Domestic violence at my neighbors.

[Nancy2feathers]

I'd be leery of calling the cops for anything these days based on all the reports we've been reading about how they are so trigger happy. It seems that they only make things worse.

I was thinking the same thing. Cops are more trouble than they are worth and if they're called the situation could get really ugly. Add on to it the fact that they would be called to a situation involving gay men and things could really go south. I know I don't need to say this, but the majority of cops are jerks. If a cop came to your building who was only a jerk and not a psychopathic nutjob, you should consider yourself lucky.

However, if things got super violent -- as in you seriously feared for your friends life -- then calling the cops would be warranted. But this seems like a situation that could be handled by friends and family, if willing.

Last summer a neighbor two doors down had a BBQ that got out of hand and turned into a teenaged girl group brawl. There was a lot of screaming, cursing threats and hairweaves being ripped out. One girl was brandishing a baseball bat but never hit anyone. Adults were watching the situation and eventually, it dispersed. No one called the cops. It could've turned into a disaster if they showed up.

My 1st thought was having the protection of the police there if things got out of hand, but you are all so right. Things aren`t what they used to be. Police aren`t what they used to be. It could be MORE dangerous having them there! Sorry Puck, for the bad advice after thinking more about it and reading other`s post.

 

[Cyre2067]

So thankfully this guy is on a bus back to Virginia and has become someone elses problem. Hopefully my neighbor learned a lesson and won't have to relearn it again...

Of course now that that drama passed more drama has erupted, this time amongst my roommates. I could write a whole long post about it, but at this point I'm an old hat at this, and wouldn't waste the network's resources on it. Basically my best friend is a parasite, mostly financial, and I have to discreetly excise him from my life over the next few weeks. Not the first time I've had to deal with a trouble roommate, though it is the first and only time it'll have been a long-term friend. It's a shame it didn't work out, but I sorta knew this possibility was in the cards and more or less allowed it to happen as a test, for myself, as well as him.

 

[Gwenllian]

So thankfully this guy is on a bus back to Virginia and has become someone elses problem. Hopefully my neighbor learned a lesson and won't have to relearn it again...

Well, I hope that this guy stays in Virginia. Your neighbour must feel some relief, I would think, but if he doesn't ponder this lesson (as I omitted to do on many occasions) I am afraid he will have to relearn it.

Of course now that that drama passed more drama has erupted, this time amongst my roommates. I could write a whole long post about it, but at this point I'm an old hat at this, and wouldn't waste the network's resources on it. Basically my best friend is a parasite, mostly financial, and I have to discreetly excise him from my life over the next few weeks. Not the first time I've had to deal with a trouble roommate, though it is the first and only time it'll have been a long-term friend. It's a shame it didn't work out, but I sorta knew this possibility was in the cards and more or less allowed it to happen as a test, for myself, as well as him.

I had to learn this lesson as well. Although people warned me about this friend who wasn't a friend I continued asking her for advice. Almost every time I followed her advice things turned out badly. I did have that thought in the back of my head, warning me that she could be a portal of attack. That is why when things became really hairy some time ago I didn't follow her advice and rang a real friend instead, which turned out to be very beneficial. Still, I couldn't stay away from her in a way, until last year when I became so fed up with this situation (which was my own responsibility of course) that I cut the cord, so to speak. Since then things have improved tremendously. She continues to call me occasionally and will ask for my help, which I am happy to give. Come to think of it, I don't feel so drained anymore after our phone conversations now.

 

[baxterdavid]

I have almost a similar issue with my neighbors, only they have young children, so the situation is ten times worse. I call the cops every time that I can hear things getting violent--if I can hear it, then so can the other 4 or 5 houses nearby. I'm not so worried about them telling the cops I'm doing it to cause a problem. Perhaps you could record the noises you hear, and keep the files as evidence.

 

[davey72]

As it has already been said here calling the cops these days may not be the best thing to do.