Source ?
(Long and detailed answer.)
About BDSM and other "deviant" sex practices, which had been for a looooong time beyond understanding for me, the most convincing "basic" explanation that I found (without really looking for it) was that of Stanislas Grof, in one of his book, in a section about the birth traumas and his theory called "basic perinatal matrices" (BPM).
So, IIRC, according to him, there are 4 phases of a "normal" childbirth :
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before the 1st contraction, in the womb, the foetus feels happy, unconditional love (and nurture) by the mother, etc. : associated with "
oceanic consciousness"... Being "in paradise" ;
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Beginning of the labo(u)r, after the 1st contraction, and before the complete opening of the neck of the womb (cervix) : the foetus feels suddenly threatened, frightened, without being able to do anything : associated with
helplessness and
depression.
Going down to hell.
2/ After the complete opening of the neck of the womb, through the vagina and before complete birth : now there is a potential way out (physically and metaphorically) : associated with
intense emotions and
combativeness. Something like a mix of the purgatory and last judgement...
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After the complete birth, the baby feels
relief (no more in hell) but in a new state of exterior connexion/separation from the mother (no more in pure paradise as in the womb). Being born (again).
NB : there may be some complications for the foetus/baby, such as being "stuck" in the womb neck/vagina, being strangled by the umbilical cord, having a heart attack due to the intense or prolongated stress, etc.
So, from the subjective PoV of the foetus/baby, birth is like :
- dying (at least to your "aquatic" and symbiotic previous state)
- going through
major stress,
pain,
fear, and other emotions (depression, anger, etc).
NB : some (or most or even all ?) foetus/babies going out of the womb through vagina feel not only pain and intense emotions, but also
sexual arousal.
And they may be, during the labo(u)r or just after, in contact with blood, urine, f(a)eces...
So for some of these children, they may associate in their memory, sexual pleasure and :
- pain
- stress and other intense emotions
- helplessness
- being tied, strangled, etc.
That would explain why some people, to find sexual pleasure, need to simulate these conditions, either as a victim (then identifying as the powerless foetus/baby)
and/or the persecutor (then identifying as the mother, and/or the people assisting/helping like MD ???).
Or why others find sexual pleasure in being covered by urine, f(a)eces, blood... (and maybe sperm ?)
That would even explain, from a pure physiological/psychological PoV (without discussing the spiritual side),
why the "satanic" / ritualistic rapers/torturers/murderers find so great pleasure and power in their sadistic acts : they "exorcize" their own (traumatic) birth...
From the PoV described supra, (and from what I've heard elsewhere) : I doubt it.
Human psychism is complex !
Are you sure ?
To change your mind about this, please listen to this part of the recent interview of Laura :
Independently of what I've described supra, they may feed the STS energetic predators...
Don't know.
Looks like there is a surge of BDSM (but I have no figures about it).
The
porn industry is probably a part of it...
But also, according to Michel Odent, a French MD living in London, UK, and one the best experts in the world of "physiologically respectful" birth, since WW2, in Occidental countries (the Netherlands being an exception) most of the women go to
hospital to give birth, and t
here they are generally highly ignorant of the natural/physiological process and do the contrary of what is required for the mother :
- staying at home or in a well-known environment ;
- being secure, not feeling stressed ;
- feeling warm, not cold ;
- no noises, dim lights, no talking, no people around -- just a "wise" older woman, in a meditative state, knitting...
- choosing by herself the most confortable posture, whatever it may be,
etc.
So due to this ignorance (and false "skillfullness"), they creates almost each time the conditions of a traumatic birth !
And as it goes generally wrong (due to their own wrong-doing), they then are able to justify their usefullness, if not necessity, by transforming childbirth, which is (and should stay, for most of the cases) a natural event*, in a medical and/or surgical event !
* Remember that, for childbirth, mothers are "female mammals" like any other ! (Sorry ladies !
We, men, are mammals too.)
So, from this PoV, if you're born in an hospital, there are chances that your birth were not "natural", fluid, and then traumatic for you, as a baby, and for your mother. And, over time, it's getting generally worse and worse (spread of epidural, episiotomy, caesarean section*, etc.), even if in some (rares) places/services it gets better and better.
* NB : according to M. Odent, caesarean section is OK if really needed and done
after the beginning of the contractions (for hormonal reasons).
To conclude, there is probably a surge in artificial/dysfunctional/traumatic births, and maybe so (proportionnally ???) in BDSM and other "deviant" sexual practices...
And it's reinforced by the porn industry, and maybe other influences (like "sex-positive" BDSM-friendly, queer things...).
There may have "influences" to keep the medical world ignorant and wrong-doing, in order to have more people traumatized at birth, and so mentally and physically "twisted", sometimes for the rest of their lives... Giving worse physical and mental healths.
So more suffering (and "feeding" for STS), more weaknesses, etc.
PS for MD, midwives, hospital staff, etc. : sorry if what I described was too much "black & white"
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Before replying, please get informed on M. Odent's work :
WombEcology.com
In the domain of childbirth, like in others, "knowledge protects".