The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent
Saw Chu post this in the Romance thread and it seemed timely to share the latest book I've been digging into!
Very true! I think there are even more kinds of people: Some need to stop looking so badly, and then it appears. Others just choose celibacy, others need some serous work on themselves before being ready to give and receive, etc. etc. So, that's why we say it's not a simple recipe. People are very different, and so are their lessons. The novels show that too, in a sense.
At a high level, the book breaks down giving and receiving, particularly with respect to touch. To illustrate:
| Giving | Receiving | |
| Doing | "Serving" | "Taking" |
| Being Done-To | "Allowing" | "Accepting" |
Leading to dynamics of "Serve-Accept" and "Take-Allow".
The rest of the book explores this further, including exercises - will produce further notes as I go.
Content note - the author is, shall we say, a 'libtard', and couldn't resist injecting such content into the book - but I feel like the rest of the content is valuable enough.