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Sorry to hear this Angela, it sounds like a hard time for you & your boyfriend's family. My sentiments also :hug:
 
I am sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time. Please take care to release some of your stress and hang in there. My thoughts are with you. :hug2:
 
Angela said:
We just got some bad news the other day. My boyfriend's dad just found out that he has stage 4 pancreatic cancer that has spread to his liver. He is 74 years old and up until now, he had been pretty healthy and never sick.
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A friend's father was diagnosed with the same problem and after being operated on, went on to live almost 9 more years. Chemo is a scourge.
 
Thanks everyone. Thank you for the book recommendations, I will be getting those to read for myself. Unfortunately, my boyfriend's dad isn't the least bit open to any alternative ideas regarding cancer treatment. He thinks the chemo is what should be done. After only one treatment you can already see the toll it's taking. His hair is falling out and he has a gray color to his skin.

Last night Susie, my boyfriend's sister who is in town, decided to call their sister who she hasn't been speaking to. They had a falling out awhile back. She went upstairs and made the call. We had to endure an hour or so of yelling while this phone call took place. Afterward, she was sobbing and crying. It was stressful...neither one was doing any communicating. I tried to explain to her that when things get that heated, no one hears anything. She is going to church later today, and I will be doing EE. I definitely need to relax.

Here in about an hour we are heading over to Dad's house to take the food I prepared. I can only hope it goes smoothly as she and her father have also had a falling out in the past. I care for her a lot, but tomorrow she will be heading home, and we are ready.

Thanks for listening :)

Just an added note...she isn't the only one who has all the falling outs. It's everyone of the siblings. It is quite the family dynamic. A lot of deep hurt between them all.
 
Wow, Angela. I'm sorry to hear you are being exposed to so much stress. It is unfortunate that the father is so set on chemotherapy, as it will only add more misery to an already miserable situation. If he just did "no treatment", he'd probably have a much better quality of life. And maybe, make peace with his family before the end.

It sounds like there is so much hurt and anger between the family members and instead of using this time to communicate and process these emotions from the past, they simply have chosen to continue the same old dynamics. It is sad, but very typical. If only they would think! and see the bigger picture. But some people absolutely refuse to give up their suffering.

EE is a real big help in these times. In fact, I could use a round myself about now. :hug:
 
Hi Angela. I'm late to your thread but I wanted you to know my thoughts and my hopes for everyone's well-being are with you and boyfriend's Dad.

Angela said:
Just an added note...she isn't the only one who has all the falling outs. It's everyone of the siblings. It is quite the family dynamic. A lot of deep hurt between them all.
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There is a similar dynamic within my family too, so I feel for you. :flowers:
 
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