Straycat
The Force is Strong With This One
Having grown up in a very "active" house, a lot of that sounds familiar. The best I can tell you is to just be aware of it and try to maintain a blase' mien. Intense emotion, including anxiety, can make it worse but I have been known to use an attitude of boredom and slight irritation to make it fizzle. I acknowledge it, but only respond as though it's an ill-behaved child. "Quit that, I'm busy / trying to sleep / working." I call it channeling my inner third grade teacher, and it works quite well on a variety of troublesome people and phenomena. ;)
