap in the face" to wake me up!

 

[Kel]

She was in a four by four and I in a mini so the difference in height meant she could see me clearly but not vice versa.

I'm not quite sure of your logic here. In my experience, while driving a large vehicle, it is difficult to see "mini"s. But I can't imagine how you could have missed seeing a large 4x4 if you were the one driving a mini. Have you ever driven a large 4x4?

I've also noticed that people are so much more rude when driving in their car than they would be if they were face-to-face, standing in line, for instance. It seems that most people are extremely impatient with other drivers and inconsiderate.

I try to remind myself to be considerate and to just CHILL Dude!

 

[anart]

Hi Kel,

I think she meant that the woman could see her facial expression, but she could not see the woman looking at her, due to the height difference - not that she could not see the 4x4. fwiw.

 

[slowone]

Hi Kel,

I think she meant that the woman could see her facial expression, but she could not see the woman looking at her, due to the height difference - not that she could not see the 4x4. fwiw.

Thanks Anart thats absoultely what I meant, and yes people are much more incosiderate and impatient when driving. I try very hard not to be impatient or rude.

 

[Z...]

I think driving ( especially if you live in Mediterranean country where everyone drives like lunatic and roads seem like inferno in summer months) is quite a good opportunity to work on self observation and cleaning of the machine.
I used to suffer a lot from the road rage fits in the past ( thankfully I never opened the window or did anything stupid ) - now I see it as a great opportunity for work on yourself.
Slap in the face is definitely the best way to wake up ;)