Why does inner or outer struggle have to be violent, struggle can come through constraint, through trying to understand another.. Through awareness/knowledge and external consideration I think violence can be avoided for the most part. In my opinion, there can be no peace through war, the two are opposed, surely you can beat your opponent to submission but sooner or later, the tables will turn.
I think you misunderstood me here, I didn't say it has to be violent, probably you connected word war that I used as a term for self-work, fight against your ego, with the violence. But sometimes violence can't be avoided no matter how much you try because maybe the other side just loves violence and hurting others(there can be no peace with psychopath, you can run but not always you'll be able to escape), there's no way then use force.
I remember one quote from one Green Lantern episode I watched: "Evil" can be only fought by the only language it understands - force. I mean that in microcosmic and macro cosmic sense, and I wasn't saying that you have to attack someone, I was just talking about defending yourself, your family, community, civilization, planet, etc...
On microcosmic level you have psychopath who can't be dealt in other way then by force if they don't comply, on macro cosmic level you have STS Empires that conquer other planets. You can run, for a while, but in the end they can catch you or better to say, can you forgive yourself after that for not standing up, can you look into your soul and see the truth after that, will you run forever, will the conquerors ever stop or will they be encouraged to proceed if all are running, gonzo said it right when you think about it. Of course there you should use wisdom and if there is a chance for later success if you run know it's wise thing to do, Sun Tzu said: Those who know when to fight or when to not, will be victorious, but if there's no escape better to die defending then running,. If STO doesn't stand and fight there wouldn't be balance.
But I think that they aren't attacked if they have collective mind, collective consciousness because RA said that "Crusaders" attack those civilizations that are less developed and don't have strict polarity, through divide they conquer, so the STO don't probably fight so often to defend themselves, only to help those of lesser polarity. Predatory behavior in action here - attacking the weakest link. And they probably seen themselves like spreading light, knowledge, etc... like did Romans and Brits in our history. Imagine that you live in Gallia(today's France) in 58 BC(if we take that date as accurate), you're a one member of free Gaul tribe, and there are Romans with Julius Cesar(probable psychopath) coming, they are well trained, well equipped, not so small in number. You know if they conquer your land they will kill all the old ones, that is your relatives, rape your wife and kill her in the end, and make your children in little Romans, or make them slaves. Would you fight? Know that escaping was not an option, not so much because they didn't have to go nowhere but because it was the matter of honor for them. Here is a short video about "Barbarian" perspective that is different from history books that favor roman perspective: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkONsBxHQbA&feature=related
I always admired great warriors through history that stood their ground for freedom and were ready to give their lives.
When does violence stop? Who determines when it stops? My point is, if you become violent upon another, you don't know what you are releasing, a victory here might unleash a great loss somewhere else, maybe a great distance in the future, or in another aspect that is immediately veiled from you.
Both sides determine when it stops, either by subduing one side or by mutual agreement, which cannot be trusted. Like you said victory here, loss there - it's all about a balance which is achieved in that way. But remember that I'm talking here about STO vs.STS not STS vs.STS, because that's only fight for power. Don't forget Jing-Jang symbol, in good there is little evil which is used for the greater good. I don't want to kill no body but let I ask what if you go to 4D what you'll gone do there to those lizzies and others ,and they won't really be nice when you got there?
There is a lot of darkness on this planet, but there is also some beauty to be found, perhaps in your family, the trees, the sunny day, the lessons you learn or something else. If you focus too much on the darkness, you might forget the beauty in life, and maybe those around you who care a lot about you.
It's hard for most people to think about beauty when life has kicked them in the face many times, but I agree that it's good to have in mind that there's a balance and that there's good somewhere, if you got obsessed you could become that what you fight against. It's good to have bigger picture always on mind.
I also know how difficult it can be to be the target in the family. Like Laura said, you have the perfect family to learn self mastery. Try to find a way to deepen your love for them while becoming impervious to whatever attacks come your way. This is no different that the reality of the world beyond your family's doorstep. We are charged with seeing the spark of divine creation in every human. We are asked to reflect creation's love of us to all of creation. This is part of life's work and you have a lifetime to master it.
Yes, in the end it's not them, it's their ego, maybe having in mind respect for highest in the people, not lowest, even when lowest is what they do.
I also find it hard to celebrate with people who are so deeply asleep.
Me to.