Sincere condolences to you both, Mr Premise and Seeking Spirals.
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As SAO has pointed out, and I would guess that many of us have been thinking about but perhaps not stating, there will be many people close to all of us who will be "checking out" rather than face what is surely going to be a traumatic future:- How can it not be?
So we could each and every one of us be losing friends, family, colleagues, however close or distant, each and every one of them will to those of us that are left behind to be a gut wrenchingly painful loss (like having the floor taken away from beneath you), yet also one must acknowledge that for those individuals in question it may well be a blessing. If they are truly and totally asleep the trauma of the future (I have given these future scenarios a fair old amount of wondering) could be absolutely mind and soul destroying. The dream may end in one fell swoop, and there will be no time to make any sense of the mayhem...
During some very dark times for me at the end of last year when I was ranting psychotically at myself (and against myself) for my own failures, I remember hearing a voice late one night asking me if I wanted to check out. I said no, but not out of any emboldened spirit at the time, and I would be a liar if I said I had the spirit of a warrior now. No, the reason why I said no is because I was afraid of death, and of karma. I chose to plough on and slowly my life has gradually improved. By getting clean and most importantly by coming clean, to all I have been hiding from, most notably myself.
I am now ready to actually think about my own mortality, because I have already had the bejeezus scared out of me from an EE experience that suggested that some terrible traumas were coming on the way. They were vague but I got the gist of what the future tragedies could be like.
Just as church and the notion of "Heaven" was once a source of great comfort to me as a child, I can now see and understand that that comfort has now been transplanted to the concept of Fifth density. For many of us it may actually be heaven. DCM knows we've all suffered.
SAO said:
But without a will, without ability to consciously stay on course, there is no hope. So the first step must be getting rid of anything that keeps us mechanical and unable to choose to actualize our destiny - emotionally (EE), physically (diet, sleep, etc), and psychologically (ponerology, the Work). At the same time, we must practice honing our will by "making" ourselves do what we don't want to do, one little step at a time. Doing EE consistently could be a good exercise for that.
This is tremendous advice, and I understand it, yet I also understand that it is all too easy to understand and then fail to apply, day in, day out, until one has the magnetised iron will. The retraining of the will is the most important aspect of the growing pains, and to not collapse into hopelessness when resistance proves to be stronger than we imagined..