Should I move abroad or not?

Mari

Mari

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Hi all,

well I don't know where to start.

Basically, I'm in kind of a life decision and I would like if you could share your opinion on this one.
But first some short background.

My parents have been energy suckers for my hole life.
I've managed to go away from it and it was fine during this period.
Then I had my first child and my partner and I were looking for a house to buy, somewhere far far away.

But it happened that we've found a house near our birth town and: well we moved back.
Thinking: perhaps there's something we must do here to finish this all circle and maybe everything will be OK now that we have kids and all...
And it was fine in the beginning and then everything started to collapse in many aspects: first financial (from pretty fine living to basically collecting money for diapers) and the energy sucking doubled; just to say the biggest ones.
I mean, the problems while rebuilding a house is a story for itself.

Anyway, two months ago there was a big fight we all were into and nobody is now speaking to anybody and we've decided to move; I mean my partner, my children and I.

I've posted my CV on several job search portals in one country, answered a few job applications - nothing.
Then I've decided a month ago to post my CV on a few other job search portals but in different country and the next day phone started to ring!
I was stunned!
Basically, I'm IT professional in one more or less new technology and my profile and experience is now highly wanted across Europe.

And I did this interview and they liked me and now I'm waiting for a green light to confirm. Agent says that they had to do some bureaucracy mumbo-jumbo to confirm.

BUT, lately I'm reading again the Wave series to refresh memories and now I'm in this part with Greenbaum and all the convenient synchronicity that happened to people around Laura and herself and today while I was having a walk I've realized that perhaps it's not how it looks like.
This great opportunity arises WHILE I'm reading Wave AGAIN AND I'm in the part with convenient synchronicity!

I don't know; for now 2 years I've been doing a lot: Oh, what to do, how to get out of this all mess....?
And then this fight happened and 2 months later this great opportunity happened for me to move away from all this mess and put my life on the track again.
And it felt so right! Another thing is that I have a cousins in that country who could help us in the beginning, where we could stay until we find an apartment for us...... It felt, NO, it still DOES feel so great!

And then today it hit me; perhaps it's a some kind of a trap!? Could this job headhunters are really A headhunters!? Could this moving to another country is only to get me where they want me to be?

Now I'm thinking: perhaps I'm over thinking this? Why would they want me...?
And it hit me as I'm typing that an hour ago I was reading chapter 20 where C's said:
A: Several answers follow:
number one, Nobody is a “nobody”.
Number two, it is no trouble at all for aforementioned forces to give seemingly individualized attention to anybody.
...


Basically the job seems great! And I would pay off my smaller debts in 6-7 months while here it would take me years; in 4 years my mortgage is gone and the other bank loans! This would take me at least 15 years here while I would be thinking if I should buy bananas for my children or not.

I'm a mess now and would appreciate If you would give me an opinion on this one.


Kind regards,
Marija
 
I think you are overthinking. If you have an offer there and not one here, and they can handle the bureaucracy, and you are sure you can do the job, go for it.
 
Thank you Laura!
I really appreciate your answer and yes: it DOES sound good.
We were very happy as a couple and everything when we were away from here.

So, cross fingers everybody! ;)
 
Laura said:
I think you are overthinking. If you have an offer there and not one here, and they can handle the bureaucracy, and you are sure you can do the job, go for it.
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And I share Laura's opinion! Since you have a cousin there, he can still check and ensure this job offer is not a racket if you have doubts! So all cards are in your hands!
Just my 2 cents!
 
Marcus Aurelius said:
Laura said:
I think you are overthinking. If you have an offer there and not one here, and they can handle the bureaucracy, and you are sure you can do the job, go for it.
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And I share Laura's opinion! Since you have a cousin there, he can still check and ensure this job offer is not a racket if you have doubts! So all cards are in your hands!
Just my 2 cents!
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I, too, agree that you may be overthinking this. With you putting your CV online in a different country, you were, more or less, opening up your options and because of this, you could think of it as the Universe sending you opportunities. It's just up to you to see them and decide whether to take what is being offered, or not.

Also, if these are the only offers you are getting, I would think that they really should be considered. That is if things are taken care of, as Laura has said, and you can do the job.
 
Thank you all for sharing your opinion!

Yes, I think that this fight was the trigger to really start changing things in my life; sadly that something terrible have to happen in persons life to really start changing things around.
I mean, I was like: ooooo what to doooo... Thinking and calculating and spinning in circles and really not doing much.

This job is pretty much what I'm doing right now, but salaries in my county are not very good and employers don't really appreciate the work and expect you to work for peanuts while this job is payed 4 or 5x better abroad.
And since my salary isn't enough anymore to last the whole month (this world crisis and my second pregnancy took 1/4 of my salary off + we had a series of unplanned and big expenses in the last 1,5-2 years; i.e. grandpa dies leaving his debts so we had to take jet another bank loan to pay this), the debts are too big now (and are getting bigger) and I've figured: why not moving away, do the same thing I do here for better salary? And be away from this all mess that was going around, I mean, I have two small boys and they really don't need to see this things and grow up in this kind of environment.

And yes; I also tough: well, when you've stopped complaining about the situation and started on acting how to improve it, the Universe reacted!

But then I was reading this all in the Wave and basically frightened myself with all of that, overthinking it, and decided to post my thinking here.
I don't post much, so you see - it bugged me a lot.

Thank you for your answers and push and this gives me currage to continue!

Marija
:)
 
Hi Marija,

I've been in exactly the same shoes. IT industry, the possibility of moving abroad and earn 5 times more money with the exact same work you do in your country. During I was getting ready for this (which took years in my case) I talked to a lot of people and expected to inspire them to do the same thing. You might be suprised how many were utterly uninterested in moving abroad. They knew they live in relative poverty, they knew they could easily get ready for living elsewhere (learn the language, spare some money for the initial steps...etc.), it was crystal clear that everything in their life could only get better, and they still wouldn't move. If you asked them why, they could not say anything. They would just stay where they were, and could not give any reasons for it. I think these may be the people that have life contracts binding them to a specific place.

The fact that you took inititative and applied for positions abroad might be a clue that your following your inspiration, and you have to go.

Another clue: check your feelings when you first get there. Enthusiasm? Sadness? I moved abroad 4 years ago. As I entered the airport terminal after landing (with just a suitcase in my hand, with no permanent place to live yet), an overwhelmig feeling of "arriving home" took over me.
 
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Thank you Solar!
This was a real push!
:)

Thank you for sharing!

I don't have much time; my children are still small (4 years and 1 year) so if I act now, they will adopt more easily to new place and new country, learn new language much faster....

And what I like the most: this city is by the sea - I've always wanted to live by the sea! :)
And it's green and people there are friendly....
Everywhere I look, I can only find pro reasons to move!

I'm still waiting for the green light....
 
Solar said:
... it was crystal clear that everything in their life could only get better, and they still wouldn't move. If you asked them why, they could not say anything. They would just stay where they were, and could not give any reasons for it. I think these may be the people that have life contracts binding them to a specific place.
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Thank you, Solar, for this concept...it is my daughter's dilemma as well and this is a new way for me to think about it.
 
Good luck with your decision Mari. I'm sure you'll choose correctly :)
 
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