What do you get when you mix exhibitionism with learned psychopathy?

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http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070221/ap_on_re_us/online_breakup_3
ap said:
Breakup becomes YouTube breakthrough

By MIKE BAKER, Associated Press Writer Wed Feb 21, 3:52 PM ET

RALEIGH, N.C. - Was it live ... or was it just a stunt for YouTube?

A one-time college couple say their melodramatic Valentine's Day breakup — complete with singers, hundreds of spectators and a profanity-laced tirade — was real. Those who were there say it all seemed a little too staged.

Still, there's no question it's an Internet hit.

"It really wasn't supposed to be like this," said Mindy Moorman, the girlfriend who got dumped. "The fact that it's gotten so big is quite comical to us."

The various videos of Moorman's hostile breakup with University of North Carolina senior Ryan Burke have been watched more than 300,000 times as of Wednesday — making it one of the most popular clips on YouTube.com in recent weeks.

Burke said Wednesday he invited Moorman, a sophomore at nearby North Carolina State University and his girlfriend of four months, to join him at a popular gathering spot on the UNC Chapel Hill campus for a "surprise." It was not only Valentine's Day, but Moorman's birthday. The couple had plans for a dinner date that night.

Hundreds of students and several photographers were waiting for the couple on campus after Burke promised "a bad public breakup" on the Web site facebook.com: "You don't want to watch, but you can't look away."

Burke greeted Moorman with a hug. Then she appeared surprised when an a cappella group of singers started belting out the Dixie Chicks hit "I'm Not Ready to Make Nice" instead of Moorman's favorite tune, Van Morrison's "Brown Eyed Girl."

Burke confronted her about her alleged infidelity and dumped her in front of the raucous crowd. Moorman responded with an angry rant filled with unprintable words. Those watching surrounded the couple, their cheers and chants keeping the argument going for several minutes.

"To be honest, it wasn't really about her," Burke said. "I thought the relationship was headed that way anyway, so I just wanted to see people's reactions to the breakup."
Cold, dude, cold...
Burke, a history major, said the breakup was something of an experiment in human behavior. But he also said it was genuine — he was furious about Moorman's alleged cheating.

"It was like they were reading from a script," said James Mundia, a manager at UNC Chapel Hill's student TV station, who helped edit the online footage. "There wasn't a lot of passion for a breakup where there's a lot of raw emotion.

"But I guess that's YouTube. It didn't matter if it was real or if it was fake, everyone wanted it to be real. People wanted that entertainment."

Despite the very public breakup, Moorman and Burke said they are still on speaking terms. The Charlotte natives have known each other for years, and Moorman said they have since shared laughs remembering the incident. Burke said he has received thousands of comments and e-mails — some vulgar, some encouraging.

Moorman, a political science major who is thinking of going into politics, said she does have one regret: With her public breakup forever memorialized — and easy for friends, family and potential employers to find on the Internet — she admits, "I probably did say the f-word a little much."

"As my mother said, `Mindy, how do you expect to be elected now?'" she said.
An interesting side effect of YouTube is proving to be placing a "humorous" slant onto deep emotion. The clear message is "genuine empathy is boring". This is beyond YouTube and is also shown in other media. For example, many of the skits on NBC's "Saturday Night Live" have this very "subtle" (to me) humor where people behave normally in normal situations, but the exaggeration is intended to be over-the-top so the effect is supposed to be humorous. One recurring skit is "The Needlers" where this male-female couple constantly bicker and insult each other. The problem is that there really are large numbers of relationships which exist in this model and I personally find it painful to watch (which is why I always record SNL and blow through at least half of it). Its not that I find these skits "not funny" but I find them actually "anti-funny". Another example is that unreal radio program recently where the DJs were running this contest for some concert tickets and they made fun of this woman who drank two gallons of water and died of water intoxication. She died, and they made fun of her. IMNSHO the radio station should be bulldozed, the DJs and their entire management staff should be jailed for depraved indifference manslaughter.

But that's just me...
 
Good observation, RS. I noticed that kind of vibe in the last Super Bowl's batch of expensive advertisements. Cruelty and lack of empathy between friends and family. That was the last long bit of TV I watched. TV is getting increasingly unbearable.
 
I am sooooo in agreement with the both of you. It seems that TV is intentionally trying to get people to think that having emotions makes you a retched and pathetic human being.

It's not bad enough that those with no emotions are running the world......oh yeah, this is more than likely what they want. A world full of automatons who do as told, no questions asked. "Go kill everyone in you town" and they do it, no questions asked.

Ah, well, there you are.
 
DonaldJHunt said:
I noticed that kind of vibe in the last Super Bowl's batch of expensive advertisements. Cruelty and lack of empathy between friends and family. ... TV is getting increasingly unbearable.
I agree, the TV seems designed to get everyone ever more locked in to negative emotions. Cruelty, anxiety, fear and anger as 'entertainment', no its not funny, its encouraging viewers to feed off the negativity it seems. But maybe thats like a drug, it wears off, so slowly the 'entertainment' gets more extreme.

There's one 'comedian'/game show host here in the UK, Jimmy Carr (sp?), who's whole routine is psychopathic. With very cold/straight delivery he sets out to shock with 'jokes' and statements that anyone with an ounce of empathy would never say. And that's supposed to be the gag, he is 'funny' because he can say such things. But once you see it for what it is, its just repulsive, sadly not too many viewers are going to stop and think about what they are being hypnotized into accepting as normal.

Stick it on TV and for the viewer its not real, or you have to unconsciously switch off any empathy for these shows to be funny. Trouble is its sends you to sleep, so put the news on right after that sort of thing and thats not real either, no empathy needed, its not Palestine, Iraq, Iran, just some place inside the glass box.
 
Not to mention the slew of talk shows like Jerry Springer or Maury where people's suffering and troubles is exploited for entertainment purposes and the audience is expected to just sit back and watch it like some sporting event. What is so entertaining about watching people cry and fight and experience personal tragedies?
 
ScioAgapeOmnis said:
Not to mention the slew of talk shows like Jerry Springer or Maury where people's suffering and troubles is exploited for entertainment purposes and the audience is expected to just sit back and watch it like some sporting event. What is so entertaining about watching people cry and fight and experience personal tragedies?
The thing of it is that Springer or Maury use to be "outliers" for the bread and circus crowd. The whole phenomenon is becoming mainstream as the collective frog slowly boils.
 
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