angelburst29
The Living Force
Your awareness, through victimization "is bringing forth changes" which might not have been considered on another level, especially in light of our changing social and economical structure. You may benefit two-fold by this experience, in adding additional security measures to protect your household and immediate family. The energy expended will work to your advantage. There was a time, when many never gave a second thought of locking their doors due to living in a close knit community. Times and circumstances have changed, drastically. Use the present circumstances - to your benefit.
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"I'm going to install motion sensitive CCTV. I don't want to but it's the only way of resolving the 'who' question to anybody's and everybody's satisfaction."
It may seem like an expensive alternative but it would document the activity - leaving no room for error. Plus, it's admissible in Court or before a Judge. I would expand on the idea by purchasing an additional one or two camera's to cover the outer perimeter of the house (front & back door - garage or where cars are parked). They could be added in conjunction with motion sensor floodlights. You may discover, the boyfriend is taking more than cash.
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Once my daughter has given birth (a month after or so), I shall have the 'big talk' with her and her boyfriend, explain my utter intolerance of the situation, and that if proof is found of who is doing this, I'll contact the police and relentlessly pursue this to the full extent of what's open to me .... etc."
Under the circumstances, your frustration and utter intolerance is understandable and the need for open dialog to end the thief and deception is within logical reasoning but you're dealing with someone who lacks morals and conscious awareness of his acts. He exhibits strong psychopathic tendencies and lacks moral judgment, thus, is more predispositioned to react in erratic counter-measures of vindictiveness and overt destruction of property and/or physical abuse. In what you suggest (above) in the "big talk" , in my personal opinion, is like displaying your whole deck of cards on the table - facing up. Your exposing - your whole hand to a guy who defies you - behnd your back. Indirectly, you're also accusing your Daughter, by confronting them both (at the same time). I realize your intension is to make both of them aware, at the same time, so there's no miscommunication to what you have to say. Plus, to put him "on notice" that you're aware of his game and it won't be further tolerated. In my experience, this tactic won't work, only against you. Placing "truth" in front of a psychopath, without any hard proof to back up your claim - infuriates them! In their mind - your the problem, therefore, they can do anything to you in retribution.
You need to establish proof by tangible evidence. The CCTV is an excellent option and it's best to keep your activities to yourself and your wife. When he strikes again, check the video and call the Police - let them deal with him. Hopefully, no one will bail him out and he can cool his heels behind bars for awhile. In the meantime, there's the possibility of having your daughter (and baby) move back in, leaving him with no other option than finding separate living quarters somewhere else, when he's released. If he trys to do any property damage, after the fact, the camera's outside monitor the activities and he gets more jail time.
It's amazing, how one person with psychopathic tendencies can upset the harmony of dozens of people around them, with lasting effects. Sending "Love & Light" would never reach the Mark!
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"I'm going to install motion sensitive CCTV. I don't want to but it's the only way of resolving the 'who' question to anybody's and everybody's satisfaction."
It may seem like an expensive alternative but it would document the activity - leaving no room for error. Plus, it's admissible in Court or before a Judge. I would expand on the idea by purchasing an additional one or two camera's to cover the outer perimeter of the house (front & back door - garage or where cars are parked). They could be added in conjunction with motion sensor floodlights. You may discover, the boyfriend is taking more than cash.
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Once my daughter has given birth (a month after or so), I shall have the 'big talk' with her and her boyfriend, explain my utter intolerance of the situation, and that if proof is found of who is doing this, I'll contact the police and relentlessly pursue this to the full extent of what's open to me .... etc."
Under the circumstances, your frustration and utter intolerance is understandable and the need for open dialog to end the thief and deception is within logical reasoning but you're dealing with someone who lacks morals and conscious awareness of his acts. He exhibits strong psychopathic tendencies and lacks moral judgment, thus, is more predispositioned to react in erratic counter-measures of vindictiveness and overt destruction of property and/or physical abuse. In what you suggest (above) in the "big talk" , in my personal opinion, is like displaying your whole deck of cards on the table - facing up. Your exposing - your whole hand to a guy who defies you - behnd your back. Indirectly, you're also accusing your Daughter, by confronting them both (at the same time). I realize your intension is to make both of them aware, at the same time, so there's no miscommunication to what you have to say. Plus, to put him "on notice" that you're aware of his game and it won't be further tolerated. In my experience, this tactic won't work, only against you. Placing "truth" in front of a psychopath, without any hard proof to back up your claim - infuriates them! In their mind - your the problem, therefore, they can do anything to you in retribution.
You need to establish proof by tangible evidence. The CCTV is an excellent option and it's best to keep your activities to yourself and your wife. When he strikes again, check the video and call the Police - let them deal with him. Hopefully, no one will bail him out and he can cool his heels behind bars for awhile. In the meantime, there's the possibility of having your daughter (and baby) move back in, leaving him with no other option than finding separate living quarters somewhere else, when he's released. If he trys to do any property damage, after the fact, the camera's outside monitor the activities and he gets more jail time.
It's amazing, how one person with psychopathic tendencies can upset the harmony of dozens of people around them, with lasting effects. Sending "Love & Light" would never reach the Mark!
