Wunjo
Padawan Learner
I wanted to just put forth a simple experience I had regarding right use of language. My partner and I have been studying 4th way material for almost 3 years now and are working on many of the aspects using each other as mirrors. For the most part we do a really good job, when one falls asleep it has an instant awakening affect on the other, and we are able to work on things. However, we could come to a bizarre impasse that would blow my mind every time. I would look at this person I thought I knew and ask myself “Which one of us is the crazy one?”
We would enter into a discussion of some kind that seemed very logical. I would present an argument in a fashion that seemed to make sense and she would follow along, each point following the next until the end when she would disagree on the connection to the last point. It happened several times over the years, we would come to brick wall and quit instead of allowing emotions or attachments run amok. Recently we had one that I just couldn’t let go of (personality attachment), I was determined to see it through to the end, even if it saw me carted off in a straight jacket.
I started out by telling her my difficulties regarding my sense of logic in the discussion and the emotional stress it was causing to have her basically tell me something that was opposite of what I believed. She felt the same way as it appeared I had lost my mind as well. So we decided to step into each other’s shoes and explain the argument from the other person’s perspective. We did fine, everything making sense until the end when we each explained what we thought the other person was saying in our own language. We were using the same words but with different meanings. The words we were using were “Right or Wrong”. I was using them in the context of “True or False”; she was using them in the context of “Good or Bad”! It was amazing! A shock for sure.
So it was an excellent lesson in precision of language. Excellent lesson in “being right”. It occurred in a foundational element of everyday words.
Thanks for letting me share I am really interested to hear of others with a similar experience.
We would enter into a discussion of some kind that seemed very logical. I would present an argument in a fashion that seemed to make sense and she would follow along, each point following the next until the end when she would disagree on the connection to the last point. It happened several times over the years, we would come to brick wall and quit instead of allowing emotions or attachments run amok. Recently we had one that I just couldn’t let go of (personality attachment), I was determined to see it through to the end, even if it saw me carted off in a straight jacket.
I started out by telling her my difficulties regarding my sense of logic in the discussion and the emotional stress it was causing to have her basically tell me something that was opposite of what I believed. She felt the same way as it appeared I had lost my mind as well. So we decided to step into each other’s shoes and explain the argument from the other person’s perspective. We did fine, everything making sense until the end when we each explained what we thought the other person was saying in our own language. We were using the same words but with different meanings. The words we were using were “Right or Wrong”. I was using them in the context of “True or False”; she was using them in the context of “Good or Bad”! It was amazing! A shock for sure.
So it was an excellent lesson in precision of language. Excellent lesson in “being right”. It occurred in a foundational element of everyday words.
Thanks for letting me share I am really interested to hear of others with a similar experience.
