luke wilson
The Living Force
Maybe the problem is 'meaning' and 'validation'. I'll confess I don't know much about the person in question, blavatsky, so cant talk on the basis of content.
Arpaxad, clearly the person means something to you. They must do otherwise you wouldn't bring them up this much, so much that some people think you are a marketer! It's obviously not a nice feeling when you are met with invalidation, whether warranted or not. It immediately makes you feel 'bad'. And maybe, more than that, it challenges the position this person has in your mind. The place they have come to occupy and your relationship with that. This position and your relationship to it could also somehow affect how you live, see the world, communicate with people etc. So essentially, when something so primary is challenged, it's more than just an idea that is being questioned, it could be much more, way more than what is in the immediate view of the person acting as the 'agent of delivery'. To cut it short, my contribution is to say that on the basis of actual content, you can explore your field and communicate with other people to learn more about the subject matter in question.
On the question of meaning and attachment, maybe you don't have to abandon your fascination/fixation with the person in question. I don't know what they mean to you and its highly unlikely other people do either. It may therefore come across as violent when people act towards you in a way that looks like they are seeking to strip meaning away from your identity. But, this is not what's happening, they are just talking content. Instead, if you want to engage with others in a constructive way, maybe you can have 2 positions, on 1 you can still have this 'meaning' and on the other you can explore the content others are directing you towards. Maybe humility can help here, instead of seeing yourself as primarily the teacher, here to disseminate what you've learnt, maybe you can take a position of student, here to learn something new, to add extra to your identity. Its a matter of playing with what position you occupy and you don't have to suffer from the effects of invalidation!
Anyways, I hope that helps!
Arpaxad, clearly the person means something to you. They must do otherwise you wouldn't bring them up this much, so much that some people think you are a marketer! It's obviously not a nice feeling when you are met with invalidation, whether warranted or not. It immediately makes you feel 'bad'. And maybe, more than that, it challenges the position this person has in your mind. The place they have come to occupy and your relationship with that. This position and your relationship to it could also somehow affect how you live, see the world, communicate with people etc. So essentially, when something so primary is challenged, it's more than just an idea that is being questioned, it could be much more, way more than what is in the immediate view of the person acting as the 'agent of delivery'. To cut it short, my contribution is to say that on the basis of actual content, you can explore your field and communicate with other people to learn more about the subject matter in question.
On the question of meaning and attachment, maybe you don't have to abandon your fascination/fixation with the person in question. I don't know what they mean to you and its highly unlikely other people do either. It may therefore come across as violent when people act towards you in a way that looks like they are seeking to strip meaning away from your identity. But, this is not what's happening, they are just talking content. Instead, if you want to engage with others in a constructive way, maybe you can have 2 positions, on 1 you can still have this 'meaning' and on the other you can explore the content others are directing you towards. Maybe humility can help here, instead of seeing yourself as primarily the teacher, here to disseminate what you've learnt, maybe you can take a position of student, here to learn something new, to add extra to your identity. Its a matter of playing with what position you occupy and you don't have to suffer from the effects of invalidation!
Anyways, I hope that helps!
