When I'm faced with something that seems complicated from the on-set and not sure how to proceed past the mental processing, into a working model or hypothesis, I tend to mentally take pieces of the puzzle apart to find a starting point. From there, it's to try to envision the out come or goal of the intended action.
If I have a starting point and a fairly good idea of the desired outcome, I keep myself open to the possibilities and opportunities that present themselves along the way, towards that goal. Nothing is "set in stone" but open and fluid. I may be use to doing things in a certain way, through experience or being taught and instructed, only to find myself in a situation that expresses "a different way" of approaching my goal, in a simpler and more refined way. In that case, I have the option of falling back on experience in any given objective or I can "test the water" in expanding my awareness - of another way of doing something that brings about the same results towards the intended goal.
I think, one of the beautiful things about our Species, is that we are not cookie-cut-outs of one another but multi-talented with divest back grounds and experience. One size doesn't fit all - even though outside interference's have pushed forward with that mind set. There's something deep within our essence, that expresses "freedom of choice and the willingness to express that." We want that, not only for ourselves but for our species, as a whole. Most importantly, we're born with protective instincts; to protect ourselves, our families and extended family. Our young one's are an extension of our life, with our genetic make-up, traditions and knowledge we're passing on. We have an innate desire to protect them from harm.
Infernal, as a Father, you already have a starting point with your children. Along with providing for their basic needs and security, nurture their curiosity in learning new things about the environment around them. Numbers, color's, textures - letter's, the alphabet and forming words, so they can properly identify things and places by their names or locations. Teach them their name (including Mom's and you), their home address (and in time - phone #) as a security measure.
I had an experience with my 2 y.o. Grandson - that threw an old fashion taboo out the door. My Daughter-in-law was folding clothes on the Diningroom table while I was visiting for a few minutes on the weekend. My Grandson needed his diaper changed, so Grandma elected to help out. We have a nice arrangement, where by, the Grandparent's take turns during the week to watch him, while Mom and Dad work full time jobs. We (Grandparent's) usually leave them alone on the weekends, unless it's a Holiday, so they can spend time together and do their own things. But on this day, I was dropping off a few idems from the Farmer's Market and pitched in to help for a moment. As I was changing my Grandson's diaper, he pointed and said, "Penis - Grandma - this is my Penis."... this is my belly button, etc. I must have turned ten shades of green (out of shock and embarrassment) which my Daughter-in-law immediately noticed. I finished dressing him and he was off and running. She explained, that as Parent's, they felt it was necessary to teach their Son, proper names and association of his body, so as, not to set up verbal distortions in reporting any suspected sexual abuse, in the event something was attempted in the future. He was instructed on "good touch - bad touch" and how to interact with other children. The "do's and don'ts."
Plus, learning how to share his toy's and play with other children. She has a career in working with children, day care's and elementary school children. Since child sexual abuse has finally come out in the open and Law's are beginning to address the problem, additional education and instruction have been given to Care-givers on behavior and physical symptoms and what to look for - in identifying abuse. In teaching children the proper names for body parts, it's reasoned, that it would subtract or neutralize any associated embarrassment or shame in reporting an incident of suspected sexual overtones or physical contact. I have to admit, I agree with her assessment and had to take some time out, to address my own issues in my own programming. (A 2 y.o. just taught his 60 y.o. Grandmother a new way of looking at a situation. )
Both of my Son's are in their 30's and married. As for the "High Strangeness" and struggling with our "true reality" and relating that knowledge to them - it has been a slow process but a steady one. In a sense, I've had to absorb and process the information within myself - and work through the process of understanding "truth" before being able to pass on that knowledge to them. Explaining diet and working on oneself was my first attempt. Ordering books, reading and re-reading, then passing them on, for them to read has helped open up discussion on the main topics. It's a process - in motion but we all have to start somewhere.
