A Shared Journey Through Illness, Healing, and Inner Work

[Nany v]

Hello, I hope you are doing good! A few days ago, my mom passed away after a long journey with chest cancer, she has been on the forum for 10+ years. For nearly two years, my oldest sister, my mom, and I walked this path together, combining medical care with deep inner work focused on the emotional, spiritual, psychological, and physical parts.

This process was about supporting the body by understanding emotions, unresolved conflicts, stress, identity, and inner balance. It became a profound journey not only for my mom, but also for us as daughters, transforming the way that we understand illness, healing, grief, and life. Due to this, we believe that what we experienced may be helpful to others. We recognize that every path is unique so I share this with an open heart and welcome to any thoughts, questions, feedback, or personal experiences. I apologize for the length of this post, I truly appreciate your time and presence in reading it.

LEVEL 1 — MEDICAL + PHYSICAL BODY​

Understand what is truly happening in the body

This level is the foundation. The body must always be evaluated through medicine and science.

1. Medical history

• Current symptoms
• When they started
• How strong they are and how they have changed
• Personal and family medical history
• Current medications

2. Physical examination

• Observation of the body
• Palpation
• Vital signs (blood pressure, pulse, temperature, etc.)

3. Medical actions

• Ongoing medical follow-up
• Laboratory tests
• Imaging studies, such as:
  
  • Ultrasound
  • X-rays
  • CT scan
  • MRI
  • Mammogram (if applicable)
• Additional tests depending on the condition:
  
  • Hormones (thyroid, cortisol, estrogen, progesterone)
  • Tumor markers (only if a doctor indicates them)
  • Autoimmune tests
  • Endoscopy / colonoscopy
  • ECG / echocardiogram
  • Neurological tests
• Diagnostic procedures:
  
  • Biopsy
  • Aspiration
  • Tissue studies
  • Cultures
• Medical plan:
  
  • Medication
  • Surgery
  • Observation
  • Lifestyle changes

The body deserves to be cared for through science. Emotional work is done alongside this, never instead of it.

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LEVEL 2 — BIODECODING​

Releasing emotional load without blame

This level explores the inner world, not to assign fault, but to reduce emotional overload.

• Emotions do not cause illness by themselves.
• Symptoms can appear when emotions are not expressed or processed.

Purpose​

• Identify emotions that were not expressed
• Reduce emotional and mental stress
• Help the body stop carrying emotional weight alone
• Learn to name emotions
• Allow feelings without forcing solutions
• Understand that the symptom is not the enemy
• Explore what was happening emotionally before the symptom appeared

How it is explored​

• Identify the physical condition
• Look up emotional associations (biodecoding references)
• Identify related emotions
• Review life events before symptoms appeared
• Identify when the condition began

Structure​

• Affected organ
• Biological function of the organ (what it protects or supports)
• Common associated emotions:
  
  • Fear
  • Sadness
  • Suppressed anger
  • Guilt
  • Grief
  • Separation
  • Excess responsibility
• Emotional timeline:
  
  • What was happening in your life before the symptom?
  • What emotion did you feel but not express?
  • With whom?
  • What did you need to say or do?
• Meaning of the symptom from a biological-emotional perspective

Tools​

• Conscious writing
• Breathing techniques
• Visualizations
• Emotional permission
• Validation phrases

Emotional release (simplified)​

• Identify if there is a trapped emotion
• Name the emotion
• Identify when it originated (present, pregnancy, past experiences)
• Identify where it is felt in the body
• Release can be done one emotion at a time or several together
• Emotional release may bring temporary emotional ups and downs, which is normal

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EMOTIONAL AWARENESS & REGULATION​

Common emotional habits​

• Avoiding emotions
• Repressing emotions
• Trying to control emotions

Repression can look like:

• Avoiding conflict
• Not saying what you feel
• Always saying yes
• Putting others first at your own expense
• Not setting boundaries
• Overloading yourself
• Pretending to be “fine” when you are not

When emotions like fear, anger, sadness, or anxiety appear:

• The nervous system activates survival responses:
  
  • Fight
  • Flight
  • Freeze

Healthy emotional regulation​

• Allowing and feeling emotions
• Expressing them safely
• Questioning them without judgment
• Activating calm and balance (parasympathetic system)

Simple steps

• What am I feeling?
• Where do I feel it in my body?
• What do I need right now?
• What thoughts are present?
• How intense is it?
• Can I accept it and observe it without judging myself?

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LEVEL 3 — ORIGIN OF THE CONFLICT​

Where does the emotional conflict come from?

A symptom can have more than one origin, but usually one main source.

Possible origins​

• Current life experiences: loss, separation, stress, work overload, lack of boundaries
• Childhood wounds: abandonment, rejection, humiliation, injustice, lack of validation
• Family/systemic: inherited patterns, repeated illnesses, unresolved grief
• Transgenerational: emotional memories passed through generations
• Identity: not being able to be yourself or live your truth
• Guilt/self-punishment: feeling undeserving or responsible
• Past-life symbolic memory: emotions without a clear personal history
• Repetitive patterns: same situations repeating with different people

Work is done with key relationships​

• Mother
• Partner
• Child (if applicable)
• Self

For each:

• What emotion appears?
• Since when?
• What was not expressed?

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LEVEL 4 — PROGRAMS (PSYCHOLOGICAL & SYSTEMIC)​

Unconscious patterns that keep the conflict active

• How we relate in love and life
• Patterns formed by past experiences

Common programs​

• Guilt
• Sacrifice
• Control
• Family loyalty
• Childhood wounds
• Low self-worth
• Inner child patterns
• Victimhood
• Ego and personal importance
• Fear and blockages

These programs can act on different levels:

• Emotional
• Psychological
• Physical
• Material
• Spiritual / energetic

Key idea: every relationship has two sides. Growth happens when both are acknowledged.

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LEVEL 5 — LEARNING & TRANSFORMATION​

Integration and closure

• Accepting what was lived
• Taking responsibility for choices and emotions
• Learning the lesson
• Closing cycles
• Transforming emotions and beliefs
• Creating a new identity

Understanding that:

• Growth requires effort
• Learning comes through experience
• Integration brings peace

Support tools​

• Conscious writing
• Emotional validation
• Emotional release techniques
• Meditation
• Family constellations
• Questioning perceptions: Am I seeing reality or my interpretation?
• Spiritual tools (tarot, records, astrology, etc.)
• Letting go of attachments
• Balancing emotional and rational awareness

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